Can this relationship survive?

Question

I work full time 12 hours on day shift 3 days a week.He works 12 hours at nite 6 days a week and drives 85 miles to work each way. We never see each other except on Sunday afternoons or Mondays before he drives back to work. He works and works. He says he is going to start taking Fridays off to go to his kids football games.
I dont want to dump out on him, but I am getting lonely. Should I just forget this whole thing? I am beginning to feel like he doesn't care about me.

Answer 1

Try it a little while longer and see what happens ... but most of all tell him how you feel!!!! he doesnt know unless you tell him.. if you really love him or care for him stick with it .. you can climb over any obstacle!!
Good Luck

Answer 2

Is there any way that he could possibly change jobs and be in the same town you live in? Just tell him in a sweet way, Honey, I really need to talk to you. Tell him how you are feeling. About you being so lonely and you want him to be there to love him every single day. Tell him how much you miss him and need him. See what all his responses is and you will be able to tell alot. If he can't get a job where you live, could ya'll afford for him to take 2 days off in a row every week? That still wouldn't be enough time for you two to spend together to me though. Have a talk with him. His reactions will tell you whether to stick it out or find someone else that truly cares about you and will love you the way you deserve to be loved. Good luck and I will be thinking of you alot.

Answer 3

i believe that as long as the the parties concerned are determined to work on a relationship, things will work out. what matters most is the effort. if there is only one person making the effort of working things out, then it would never work.

talk things over with him. if you are feeling that way, maybe he's also feeling that way too. just waiting which one will bring it up first.

but if he thinks that everything is working out just fine, that could be clue enough that he is not looking into a long term thing with you.

remember, us humans are built to go after the things we want come hell or high water if we want it enough. we always look for ways to satisfy our desires no matter how foolish.

Answer 4

Well, you guys seem too busy with other commitments for a relationship, but you can definitely make it work if you both put in a little effort. If you want the relationship to work, you guys should give up a little. You need to find some time for yourselves, otherwise the relationship is going nowhere.

Answer 5

I am in the exact same boat, it is not that he doesn't care about you it is just that he wants a better life for the two of you and the only way he knows how to do it is by making more money. He is trying to make you happy but you should communicate to him that you would prefer his time over his money

Answer 6

you didnt say whether you are married or not. ifnot my advice is to way the prros and cons on a sheet of paper. and you will know your answer. i got involved in a long distant relationship didnt last no time. she didnt want to move . she had family i had the same . so we parted as friends and we still are. just not together .

Answer 7

relationships whear the 2 ppl never can spend time togather usually doesnt work out. kids, work, time never spent togather, emotions start wondering, eventually things gets out of hand. take time to make time or forget it. that simple... good luck tho!!

Answer 8

give him the option either cut down on wok or face the facts of him living with out you
good luck

Answer 9

Long distance relationships are doomed to failure well more than half the time. Plus you have other challenges.

I'd move on.

Answer 10

Unless you fix the schedule, it won't work sorry.

Better talk about it now, or redefine the relationship.