even after 20 years she still does not believe me . I am afraid to leave my 5 year old daughter with my mother when i go back to work. I will have my daughter in school most of the day, but mother will be picking her up and taking her home until i get back from work. I'm afraid my uncle might stop by to visit my mother and my daughter will be there and he rub my daughter too!...please help......I can't go back to work worrying about my daughter. She defends her brother tooth and nail. I told her i don't want my daughter around my uncle.she is the only babysitter i have, plus i trust my mom and love my mom.It's just my uncle i don't trust. I even told her there was a lady with 2 small daughters and she complained about my uncle too..SHE DOES NOT BELIEVE ME!!!!!
2006-08-09 16:42:11 · 13 answers · asked by gengen 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I am not sure why your mother won't believe you. I think the best thing to do would be to let her know that you know she does not believe you. Tell her that is her option. But ask her to do you one favor and not leave your uncle with your daughter. Hopefully she will respect your wishes. You can be sure she loves your daughter very much and will not take that risk.
Does your uncle stop by that often? I know you don't want to take a chance with your daughter but I bet you will be able to trust your mom on this. If for some reason you are still not comfortable, I am afraid you will have to make other arrangements for your little girl.
Good luck, I know how hard it is when no one will believe you.
2006-08-15 05:29:37 · answer #1 · answered by Patti C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok what you need to do know your an adult is go and see a lawyer. sometimes they do old case's like this as you were to young at the time and was unable to convince your mother of this. As much as you trust your mother with your daughter but you can not trust your uncle. you will have to either not go back to work until you can find another baby sitter. Or tell your mom never never leave your uncle and your child alone together. I really don't know what more can be done. Sorry
2006-08-09 23:51:37 · answer #2 · answered by Mrs Magoo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't have to convince your mother about that. And if you feel like you don't want to leave your kid with her, then you shouldn't.
If there is even a remote chance that she'll have your kid around your uncle, then you need to do something different. YOU need to protect your daughter even if that means doing whatever you have to do to have someone watch her that will take the same procautions you will. Your daughter is depending on YOU to protect her, so if your fear is real, DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT.
2006-08-10 00:14:14 · answer #3 · answered by Say it like it is 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Warn your daughter, and send her to a babysitter that is not at your house, or a daycare. Warn the babysitter about your uncle and give her a picture so she will recognize him. If you choose the second option, tell the daycare that you are the only one who will pick up your daughter from daycare, and not to let anyone else pick her up unless you call and tell them. I hope this works out!
2006-08-10 00:05:00 · answer #4 · answered by pseudonym 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to face the fact that you will NEVER be able to convince mom that your uncle did this to you..........So sad.........Please DO NOT subject your child to even a hint of that crap happening, there are people out there who will watch her for a minimal fee and she'll be safe and happy.........Have your mother watch your child at your house......That way if Uncle Molester comes over, you'll be the first one to hear about it.....And TELL YOUR DAUGHTER about him.......Take care.......
2006-08-09 23:58:22 · answer #5 · answered by mizzzzthang 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your daughter needs to go to an actual day care, do not be afraid to offend your mother, it is her who does not believe you, her own daughter, do not let you daughter possibly be in danger for the sake of your mother.
And brandy are you some sort of a moron, an after school program? some sort of club? the child is 5 years old.
2006-08-10 19:32:56 · answer #6 · answered by thelogicalferret 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find someone else to watch your child when you can't. And if your mother doesn't like it, tough...just tell her why you won't allow it...that it isn't her, but you worry about your uncle and the fact that she does not believe you.
2006-08-09 23:57:02 · answer #7 · answered by Indigo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try to put ur daughter in a after school program or in some club that she would enjoy.
i hope everything works fine for u.
2006-08-10 11:21:40 · answer #8 · answered by brandy538 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't know if you try-ed this already but if u didn't try telling your mom when your uncle is there and tell your uncle to deny it maybe by the way he reacts your mom will know!!!!! it happened to me!!!! sorry that it happened to you 2 its the worst feeling ever ... hope your mom believes u bye...
2006-08-09 23:54:02 · answer #9 · answered by mirelle v 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Put a restraining order against him not to come close to your family.. Tell your daugther never to talk to him or come close to him.. if he comes to run or stay close to her grandmom the whole time.. Good Luck I feel your pain it happen to me... This is why I do not trust anybody...
2006-08-09 23:49:26 · answer #10 · answered by Kelly,TX 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋