My closest and dearest friend is going through a divorce right now. She is a wreck to say the least. Her husband gave her an STD, no it is not HIV. All she keeps saying is that who would want her now and what is she going to do.The STD is there for good. I don't know what to say or do for her. Is there really a chance that her romantic life can continue? I feel so bad for her. Please everyone give advise. I know that I should be there for her and believe me I will. But what do I say to her about the STD and future relationships question. She is a wreck. lol
2006-08-09 15:12:59 · 11 answers · asked by ? 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
SHE IS IN HER LATE 20'S.
2006-08-09 15:20:56 · update #1
I have a friend that has herpes and when she found out about it she was devastated. But after looking into it a bit more she discovered that although its not something everyone talks about that there are a lot of people that have, a surprisingly large number. So I would tell her that the loser she is losing is a good thing and that although it wont be easy moving on is the best bet and not to sweat the std. Some people may be turned off, but if I met someone I really liked and thought we would be together for a while, then it wouldn't matter. And from personal experience with my best friend, other people don't sweat it so much either. In fact I was really surprised how many people don't care. So just be supportive and get that gal out for a ladies night on the town and do a little real life research of your own as to who would want her and who would not.
2006-08-09 15:23:12 · answer #1 · answered by ttti 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Well if it is a disease that could be cured with antibiotics I am pretty sure its not as bad compared to having HIV.
I have observed that STDs affect the woman more in terms of emotionally than it affects the man. It hits her self esteem.
I think she needs her family and friends around her at this time, and as for other future relationships I am pretty sure she wouldnt have any problem..
2006-08-09 22:20:14 · answer #2 · answered by happybeanstalk 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If she has kids, tell her she needs to focus on being there emotionally for them, not fretting about a love life. Life is hell for kids of a divorced family. They don't need both parents to be worrying about pleasing another man/woman.
If no kids, depends on the STD. If it's one of those flare up at certain times ones, she just has to be responsible and honest with the guy. It will be harder, but totally possible to have a romance again.
2006-08-09 22:19:06 · answer #3 · answered by Margie 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She needs to educate herself about the STD. That way she knows what her options are and what her life will be like now. Having you for support is very good but education is also what she needs now.
2006-08-09 22:19:04 · answer #4 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, it depends on the STD. If it is herpes, it's no big deal, or HPV also no big deal. She needs to discuss these with a doctor, but the only sig. STD is AIDS --- everthing else is curable or managable or nbd. (No Big Deal)
2006-08-09 22:21:16 · answer #5 · answered by April 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
depends on what type of STD she has. but medical science has progressed quite a bit, i'm sure i she sees a doctor and is careul she can lead an active life.
2006-08-09 22:19:15 · answer #6 · answered by marajjoya 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honesty with anyone she wants to be with! Screw the husband for doing that but this is a learning experience. She would know first hand the benefit of being honest...
2006-08-09 22:18:20 · answer #7 · answered by intewonfan 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would say that she contact her family physician or OB/GYN - whoever diagnosed her. There are many support groups and treatment options out there. Main thing is that she won't be alone and these people will help her - if she asks.
2006-08-09 22:18:39 · answer #8 · answered by Lilith 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
whats STD
2006-08-09 22:16:57 · answer #9 · answered by Lindsey 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'd suggest she see a professional therapist.
2006-08-09 22:20:41 · answer #10 · answered by loveorlust06 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋