My son drinks a case of beer a night.I'm worried that he's killing himself.What can I say or do to get him to seek help without being too pushy or preachy because that will just push him away.
2006-08-09 15:20:25 · 10 answers · asked by Granny 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
That's way too much a night, take it from a former drinker. I lived through my heart attack, I only hope it doesn't take that to slow him down. No ,Preaching will only cause him to do it without you knowing about. I feel for you. Time and luck will dictate his future. Pray.
2006-08-09 15:32:48 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is killing himself drinking like that every night. There must be an underlying cause.
It sounds like he is dealing with some deep emotional issues, if you could get him to, he should talk with a psychiatrist to try and figure out why he has to drown himself with that much alcohol instead of living his life or dealing with the reality of his life.
I think it would be harder for you to ask your son to stop. Does he have a girlfriend that could give him an ultimatum?
My ex-husband was an alcoholic where when he drank he became a totally different person.
I told him one day that either he give up the booze or me and he chose the booze.
2006-08-09 15:33:06 · answer #2 · answered by Claire 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just come out and tell him or else you will be a co-dependent for his habit. He probably needs help too. Support him to get help and maybe even show him movies like Leaving Las Vegas or 28 Days. I wish you the best.
2006-08-09 15:35:27 · answer #3 · answered by D Marie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the best approach (in my opinion) would be to keep telling him how much you love him. Sometimes people just need to know there's someone out there that really cares about them and then maybe they will care a little more about themselves. Tell him how you feel about it without getting too aggressive. Approach him as a friend would. I hope my advice helps.
2006-08-09 15:27:37 · answer #4 · answered by ♫Joshua's~♥~Girl♫ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My wife is an alcoholic. I tried for years to get her to curtail her drinking without success. Around a year ago she went to the doctor and was told to stop drinking or her health will be threatened. Sometimes it is best to receive a hard message to finally get the fact across. Good luck to you.
2006-08-09 15:30:23 · answer #5 · answered by Craig G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's under age......have him committed for help. If he's not...leave him alone! Just love him and be all you can be as a mother. He has to hit rock bottom to realize what is going on. You must leave him alone or he will get worse. Pray your heart out for him and may God Bless you both!
2006-08-09 15:36:18 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
here it is... 2,000 AA meetings later. I started at 12...I'm 40 now....28 years later ! 7 rehabs later ! He is already an alcoholic. He won't be able to admit it for several more years to himself....before he might get serious about help. only 1 out of 75 actually quit for good !....good luck.
2006-08-09 15:33:37 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been through this myself. If he really is drinking that much, he WILL HAVE TO be detoxed in a clinic/hospital. Tell him to do it - it's a very comfortable non-withdrawal. When it's over, then he can re-think from a sober perspective whether he needs to be abstinent, or try to control his drinking (not vice-versa) or whether he simply wants to drink himself to death.
2006-08-09 17:08:51 · answer #8 · answered by DashRockwood 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's your son. I'm pretty sure he knows that you are just looking out for his health. But you should talk to him there must be a reason for all his drinking.
2006-08-09 15:25:54 · answer #9 · answered by Mani 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can SAY all you want- but your son must WANT help before he will ever stop
2006-08-09 15:27:16 · answer #10 · answered by bronzebabekentucky 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋