help!!! should i dump him? im sooooooo confused!?

Question

so my bf and i have been going out fot 6 months and when he asked me out i could hear his best friend telling him to ask me out... he said he liked me but the year before he said he wouldnt date me cuz i was too fat or too wierd...(not to my face) i havent seen him since he got back from vacation and he wont come over without a friend... we havent hugged or kissed or nethhing except during truth or dare when his friend addison(the one who got us together) tried to get us closer together... then his friend dakota said he asked hayden(my bf) if he really liked me and he said(this is what i heard from dakota)"i guess" i relly like him... maybe even love him(and dont tell me i dont know what love is yet cuz i no i love him!) dakota also said hayden(my bf) called me a slut... im just so confused i think dakota likes me(he is over here like everyday) so i dont no if he is lying or what and i dont know what to beleive...
HELP!!!!!!
~♥~Ashley~♥~

okay ummm first of all im 12 second of all i still wanna be friends with him and thirdly i like him because he sticks up for me... talks to me like hes a human bieng(he is seriously a ball of energy and he talks to me like he is a human bieng and not some spazzed out kid and he is always making me laugh he is a srious sweetheart and i dont no if i should dump him just because of rumors...

ok i keep forgeting things... umm he is constantly getting harrassed by his friends they tell him he needs to hug me or kiss me and they bug him about it ...im his first girfriend and his bro found out we were going out so he is bugging him too... so every time i try to talk to him he changes the subject(i think its because he doesnt want me bugging him) at first the no signs of affection thing didnt really bother me but now im starting to wonder.. my brain is telling me to leave him but my heart is telling me to stay with him and things will work out... i just dont wanna lose him as a friend if we do break up...

Answer 1

This seems so juvenile to me because I am grown but I know it seems short of life or death to you. Sweety just give him space. Be his friend and encourage him to make his own choices and don't get frustrated when things don't go your way. Boys will be boys and you are all going through things such as puberty, peer pressure and mental/emotional development. There are a lot of things that you are not yet aware of and if this is so then just think of the things he is not yet aware of. Time time time. patience patience patience. Acceptance acceptance acceptance. You are all experiencing what we call "growing pains". Good luck and I hope this helps.

Answer 2

Sorry but 2 me sounds like he is doing this dating thing on a bet or dare. Any guy who has not kissed or hugged me in 6 months of so called dating ,well there is just something wrong with that picture.Do u ever go out where other friends or people see u both to_gether? As for him calling u names he sounds like a real drip. Every 1 has some 1 out there for them , and u need 2 dump him for a real man.

Answer 3

Won't you ever have a chance to talk to him alone? When he comes over with his friend, ask his friend politely to leave you two for a while because you want to have a word with him alone. Ask your bf about your questions in your mind. Tell him honestly that you are confused whether he really loves you or not. Don't take Dakota's words (but I don'' say he is a liar). What I just advise you to do is believe in what you will hear from your bf's mouth and not from others. At least, when you talk to him face to face, you can tell whether he lies through his eyes. Always remember that the eyes are the windows to the man's soul and heart.

Don't be disheartened though when you finally realize that he doesn't love you that much, You should try to accept gracefully that sometimes, we love so much but don't get love in return.
Having realized it, you may separate ways with him to your advantage. Why break your heart for someone who doesn't love you the way you thought he loved you? Just hope and believe in your heart that somehow, someday, Destiny will show you the way towards finding the right person for you. Let Destiny do its share in leading that man to your path.

Answer 4

i think you should talk to him. talking is always the best thing to do. ask him what he feel about you and why he wont com eover a lone. you shouldnt feel like that and you should get all of your feelings out in the open tell him exactly what u are feeling and you never know maybe something really good can come out of it and maybe you will realize whether he loves you or not. Dont just break up with him on instinct really talk and if he doesnt want to talk or if he seems wierd or you dont feel that when or if he tells you how he feels hes not sincere then break it off i know it will be hard but the longer you stay with him and the more you fall in love with him the less and the worse it will be if you do break up with him.

Answer 5

One of the things that stands out from your question is that you are acting on a lot of "second hand" information. Most of your story consists of things you heard from other people that he said. Why don't you just talk directly to him and see how that goes? Of course people are not always 100% honest face to face but you can't try to run your relationship via the gossip grapevine either.

Ask him what his deal is, ask him if he is committed to you, ask him what he's looking for in the future, and see what he says. You're wasting way too much time fretting over what you have heard through other people.

Here's a clue: if you can't communicate directly about what's going on between you then you are doomed and yes, you should leave. But at least try, first.

Answer 6

dakota could just be saying all that because he does like you.. .just keep lookin for clues.. .Also see if you bf is still interested in you b/c the way he actin he couldve messed up on you while on vacation and he may not still be interested in you and messed round with another girl or somethin,, your a smart girl an you know whats up... But dont let no one tell you you dont know what love is .. it doesnt go with an age thang.. t(llike when u get 21 you know what love is .. love has no age requirement..its just how you judge that love and how you take on the responsibility of lovin that person.. but be careful who you say that tooo.
good luck babii gurl..

Answer 7

If you really think that you shouldn't be with him, then you should get out of the relationship. This kind of 'love' is not healthy for you. If its hurting you, then it's not healthy. I've been in pretty much the same situation, and if there's no physical contact except in a dare, then its pretty pointless to be in it.
I'd have to say that you should dump the guy. There are better relationships you can be in.

Answer 8

I think that maybe you should think about why you like this guy so much. Is there anything that you know about him that makes him so interesting? Maybe you think he's good looking, but it doesn't sound like you really even know him at all. (most of the things you know about him you know because his friends told you) Usually when I was dating and was thinking if what I should do about someone I would tell myself the story of our relationship and think if I were a friend of mine what would I say. That's usually a good way to tell if you should stay or go.

Answer 9

i think that u should dump him....if he really cared for u he would never have called you fat. If he won't come over without someone, then he really don't want to be alone with you. You deserve better that that. I tell my 13yr daughter to be herself and not care what other people say (like in boys) I know that u really care bout him, but he is only gonna hurt u more if u stay with him. Always remember to be yourself and that at this age boys change girlfriends like they do underware

Answer 10

well dont take anything from anyone EVER. before you make a decision, ask him first. and since you say you love him, i guess you'll be able to tell if he's saying the truth. but i think he likes you. no guy would stay w/ a girl that he hasnt hugged or kissed for so long. =)
**sounds kinda like me! lol