I was feeling fine all day today..just very content as being me and my Lord Jesus...I will always be content with him....but in the emotional realm I just wanted a hottie cutie boy to step out of nowhere and kiss me...and give me a nice hug...and then just snuggle and sit around and laugh and talk and drink tea....and you know how you sit in the park together...and kind of lean on each other...and talk about funny things.....and throw stones in the lake ? ....not sexual...just companionship with the opposite sex...is this my primortial DNA kicking in..? It cant be that mating thing...I dont want to have a baby...yikes...nooooooo way...besides...Im not married....plz advise....
2006-08-09 14:28:05 · 34 answers · asked by ? 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Why do you act like this is a bad thing?
Has the church brainwashed you into thinking that you cannot be friends with anyone of the opposite sex?
Because, clearly, yes you can.
Maybe you should look into getting some guy friends. It might do you some good to have a little extra testosterone in your environment.
2006-08-09 14:33:21 · answer #1 · answered by KylieElenstar 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm not atheist, But, You're feeling normal, very normal...
In religion they did things like circumsize boys so they wouldn't masterbate, and they would tie boys up in sacks when sleeping in the same house as a female unless related. They would check females to see if they had sex. It was very strick.
Today, well, it's not strick anymore. If you're religious you believe, god created Adam and Eve, NO ONE ELSE. And adam and Eve had children. They had no minster to marry them, or anything. They had Two boys. now wait.... how did those two boys make more children? only 4 people existed.
You cant beileve everythign the bible says, because it leaves out everything, it doesn't explain why things are the way they are...
Today, in this day and age, a man typically wont even marry a women he hasnt' had sex with, or been with in a long time. Unless you find a really strict religious guy. and most of them, went religious after in life, so they aren't even virgins...
I only had sex with one person, and i'm married to him, we got married after. But i felt that we were goign to be together, and it felt natural to want to be with him...
Just go with the natural flow, you aren't committing sin, god made man and women, to be together. Man Created Marriage, Marriage is an ultimate commitment, how do you know you want to committ to someone, if you dont feel comfortable enough to have sex with them?
It's true i've been in realtionships for YEARS, and never had sex with them, i didn't feel ready, until i found the right person, and then i wanted too, because i felt i would be comfortable with them... and i did, and now we're married.
SEX and LOVE is not a sin, it's about compainion ship, and trust withs omeone. It's perfectly normal to want to be with someone...
Men and women were married at the age of 15, or younger!!!
because men and women died in their early 30's!
Now people live until their 80's or 90's even, so people marry MUCH later in life.
2006-08-09 14:39:49 · answer #2 · answered by anjui63 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok you must be like 24 or 25 years old..you are lacking in companionship and are yearning for stability in your life.
You feel as you do not belong and you would like to share your thoughts, feelings and emotions with another who will recipricate the gesture or better yet the Love that you have inside of you.
Fear not for it is said that we all have a spiritual partner and sooner or later we all eventually find that Special Someone.
I know it sounds like fallacy but believe you me that those words are truth. We all are intended for another. Someone who will compliment us in every way and love us.
I took a stab at your age because i was curious how old you really were, please let the best answerer know how old you are so that I may see please Hon' ?!
Another thing..love cannot be rushed so have faith and more importantly have patience.
I on, the other hand, am not an athiest so if that disqualifies me my apologies to you. I hope you will find resolution in these words.
Much Love
2006-08-09 14:38:53 · answer #3 · answered by KaizerSose 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People, like all primates, are social. We get a lot of pleasure from being with each other, touching each other, caring for others and being cared about by them. But there's also a sexual part of your desires. Notice how you didn't get the feeling that you wanted just anybody to step out of nowhere and kiss you and cuddle and share the day with you. You didn't want it to be a woman. You didn't want it to be a fat, balding 54 year old guy. You wanted it to be a cute boy of about your age. That's hormones.
The desire for the opposite sex doesn't include just rutting like crazed weasles. You want a partner who will be there for you, protect you, nurture you. That's natural when you are, biologically, seeking a secure father for your future baby.
There's a lot of psychological and biological reasons behind your feelings. It all comes out as a sweet, warm yearning. Of course from a religious perspective such desire interfering with your religious thought would be sin. To those of use who don't believe in sin and try to understand human nature, it all makes a lot of sense and is natural and to be expected.
Why ask only atheists, though?
2006-08-09 14:38:45 · answer #4 · answered by thatguyjoe 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't understand why this is in the Religion & Spirituality section, but whatever, I'll go with it. From what I understand of what you are saying, you want and long for companionship with a 'significant other'. There is nothing wrong with this. You said yourself that you'r not thinking of this in a sexual way, and therefore there is nothing wrong with it. God is not going to begrude you wanting to be happy with another humanbeing... afterall, He gave Eve to Adam for the same companionship that you are longing for now didn't He? Eve wasn't only given to Adam for the procreation of human life. She was made to provide Adam with a partner, and a friend. Someone to laugh with while sitting together and enjoying God's earth.
~God bless
2006-08-09 14:38:07 · answer #5 · answered by Girl 4 God 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well despite you slightly condescending tone I will answer. But yet I know already that my answer will not be sufficient for you, that god must have created the se feelings, that jesus must have. So why do I bother, because you asked me, slight act of amiablity I suppose.
It is chemistry, and if that is not sufficient then I'm not sure what will, as human we have evolved above simple urges to reproduce, and we have our own ideas, based on both religion and psychological advancement. Why do I say religion? Well regardless of whether or not they are true, religion effects our moral standards in society, so your question is answered? Content? Doubt it.
2006-08-09 14:33:53 · answer #6 · answered by valkyrie hero 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is in every human nature to want to be in a relationship. not sexual, but just to have someone to spend time with, and enjoy life with. This does not in anyway mean that you are loosing your relationship with the Lord. The feelings of love and companionship were feelings that were given to us by the Lord. and I see no reason why you should feel bad about having them. It was His intent for us to find someone to love and to hold.
2006-08-09 14:32:51 · answer #7 · answered by Jon P 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LOL First, What does that have to do with atheism? Second it is natural feelings that hormones kick out. And compainionship there is nothing wrong with. Sex there is nothing wrong with if you are old enough to understand it and know how to take precautions. But it doesn't sound like anything sexual. It's natural in both aspects to feel this way.
2006-08-09 14:36:37 · answer #8 · answered by Kelly s 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What? That just sounds like a normal boyfriend/girlfriend relationship, thats completely normal to want. I'm christian too, and content with god but I want that, and I've had it before. Unless you are a nun, I don't think it's a problem. PS why did you address this to atheists?
2006-08-09 14:35:05 · answer #9 · answered by Austin S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im not an atheist, im new age pagan. It sounds like you are lonely for attention. A biologist might say it's your 'clock', or something. Atheist or not, you have feelings, yearnings, non-material needs just like everyone else. You could say that it's just hormones, those can produce 'mystical' experiences. Probably because they are so deep and engrained within our primate physiology. It could be something like 'anscestral memory' or something from a past life, in my opinion.
2006-08-09 14:34:46 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋