2006-08-09 16:28:58 · 21 answers · asked by golddustwoman_0223 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well, if your boyfriend is married, then yes, I'd say you are VERY confused. But not without hope. Let's see..
The fact that he is married will prevent him from being able to afford you the things you deserve from a partner. It also means you are abetting an adulterer - someone who clearly has character issues. Behavior is a pattern, so if he is cheating on his wife with you, then he would certainly cheat on you with someone else later down the road. This is not subject to debate - it will happen.
Your best bet is abandon your married friend until such a time as he is unmarried, or lose him altogether and find a worthy partner who is less attached.
You'll still be confused, as relationships are a mystery to all of us, but at least you won't have to deal with the guilt, pain, and agony of being the "other woman."
2006-08-09 16:33:12 · answer #1 · answered by www.ayntk.blogspot.com 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay I am one of those two sided people that usually has two points of view so I am going to give mine here. LOL.
On one side you have to think that he is married and that is a bad start to any relationship because if he can cheat on his wife what makes you think he wont cheat on you?
On the other side he could be in a bad relationship that he can't hardly get out of. There is always that small grain in there that could be he just doesn't know what to do and he really is falling for you.
Just be careful and don't put your feelings into it so much that if he doesn't leave his wife for you (which most likely he won't do) that you don't go off the deep end and pull a fatal attraction. Try to keep it simple. You are still really young and you never know when Mr. Right might come walking in but you are looking up in a married mans face so you miss him.
Peace, Love, and Happiness
2006-08-09 23:39:24 · answer #2 · answered by Erica 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're not getting any younger. Did he say that he would leave his wife for you? Why does it take him so long to do that?
I believe that if that guy really loves you, he will not waste anymore time to leave his wife just to be with you. Ask him for his real reasons why he hasnt' done it yet. If his reasons are valid, it will be you who will have to make the decision of waiting or giving him up.
Remember that when a woman is in her 30's or more so 40's, there is a risk in giving birth. A young woman may give birth easily without complications while an older woman may have more problems concerning her pregnancy. Your bf should know that. I believe that you also want to have a family of your own and if you want him to be the father of your children, he should decide immediately regarding his separation with his wife.
You may want to have a heart-to-heart talk with him regarding what I said, and if he grants you one, be sure that during your converstation, you have prepared questions in your mind where you can see how deep his love for you has gone and if he is really leaving his wife fo ryou. If you find out that he is not very sincere in his words, you 'd better think twice about your relationship with him. He may not be the one Destiny has in store for you. Good lcuk.
2006-08-09 23:53:38 · answer #3 · answered by Ruzzo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sad Love
My heart beats a different way,
every time I look at you.
I wish I could explain it,
but I don’t know what to do.
I’ve never felt this way before,
about anyone I’ve ever met.
There’s just something about you,
that my heart won’t let me forget.
There’s not an hour that goes by,
that I’m not thinking about you.
and how I would give anything,
just to be able to say, I do.
You’re the one that I’ve longed for,
for so many restless years.
But now my love will be forever unknown,
while I try to fight off the tears.
Because now I find you in front of me,
as I stand here towards the end.
When today my heart will fall to pieces,
as I watch you, marry my friend.
By: Kenny P. aka-Cobra
2006-08-09 23:34:59 · answer #4 · answered by Cobra 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
What part are you confused about? Is it about you having a relationship with a married man in general? Or is it whether or not he'll leave his wife for you? Odds are he won't leave her, and your future together with him will never get beyond the sneaking around phase. Try finding someone who can be proud to call you his girlfriend.
2006-08-09 23:35:41 · answer #5 · answered by Mary C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, first of all, you'll get a lot of negative comments for dating a married guy, but I congratulate you for having the guts and openness to do it. Can you elaborate on what parts you are most confused about?
2006-08-09 23:34:21 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I hope the guy doesn't have kids or anything, or at least has filed for a divorce, otherwise you're making a huge mistake and messing with stuff that's just not right to do at all. TV sitcoms make it look ok, but in the real world, you're just a mistress/homewrecker unless he really has filed for that divorce.
2006-08-09 23:36:52 · answer #7 · answered by micktobi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't be dating a married man. Nothing confusing about it.
2006-08-09 23:48:00 · answer #8 · answered by lavenderroseford 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't be confused. Leave him. He is married. Find someone who is single. With this man you will not find happiness. He is married. To be with you, he will have to leave his current wife and you will always have that hanging over you.
Move on..
2006-08-09 23:35:47 · answer #9 · answered by amoreflowers 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Healthy relationships are all about the trust. In the unlikely event that he would leave his wife, how will you ever build a relationship with a trusting foundation with this man?
2006-08-09 23:42:27 · answer #10 · answered by GJ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋