Should I buy the ticket?

Question

I'm 19 going onto 20 and she is 17 going onto 18. I want to see my girlfriend in Texas. I was supposed to leave yesterday on a bus to see her today, but I didn't go. Many reason why. My mom doesn't want me to go and if I go, she threatens to never let me come back and that I can't have the furnature to move out with that she said I can have. Practically disown me. I want to see her... it's a very complicated situation... I can't explain it all. Basically if I go I have no home to come back to. But her parents offered that I can live there and help me and her to start up our lives together. I'm in college and she is home schooled. Ask more questions and I'll add more detail.

Answer 1

Well, at age 20, I don't think it's a wise thing to be getting married if that's what you're hinting at. Wait until you and her graduate college, then I believe at that time, both of you will be able to think this through more carefully. At that time, I think that you are working and will be able to afford your own house. Getting married before 25 is not a good thing. Your marriage will not last. Trust me.

Answer 2

There's no reason why you have to rush into this. You are in college. Good. Stay in college. It's an investment in your future. She is homeschooled and should go to college. Maybe you can go to a place that is close to eachother.

Your Mom is overreacting, but you really are too young to get so
serious. I think you should have a talk with your mom and your
girlfriend. Tell her what's up.

If you don't continue with school and move in with her and she
doesn't go to school, I feel you'll be very young parents who have less to offer your kids than you wish.

If you really think you love her and vice versa, then she will simply understand that you are staying in school for the both of you and-- don't get married before you graduate from college.
Stay on birthcontrol and work hard.

Wouln't it be that much sweeter if you held off on any kind of
marriage or starting a family until you are ready and financially
able to handle them?

Good luck. Don't buy the ticket if it's going to tick off your Mom.
She knows you through and through and probably knows what's
best. Give her a big hug and talk. I'm sure she really loves you and you're lucky for that.

Answer 3

Dude, it's like they say, don't mess with Texas. Leave it alone, there's more fish in the sea. I know you might love this girl or whatever you want to call it, but seriously, no girl is worth losing a family connection over. My mother said the same thing to me once, "if you go to wisconsin this weekend, don't come back". I didn't take her seriously, but when i came back from Wisconsin she had changed all the locks on the doors, even the code to open the garage door. I'm still fighting her in court for the rest of my possessions and that was four years ago. So if you really think the juice is worth the squeeze, and that your family doesn't matter, and that you'll be ok with being the homeless bum living in your gf's basement with her family, then hey i say go for it. But your in college? so your going to screw that up to see a girl too? Think about it man its the rest of your life, what if she breaks up with you in a month? pause for reflection.....................got it, you just got fist****** for the rest of your life because you thought she loved you

Answer 4

This might should extreamly cheesy but follow your heart. I just think your mom doesn;t want you to leave becuase she might think you won't ever come back. So she's trying to bluff and take away the home that you might never come back too.

Anyway if you really love your girlfriend and you have a chance to start your life with her then go for it. Only you can decide what your future holds.

Answer 5

k so, you should be smart about this. if youre in college, then more than likely you live away from home. if you dont disregard this answer. if you do, then one weekend when you're "at school" go freakin see her! skip a friday or a monday, those classes are three times a week anyway, hah. if its true love then you guys can make it work for at least another year, yeah? she's gonna graduate and wants to go to school where? love always perseveres, soo neither of you give up and yall will be fine!

Answer 6

Do you go to college in the state where you live? Is there one particular reason that you can explain why your mom is so against your relationship with this girl? How long have you been with your girlfriend? And for Julia, I just have to say, I met my husband when I was 18, married him when I just turned 21, and he and I have been married 13 yrs:)

Answer 7

Have you ever met this girl? Did you meet her only overthe net? You are very young and so is she. Although I think that you are old enough to make up your own mind, you should also respect your Mom and her thoughts. Maybe the 2 of you should sit down and talk about why she feels the way that she does and you can communicate your feeling also.
Take your time in making a decision. You have plenty of time for growing up later.

Answer 8

Time to grow up ! Cut the apern strings. If moma tells you what to do all your life , you will never be happy. So why are you even asking. Get your self on the buss , and when you get there get a job.

Answer 9

well, think about it.... is this chick worth diswning your own mother? personally, my chick is worth, but im not in that position, so...... and thats not to be rude to your mom, but sometimes you just have to do what you fel is right, ya kno? and, if it is, then is leaving college worth it? or, would you still be going to college? if you could still go to college, and instead of having your mom you would be having help from your gf's parents, i would say go for it if your heart says to... cause, youd be the happiest that way.... and, if you cant continue to go to that college, think about whether or not its worth it.... and also, you might think about transfering, which is possible i believe.... so.... ultimately, i would say go for it... but thats if i was in your shoes.

and about the no home thing.... well, just think about it... you wouldnt have a home to go back to.... but only for a few years or something.... cause, you would make your own home, and your own family when your ready, and then that would be where you went home to after work... to your family that you made...... to me, thats worth it.

Answer 10

Buy the ticket. Parents forgive