My nephew has had a rough life. He found his step-father dead when he was two.His father died 3 months after that. 6 months ago he found his mother(my sister) dead on my fathers couch(all of these deaths due to drugs) He has lived with my dad since he was 4,but my sister lived there also for part of the time. 2 days before she died they played candyland and ate spaghetti together. He never cried about her death.The only time he really talks about her is when he is reinacting finding her dead. He doesn't act any dif. then before she died,but I still think he needs some help. My dad thinks therapy may do him more harm then good.He doesn't think it ever helps anyone. I welcome any advice or any personal experience in this sort of situation.
2006-08-09 16:42:00 · 9 answers · asked by bridget36 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I think it would be good. I took my 5 year old to therapy because she told me one of her cousins touched her the wrong way. It really helped her to understand it all and she has been able to move on without major trauma. Make sure it's a person he can relate to and someone with experience with this kind of situation. You can interview therapists before hand, have a conversation with them and access if the therapist would be good for your nephew's case.
Just so you know what happens in therapy, the first few sessions are just to build trust between the child and the therapist, he/she will bring out toys, crayons, paper, stuff to make him play, ask him about the stuff he likes to do, about school and stuff. I told my daughter that she was going to a talking doctor, that she would talk to the doctor and tell her whatever she wanted and she would also get to play. She loved it, and we continued the sessions until she said: "Mommy, I don't think I want to come here no more, I ran out of things to say" and the therapist agreed she didn't need to come no more.
Give it a try, but make sure it's covered by insurance because the therapist will want to see the kid once a week! and if you are paying for it it's going to hurt your budget. If you don't have insurance, talk to a school counselor and see if they can help for free.
2006-08-09 16:55:53 · answer #1 · answered by munich13 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make sure his has a childhood now! He has been thru more than alot of adults at his tender young age! Another victim of reckless selfish behaviour....you can change this and you have to! Adults with two good eyes that still cant see I dont get that! We should petition to start a program....FREE STERILIZATION! for anyone that cant even care for themselves..let alone be responsible for a life totally dependant on them! Good luck to you and your father.....who knows...with your efforts he could be an amazing man...scientist, doctor, counselor..we are our brothers keepers.....whether we like it or not!!!! Do the right thing and you will be rewarded!
2006-08-10 08:33:25 · answer #2 · answered by Heard It All 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he should get some therapy because even though he's not showing any signs of being affected now, problems can show up later. In any case, therapy wouldn't hurt him either way. I would seek counseling for him just to be on the safe side. Good luck.
2006-08-10 14:25:07 · answer #3 · answered by latingirl0527 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know if you need a therapist, but someone to talk to. I had some friends who had their parents die when they were younger, and honestly these weren't straight A students, or even students that were any good at all at school, and they did have some problems. Not that having a parent die was the only reason, but when they did talk about it with me, I knew it still hurt them inside. Maybe a school gudiance counselor could help. It wouldn't hurt to try.
2006-08-09 23:48:46 · answer #4 · answered by Dana 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it wouldn't hurt to have him meet a few times with a therapist that deals with children, especially one that can deal with kids that have lost so much. If anything he may end up with abandonment issues, and conscious or unconscious feelings like just anything or anyone will eventually leave him...in the long run it could affect his ability to form close friendships and connections with people out of protection of himself in case they leave him.
2006-08-10 00:02:02 · answer #5 · answered by Indigo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At this age he will not exhibit any negative symptoms, but these images are ingrained in his mind, sooner or later they will surface and he will act out and you are going to need therapy for him. I suggest You speak to a true specialist and find out what really should be done, I really think he needs to understand what has happened, and that death isn't ok because no one mourned around him.
2006-08-09 23:53:10 · answer #6 · answered by aniMALuVA 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes,he needs help ! He will be the next one you find dead and I know you don't want that.But if someone doesn't explain(The why )to him,death will repeat it self with him.Help him regardless of what someone thinks! You could be saving his life!!He needs to know that their life style is what killed them and he can have a better life.
2006-08-09 23:46:07 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it will help him heal old wounds and let out his emotions. Might as well get help now rather wait and he might suffer at an older age....
2006-08-09 23:49:40 · answer #8 · answered by samdrian 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he has had a bad life, try telling him that you love him every day
2006-08-09 23:50:19 · answer #9 · answered by Aaron 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋