I'm going to visit family with my mom in Ind. My mom is going to visit some friends who have taken off work. So my gramppaw is taking me to a museum and has taken off work to do it. But my dad says i should stay with mom and not be alone with anyone else, but mom. WHAT SHOULD I DO??? We are leaving the 16th!! My grandpaws feelings will be hurt,mom hasn't seen her friends in 20 years, and i have to lisen to dad. This VERY CONFUSING BUT I NEED HELP!!!!!!
2006-08-09 16:01:50 · 25 answers · asked by Syd 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Sounds to me like your father doesn't like your mom's parents if it is just you and your mom going then your dad doesn't need to know the difference go with your grampaw and have a good time with him.Why hang around your mom and spoil her time and crush your gampaws feelings as well.it would only be fair to both of them if you stick to the original plans.
2006-08-09 16:06:11 · answer #1 · answered by flying_eagle_72 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok- I'm not sure why your Dad is nervous. But if it's that important to him I think a little white lie is in order that day to not hurt Grandpa's feelings. On the "museum" day wake up early and start running to the bathroom and pretend to get sick -flush alot and make gag noises. Do that for a couple hours and while that's going on your mom can reschedule for a day that she can come too!! I tell my kids that lying is VERY bad. But little white lies are OK sometimes to spare feelings. It's kind of like saying that your enjoying some gross food that someone made so they don't get offended!
2006-08-09 16:15:07 · answer #2 · answered by LG 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do not totally understand, is your grandfather also in Ind?
He is family also, and i should think very importand,
i do not understand why you can't visit with grandpa, one day, and visit with friends of moms another day,,
How long are you going to be visiting?
Is your dad going? WHY does he not want you "alone" with anyone but mom?
ARE YOU LEAVING SOMETHING OUT,
PLS ADVISE,
geeze, you are not a ping pong ball, you are a person also, and don't you have any say so over where you go, and who you see, unless you are four years old, i don't get i t, (not to be disrespectful) it just sounds like there is more to this,
ok well good luck, or please give more specifics,,
2006-08-09 16:12:20 · answer #3 · answered by Maureen K 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to ask your father WHY he feels this way, and explain the situation to him. Are your mother and your father together or separated? If they are together, it might be a good idea to talk to both of them at once.
It might be that your father knows a good reason for you not to be alone with your grandfather. He may be irresponsible, hold different values from your family, or even have a history of unhealthy behavior with children. If so, you and your mother should both listen to him. Maybe you can ask a friend or other family member to join you on your day with your grandfather, so that you will not be alone.
If your father does not share a good reason, then go ahead and spend time with your grandfather. But keep your eyes open, and if anything happens that makes you uncomfortable, ask to go home or rejoin other family members immediately.
2006-08-09 16:09:38 · answer #4 · answered by llemma 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to find out what your dad's issue is. He may just have a general mistrust of anyone except your mom. If Grandpa is your mom's father your dad might be just being petty; but if he has a specific reason for mistrusting Grandpa you might want to listen.
If your dad can't come up with a specific solid reason not to trust your own grandparents, tell him (nicely) to stuff it or come along himself. There's no excuse for him to try to sabotage your vacation by remote control.
2006-08-09 16:20:21 · answer #5 · answered by dukefenton 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You kind of left some key information out. Why doesn't your Dad want you to spend time with your Grandpa? Is your Mom and Dad separated? Is that why you say you need to listen to your Dad? Kind of confusing hon. I guess it makes me wonder why your Dad would say that. And yes, your Grandpa's feelings will be hurt, and so will your Mom's. Need more clarification.
2006-08-09 16:09:58 · answer #6 · answered by teashy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old are you? For your dad to tell you that you should stay with your mom and not be alone with anyone else is typical of advice (or orders) given to kids younger than 10-12.
2006-08-09 16:37:46 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This could be one of two things. Your father either doesn't trust or like your grandfather or on a deeper level maybe he knows something about your grandfather and is afraid to have you alone with him. Talk to your mom and dad about this and have them come up with a joint decision that will make everyone happy. Good Luck
2006-08-09 16:11:49 · answer #8 · answered by wickster234 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-09-29 02:46:21 · answer #9 · answered by wichern 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
frist of all were granddad an mom at at this point i can see were if you in the same state same city with mom an granddad i dont see why you cant go with granddad for you have to think how much lonnger is g/p going to me around i dont think your mom would care if you go with g/d why see visits friends or g/d time off from the time after the 16th
2006-08-09 16:37:05 · answer #10 · answered by whatdoesitmader 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋