I have this good guy friend who I ended up developing strong feelings for. He found out through another friend, and he didn't really say anything, which made me kind of releived. I was worried that he wouldn't want to be friends anymore, but he was cool about it. But after a while, he started doing weird stuff, like he would tell me how pretty I am or he would flirt with me a lot. Then the next minute he acts like I don't exist, or starts going on about his latest crush and how much he loves her or something. Why is he doing this? Most of the time I love hanging out with him, but sometimes I feel like he's dragging me on an emotional roller coaster! Sometimes I even wonder if he might like me back, cuz that's how he's acting, but why wouldn't he just say so? Is he getting some kind of power trip out of dragging me around, or is he just oblivious to how I feel? Should I try asking him about it, or should I ignore it?
2006-08-09 14:34:34 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yes, I am a teenager, and why should that make my problem any less a problem?? Can't a 17 year old have problems as well as a 20 year old??? And my screen name is dramaqueen because I love drama class in school, I am SO SICK of nasty comments about my name or my age!
2006-08-09 14:36:22 · update #1
Don't worry about what others think of your name.Next,yes,your problem is as big as anyone else's,teen or not.However,I am hoping this guy is 17,like you.Men who are looking to date 17 yr old,and younger,when they are 20+,30+,etc.....do not need to be dignified.Anyways,I think you should talk to him.Maybe he is just testing the waters,to see if you really do like him or not.Yes,your friend told him that you like him,BUT maybe he would rather hear it from you.Or maybe he isn't sure how he feels.You will never know if you don't talk to him.Sit him down,explain how you feel,and ask him if his feelings towards you are more than friends too.Tell him no matter what,you will continue to be friends because his friendship is more important to you than anything else.the best relationships are built from friendships first.So,take your time and get to know each other.Hopefully,love will grow as both of you get older.Good luck and don't let anyone ever tell you that your feelings and problems aren't important,because they are.:)
2006-08-09 14:45:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes he is playing along with you.
he knows you like him, so he tells you how pretty you are because he knows it's gonna tickle your feelings. He tells you how beautiful a girl is because he knows you're gonna get jealous, and when you do, it tickles his feelings and adds up to his egoistic macho image.
If he has any interest in you that is more than a friend, he should have done his move by now. Otherwise, he is either too much of a jerk not to do anything or looks at you as a friend only - a girl who he can hang out comfortably.
What are the chances of him getting jealous? Did you try a trick on him and saw how he reacted? More or less you can have a clearer picture of how he feels for you.
Dont mind the nasty remarks. Those people are just after the two points and are not really helping.
Good luck
2006-08-09 21:52:05 · answer #2 · answered by Busy Diyosa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl, you must also think of what he might be feeling for acting that way... He might also wonder what you really felt for him, if it's the real thing. He wanted to assure you that he likes you too by saying your pretty or those stuffs and at the same time afraid that the friendship might be broken if he deliberately say that he loves you too, that why he started to say things about other girls.. Having a crush is just healthy... He says he has a crush on this girl and that... but he never said he loves this girl or that... because he might admire others personality but he was inloved with yours..
2006-08-09 21:53:31 · answer #3 · answered by Creine_Athena 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a guy that's sort of doing the same thing to me right now. Maybe not quite as extreme but pretty close. People have told me he's confused. Maybe he doesn't want a relationship right now. Or maybe he likes you but doesn't know if he wants to take it to the next level. I know this sucks. Mixed signals aren't any fun. I wish you the best, it hurts doesn't it? Good Luck, I hope it works out for you and don't think it's going to in my case!!
2006-08-09 21:41:57 · answer #4 · answered by Maryanne 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you certainly have taken this matter to the stage, now haven't you! Why not just enjoy his company when you can and forget about all the other stuff in between. If you truly believe you are on an emotional rollercoaster, then it's time you got off and started living your life the way you want!
2006-08-09 21:39:44 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He maybe unsure of what he was told. I would ignore it for awhile, see if he still acts the same. When he flirts with you,flirt back. See what he does.
2006-08-09 21:45:58 · answer #6 · answered by whataboutme 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
all respect no hate. he's confused. let him figure out. by the way start your own search. he may not be the one. been there and i know it sucks waiting for someone to love you but your man will come. do not give up.
2006-08-09 21:41:28 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he just wants to hook up, like in a physical way but not really be your boyfriend
2006-08-09 21:39:29 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont worry princess, if he happens that playing arround w/ you, just relax, coz believe, "he's playing the game w/out reading the instruction, when he's going to the right level, trust me, he's going down..... and fall and starts again at the beggining.....
2006-08-09 21:50:40 · answer #9 · answered by cOme_Fly_wiTh_mE 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should talk to him about and if that doesnt work let him because if he really wanted you, he would come to you, i hope everything works out for the better, and do what you thinkis best for yourself too
2006-08-09 21:39:34 · answer #10 · answered by Loveable23 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋