I got back with my ex recently. We were together for a long time before we broke up. We got back after about 5 months of being separated. Both of us had other "hook-ups" while we were apart. I can't seem to get over it. Thinking about it makes me depressed, but i always pursue it feeling like if i know every detail it will make it better. She is open and answers any questions i have. How can i make this stop bothering me? I Love Her...
2006-08-09 16:29:48 · 29 answers · asked by Kevin H 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
DO YA LOVE YOUR X THEN MOVE ON AFTER ALL YA MOVED BACK
2006-08-09 16:33:00 · answer #1 · answered by Penney S 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I lost the love of my life by not getting over what happened in between. Forget the details it's like looking at a traffic accident, you feel compelled, but regret it when you do. If you two really care for each other and were good for a long time, do not blow it. How many people can not last six months together. Everything you are going through is normal, but rise above. I would give almost anything to go back and do the same. These days, probably more than ever , it is hard to find a mate, don't take it for granted and live in regret like I am doing so many years later, and still can't find anyone I can be with more than a year. My ex and I were together for five years, and since, I have had almost 16 years of trying to meet someone who I could love like him.
2006-08-09 23:41:34 · answer #2 · answered by crct2004 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Moving beyond this is going to take some time. On the other hand, you may not be able to put the past behind you. I don't think you can make it stop bothering you. It has to run its course. On the plus side, she is willing to be open with you and answer your questions. Give yourself some time and see how it goes. I understand how difficult it is for you to deal with the fact that she was intimate with other men. But she is with you now, so evidently, those encounters couldn't have been very meaningful.
2006-08-09 23:47:31 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop asking questions!!! don't worry about it you both hooked up with other people but the main point is she came back to you, because she loves you!!! I am sure she would not have done it if you were not on a break!!! just be happy together with the present and not the past!! (be happy she is there with you now)
2006-08-09 23:34:13 · answer #4 · answered by brenda4ever 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to be able to forgive, put the past behind you and move on to a great future. Everyone makes mistakes and some things are better left unsaid. Try not to think about it and enjoy the love now. Good luck. It will get easier with time.. You dwell too much on it now it will effect your relationship.
2006-08-09 23:34:24 · answer #5 · answered by housewives5 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just remember you also were with another while separated. Can't have double standards in a relationship. So get over it she could have those feelings too but she appears not to hold it against you. Forgive yourself get on with it,
Keeping looking ahead ,the past is just that Past, Over, Done.
hugs ~A~
2006-08-09 23:34:11 · answer #6 · answered by momsapplepeye 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
whatever that past is history: and just remember that there were no strings attached back then, so its not wrong for her to have done anything.
Just be confident of your love, and look towards creating a bright future together. No one likes to be distrusted, so shower her with all the attention, affection, understanding and support she needs, and move on together.
Count yourself lucky to get back with someone you love, and leave the scars behind.
2006-08-09 23:37:01 · answer #7 · answered by winnie_1423 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Both of you dated while you were apart so it's even. If she do tell you everything it might hurt your feelings, so you probably want to leave it alone. Think about it, have she asked you about the other woman? Just let it go and move on. Good luck.
2006-08-09 23:42:50 · answer #8 · answered by hodgesandguy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in the same exact situation but we didn't separate he cheated on me while we were together. I asked him questions and sometimes i think about it and it bothers me but it really takes time for it to really not bother you as much. Just give yourself time, and realize that she's with you now and she is becuz she feels the same about you.
2006-08-09 23:35:44 · answer #9 · answered by Juicy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't. You have to stop questioning her. For one thing it is gonna drive her crazy, & two you don't want to know the answer. When the thoughts come in your head. Go & do something else you like to do until it passes. Do not ask her again about it. Not only do you not want to know the answer, but guess what.......everytime you ask her about it you get her to think about it.
I know it's hard..... trust me I know. It sucks & this is not easy to do, but what i'm telling you is the correct answer.
2006-08-09 23:38:05 · answer #10 · answered by sbeaz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why does it bother you so much. you said that you and her while seperated had other hook-ups. and you she answers any questions that you have. is it just that you cant let go. maybe she just wants to move on. i know that you love her. we have all been through a broken heart in our lives. maybe its best for you to move on to. i know that it hurts but it seems like you cant let go because you were in love with her and i know that it hurts bad. because your heart was broken. but you can do it. you heart will mend it just takes time. good luck you seem like a sweet guy. hang in there . you will get through it.
2006-08-09 23:39:46 · answer #11 · answered by baby doll 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋