Everything lately seems to be making me either cry until I can't anymore, or make me want to kill every human that I see. What do I do to stop feeling so stressed and moody, and how do you stop stressing too? I'd almost do anything to calm myself down.Help!
2006-08-09 16:26:44 · 13 answers · asked by Curious&can'twait 2 in Health ➔ Mental Health
Hi, I understand how you feel, and I think you might find the following suggestions helpful. Try these techniques until you find one that lightens you up:
1. Deliberately turn a molehill into a mountain. Make a big deal out of a little problem. "I would feel much better if these papers were stacked exactly like this! Not like that! Like this! Not this! This!"
2. Ask yourself, "Is getting serious about this situation really going to improve it?"
3. Focusing on the positives. Repeat these questions until you feel lighter, "What is right about this picture?" "What else is right?" "What else?"
4. Consider a complete, major change. Why not go back to school? Why not move to Idaho? Why not retire for a few years or start a new career?
5. Ask yourself, "When I’m on my deathbed, will I be glad I was so serious about _______?"
6. A challenging game is much better than no game at all. So consider losing all aspects of the problem. Examples: You feel serious about family problems. You ask yourself, "Well, what if I had no family at all?" You feel serious about your investments. You ask yourself, "What if I had no money to invest?"
7. The size of your problem may match the size of your game. So get a bigger game. For example, if you get uptight about paper clips being in the wrong drawer, your game size is tiny. Double your amount of responsibility. Set some huge goals. Succeed by thinking much, much bigger.
8. Stop trying to solve the problem that is making you so serious. Certain types of problems solve themselves if you leave them alone. Your problem may be one of those.
9. Compare what you are doing to other careers. Imagine being a septic tank drainer or an IRS agent.
10. Make everyone around you lighten up. You will soon feel more cheerful.
11. Look at bizarre solutions. What is the craziest way you could solve your problem? What solution, if it worked, would make you laugh out loud?
12. Act stupid for a minute. Let down your hair. Stop being so darn important for a while. Be a goof!
2006-08-09 16:55:41 · answer #1 · answered by Scotty 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can calm yourself down if you take deep breaths from your diaphragm, in through your nose, and then exhale slowly through your mouth. Do this a few times. It will give your lungs more oxygen and slow your heart rate.
Sometimes hormones play a big part in stress and moods. Exercise is also a good stress reducer. Walking, meditation, yoga are only a few things that may help when you're feeling this way. Call/visit a friend or even take a nap.
My friends and I have a favorite saying to remind us that things do get better. We tell each other, "This too shall pass!"
Don't forget to breathe!! Take care!
2006-08-09 16:39:30 · answer #2 · answered by bigsis 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try basics.
No caffeine (at all)
enough sleep
reasonable alcohol
scheduled "down" time for relaxing, laughing
no drugs
You are either developing depression, burnout or overload.
NONE of what is bothering you, unless it is fatal, is worth the negative emotion. Try and find a way to have what is stressing you make you laugh. if it can't kill you, then you can overcome!
What are you grateful for? Some problems, while still real problems, are WONDERFUL problems. How hard have you worked to get to the point of having the problems you are having?
If you are healthy enough to complain about something, then you are already a step ahead of many. If you are stressed by work, how hard to you work to get that job? Get into that career field?
If you don't control your emotions, they control you. Think about it.
2006-08-09 16:45:10 · answer #3 · answered by Love2Sew 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
hmmm.........there must something bothering you thats making u stress n moody ?? U need to find the root of the problem and talk it out with someone close or yr family members or even friends .....u need to get whatever is inside you out of it ...
Dealing stress n moodiness is not easy. Not everyone can take stress n knows how to deal with them ...
Some ways of dealing stress n moody ..:-
a. go to a beach ,....and just scream as loud as you can ...blow out that steam u have ...
b. u can dig a hole a deep hole .n bury all the unhappiness ,stress ,moody ...... n cover it !
c. u can go to a cd shop n get some relaxation music ...that will calm u down, make u relax ...
d. go watch a comedy movie or rent one ..
e. pamper yrself with small little treats it can be ice cream, a soft toy or whatever u like of coz .in expensive ones ...
f. do something different like go bake a cake or cookies or whip up a meal ....
d. Paint yr room ?? add some colours to yr room....
there are many ways to destress n kill the moodiness., is up to you what u want to do n whether will you put yr heart.mind and soul into doing that something .....Whatever i suggest is just helping you out temporary .end of the day is you who can a make difference in yrself and be the self u want to be..
Nothing is easy but if u never try to deal with it u never know whether will it work out for u or not!
Never give up especially in yrself ! ...Believe in yrself believe that one day you will be that happy person who knows how to handle stress n moodiness...
If it comes to a point that whatever u tried doesnt work .then seek professional help ..but dont reply on the medication ..it cant help u forever !
Good luck there !
cheers :)
p/s. I had depression for yrs ...it took me long time to find the right tune n work on it ..end of the day i am a happy person n i feel happy n positive ...my efforts are not wasted !
2006-08-09 16:56:07 · answer #4 · answered by pevans9 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If your feeling overwhelmed like you wanna kill everyone close your eyes and count to 10 (20 if you have to) and just breathe slowly. Clear your head untill you canactually picture absolutly nothing.
Also I find that taking baths with your favorite music on in the background helps a lot.
Stress sucks I hope you find something that works for you.
2006-08-09 16:48:11 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you have a lot of things going on like I usually do, try buying a dry erase calendar and schedule everything effectively. You don't want to have to rush from one thing to another. Exercise helps as a release, also helps you sleep better at night. As impossible as it may seem, you NEED to take time for yourself. Try a bubble bath or a movie if you want to be alone of grab some coffee or go walk with a friend. You need to not burn yourself out. Worst case scenario, you need to see your doc and ask for some meds. Not a big deal. Good luck.
2006-08-09 16:33:15 · answer #6 · answered by stowchick01 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Lately, I have been having the same problem, too. I'm sure you have heard of screaming into your pillow before, but it really does help. Also, try keeping a journal of your thoughts. It has calmed me down and has also kept me more organized. One last idea is to try some type of martial arts. It helps you gain self-control and also allows you to get anger out. Good luck!
2006-08-09 16:34:13 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
figure out whats making you stress and avoid it
2006-08-09 16:32:18 · answer #8 · answered by why 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
effexor
kolonopin
remaron
I use all three. I was a suicidal mess. I am a happy bunny now.
i wub woo, huggies
2006-08-09 16:32:27 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you learn more about the aura in a group it will be easier. Until then avoid the groups and keep learning.
2006-08-09 18:01:27 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋