2006-08-09 16:23:47 · 15 answers · asked by ron burgundy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
sorry, i should clarify. my question is not whether it is ok for us to get married, but whether it was ok for her sister to get engaged after us, and plan a wedding for two months before us.
2006-08-09 16:35:44 · update #1
Her sister could get married tomorrow if she wanted. You could wait until 2010 if you wanted. The wedding police are not going to arrest either of you. The biggest issue I see is that family and friends traveling from out of town aren't going to want to make two trips within two months, so this could create a problem.
2006-08-10 06:43:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your sister getting engaged is just fine... I guess I can't really see anything "wrong" with her choosing to get married in June. She has a right to a wedding, too. And at least it wasn't in July. But I can see where this gets a bit sticky.
I would keep family and friends who will be included in both wedding well-informed so they can plan and budget accordingly.
2006-08-09 18:43:58 · answer #2 · answered by Church Music Girl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's kind of stealing your thunder, but should they have to wait an entire year more because you want to have your wedding later in the year than you? My cousins did that- the younger one got engaged and planned a Dec wedding and then the older one (who'd been w/ her now husband for a decade) planned their wedding for Aug. Don't let it get you down- enjoy your day.
2006-08-09 17:02:25 · answer #3 · answered by K S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats fine, just I would try to plan and get yours arranged first in case her parents are paying for both weddings. If the sister is one of "those kind of people" she will probably try to out do your wedding and try to get the parents to pay for her stuff first then your left with a low budget schindig
2006-08-09 18:26:17 · answer #4 · answered by ♥ Sarah Bear ♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that's a little rude on the part of the other couple, assuming they already knew about your plans. I hope it doesn't put a financial stress on the parents of the 2 brides. I would suggest sitting down to talk to them. It's not too late to change the date for one or both of you. Maybe they could do theirs a little earlier so as to not seem like they're just trying to upstage you.
If dates can't be changed, try to make your wedding as different from theirs as possible so that it doesn't seem like you're copying them or anything like that.
2006-08-09 20:10:46 · answer #5 · answered by midlandsharon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it rather is totally obtrusive that your sister-in-regulation is stressful that she can ought to share "the limelight" with you by using fact she needs to be "the Queen" the days and weeks till now her wedding ceremony and the days and weeks after her wedding ceremony. in simple terms placed, she is insecure that kinfolk individuals will "evaluate" her wedding ceremony against yours. i would not replace the marriage date. there is no reason to alter the marriage date. She ought to be grateful which you probably did not schedule your wedding ceremony hours aside as 2 insecure cousins did. actual tale . . Bride A scheduled her chapel ceremony for 10AM observed with the aid of a reception brunch at 11AM. Bride B (her cousin) scheduled her formal backyard outdoor ceremony for 3PM observed with the aid of cocktails, dinner, and dancing at 4PM. The ceremonies have been approximately one hundred miles aside so very few human beings attended the two weddings, and that replaced into Bride B's purpose whilst she set the time. She replaced into hoping that maximum human beings could choose an open bar and a 5 direction dinner over waffles and orange juice. replied with the aid of: a qualified wedding ceremony expert / a expert bridal representative / a bridal ceremony officiant
2016-10-01 21:16:27 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you were engaged first. It is rude. My now sister in'law did that and I was pissed. I had to change everything. I'm getting married in 2007 instead. Change your date... Talk to her or something because she is know stealing your thunder..
2006-08-10 08:25:41 · answer #7 · answered by Windsor 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They are stealing your thunder a little, especially by setting the date before your wedding. But there is no law that says she can't do that.
2006-08-10 02:02:07 · answer #8 · answered by SweetPea 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't make a big deal out of it. she might be doing it to show you up but most likely that's the best time for her wedding.
you don't want to look petty to your new family by making it a competition, just be happy about the celebrations.
2006-08-10 13:45:18 · answer #9 · answered by vicvic* 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
here in the philippines, we have a superstition called "SUKOB" wherein no siblings must get married in the same year or else they will have bad luck in their marriage. though not all are superstitious, a lot are obeying it, for fear of having bad luck. but, if you're a believer in superstition, go ahead and get married. anyway, it's evrybody's right.. :)
2006-08-09 19:29:31 · answer #10 · answered by jensky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋