My boyfriend and I have been dating for a year exactly today. We are doing a long distance relationship for that whole year. I have visited him twice and it has equaled 2 and a half months. He has not yet come here. For the past two weeks we have planned him coming here. He bought the ticket a week ago and was talking how he was so excited to see me again. The night before he was supposed to leave he talked like he was nervous...which is understandable, but then the next day (the day he is supposed to leave) he calls me and tells me he can't come. His excuse was his family needs him more, but his family is fine right now. His mom is very controlling and was threatening everything he had for him not to go. What should I do? Should I stay with him or should I help him try to come here again?
2006-08-09 14:39:06 · 17 answers · asked by Missy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Do what your heart tells you. I'm sure he just wants you to be happy no matter what if he really cares about you. I'm sure he feels terrible... It may be not just because he's a mama's boy... he may be jsut really confused. But if he really cares for you, he will let you be happy no matter what. Follow your heart!
2006-08-09 15:27:43 · answer #1 · answered by invisibleechidna 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-19 23:58:30 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't do anything. The ball is in his court. He's the one that backed out at the last minute and is so lame that he used his family as an excuse for not coming to see you. Wait and see what he does or doesn't do. You didn't say how old you are, but I wouldn't put all my eggs in this basket. Don't you think you deserve more than a long distance relationship with someone who backs out at the last minute? Even worse, if he's a mama's boy now, he probably always will be.
2006-08-09 14:50:57 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like your guy is young and his mother doesn't want him to move far from home. Maybe he's not ready to move, either. That may be why he's more comfortable with the thought that you would be moving into his area away from your family and doing the sacrificing.
Give the relationship some time. He's probably confused. You need to honestly talk about it. See if he can open up. If he can't open up- then you two don't have enough communication to have a long distant relationship.
Good luck!
2006-08-09 14:53:11 · answer #4 · answered by Linda S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Um, i'm sorry that he ditched you--that could really sting. yet, do not you imagine someone should be more effective unswerving to his or chum than some relationship that would or may no longer very last? acquaintances are meant to very last invariably, acceptable? That being stated, you do ought to reveal some dedication to a relationship too. He for sure would not imagine a lot of you, so get over him.
2016-11-23 18:30:52 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Long distance relationships are very hard. He may feel it's not worth investing more time in, if the distance isn't going to change.Do either of you have plans to move closer to each other. What is the point otherwise? Maybe it's time to get a new boyfriend that lives in your town.
2006-08-09 14:44:35 · answer #6 · answered by weswe 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
While I totally respect a man who is there for his family, if he allows his family to interfer in his relationships and cannot come clean to you about the real reason for his change of heart - send him packing.
On the bright side, he isn't anywhere near you, so now you can hook up with a local guy who might make more of an effort.
2006-08-09 14:43:32 · answer #7 · answered by Lilith 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like whatever momentum you 2 had is gone, and this isn't said enough, but you can learn a lot about a person by their parents, so if the mom's actions sound unreasonable to you (they do to me), then that should be a big, waving red flag to you. You should move on and be thankful that you are doing so.
2006-08-09 14:44:45 · answer #8 · answered by You'll Never Outfox the Fox 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sound like you got a moma boy and he is afraid to leave the nest but if his moma wasn't here he would leave it is time for him to be a man give him one more try and if he don't come oh well at lease you did your part and move on it going to hurt but you will survive wishing you the best
2006-08-09 14:46:11 · answer #9 · answered by poda 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget him and find someone who is willing to be with you. Long distance relationships are very difficult even if both people are committed, and it doesn't sound like he is.
2006-08-09 14:44:34 · answer #10 · answered by Computer Guy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋