Are parents suppose to love each other more than their kids?

Question

I ask this because I always thought parents were suppose to love their kids more than each other or the same.

Answer 1

Parents love eachother differently than they love their kids. My love for my son is beyond emotion - it is biological. My love for my husband is a deep emotion (sometimes it has to be a choice). But parents should have a respect for and committment to eachother - there must be support and agreement when it comes to dealing with the kids. Also remember that kids grow up and move out, you're with your spouse til death.
But if the house was burning and I could only save one, I would save my son, and I would expect my husband to do the same. All parents know what I mean.

Answer 2

It is actually best if the parents love each other the most. While parents love their children, they need to be able to let them go. Marriage is supposed to be forever. Parenthood changes as the children grow up and move on to establish their own families. The children are actually going to be much happier if they are in a secure family, held together by the love of the parents for each other.

Loving each other does not mean the parents put their needs first, but it does mean that they never let their relationship be lost because they are too busy taking care of the kids to take care of the relationship as well.

Answer 3

Well, the love the parents have for each other is a different love, and in most cases parents would rather die and give their lives for ther kids, because they know they've had their chance at true love and they want their kids to have that chance.
Like, a mom isn't going to love her kids the way she loves her husband. It's love, but a different kind of love, but she would probably chose her kids over her husband, because the husband would want her to do so.
So, it's not a question of more, it's the different kind of love that gives on an inclination towards something else in a certain situation.

Answer 4

Love is love. Its like you cant be a little pregnant or alot pregnant; technically your pregnant. So if you love; its not more or less. You just love. Sometimes parents may pay more attention to each other and kids feel like they are not as important. Sometimes its the opposite and the father may feel he is not important because mom pays too much attention to the kids. Sometimes life is very hard but try to pay more attention to the good things in your life.
You could have included the reason behind your question it would have been easier to answer.

Answer 5

I love my kids just as much as I do my husband, period. The difference is that it is a different kind of love, and a different kind of relationships. We talk about everything as a family, but I discuss with my husband first so we can be on the same track before talking with our sons. If my hubby and I disagree, he presents his side and I present mine, and ask for the boys' opinions as well. We also try to make sure everyone is treated equally, and rules don't apply just to the parents, or just to the kids - no double standards. I hope this helps you with another opinion.

Answer 6

They're two very different kinds of love, child. Niether is superior to the other. But because we're the parents, there are certain limits. We're not your best buds; we love you but we set the rules and we enforce them. That's our joint responsibility, and because we love you and desire you reach adulthood and independence safely, and are prepared to undertake life responsibly, we'll continue to set the limits and enforce them.
One day you will be gone from our lives. We will sorely miss you and we will shed tears when it happens. We will be overjoyed when you return for a visit and there will be sorrow when you must depart once more. Our love for you is such that we let you go, but our love for each other is such that we can endure your growing up and moving on with your lives. We will continue to love one another and to make love to one another long afterward. That does not mean we love you less but that you are now at the stage where you need to develop your own intimate relationships and ours continue to strengthen. They will do that until death do us part. Do not fear, though there will undoubtedly be disagreements and differences between us and you, we will always love you. We miss you. Do come home now and then - and bring the grandchildren! We have much love to share with them, too...signed: Mom and Dad

Answer 7

Well, I think it's a different kind of love altogether. At least for me it is. The way I loved my husband was more like a good friendship and the way I love my kids is so much deeper and stronger. But, that's just me, maybe. Of course, between a husband and wife, there is an intimacy that could not be shared with children! And that's different, too. So, if you are comparing, it's kind of like the saying, "It's like apples and oranges." OK?

Answer 8

both from a biblical standpoint and from a biological standpoint parents should give first priority to each other. Scripture says two become one. This is not true with your kids, you don't become one with your parents so your spouse is your first priority, you can always make more kids if you let one die but you can't poop out a new spouse. If you are a kid and want to try controlling your parents with guilt you may wish that this was not true. sorry, you are second priority. As for love. It is often opposite, parents love their kids more than each other, this is not good but more often true than not.

Answer 9

Yes, parents are supposed to love each other more than they love their kids. The two partners have more in obligation to each other than they do to their kids.

I guess, it depends in which society you live in or what were your parents raised with. In my house, that is the way it is.

Answer 10

you have your kids and raise them and they go out and start their own family's.
your parents need to love each other unconditionally so they can remain married for the rest of their lives and show a shining example to there kids on what true love is all about.
parents need to love each other more then their kids but it never means they don't love their children unconditionally.