We have decided to have my gf choose the girl along with some guidelines. We are both excited about trying this, however, a bit concerned about jealousy issues as well. Any input would be helpful.
2006-08-09 14:10:55 · 13 answers · asked by checkmate929 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
So perhaps this would work better if I was with a friend with benefits as oppossed to a long term gf...? Although, I should add my current gf is bi & really wants to be with another woman in my presence...
2006-08-09 14:23:24 · update #1
Lordy, this is one of those things thats hard to go into all the details with in a little box. Message Me through My contact details and I'll break it down for you.
The short version. Either do it or don't, no guidelines.
Her picking the girl, good thing. Don't do one of her friends though.
Make sure the primary focus through the entire thing is on your girlfriend. Period, end of story. At least 3/4 of the session needs to be you and the other girl making your gf feel like a goddess.
There are tons and tons of potential pitfalls. But if you play your cards right, incredible experience all the way around. Its like christmas and your birthday all wrapped into one wriggling gift.
Seriously, message Me, I've had more than just a couple.
2006-08-09 14:20:27 · answer #1 · answered by cloaked30m 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make all the rules and guidlines you want- it's still a bad idea. Bringing a third party into a relationship almost never brings the pleasure people expect, especially in the long-term. When you're in a serious relationship with someone, it should be exclusive. If there are any serious, committed feelings between the two of you at all, it is bound to cause problems. Trust me, it's a BAD idea. Most relationships don't survive this- it doesn't end up being the big thrill you expect it to be, and it's just not worth it.
2006-08-09 14:16:12 · answer #2 · answered by ?princesshousewife? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi! Well, honestly, i don't think you should try the threesome. One, it's not good for the two of you as individuals; two, it's not good for your relationship. Okay, in this situation, it's a female for the third partner; your girlfriend, at first, might be okay with it, or she might seem that way. But say later down the line, she uses this as an excuse because she wants a threesome with u and another male. I don't think you would like that, not meaning to scold you or anything, but i am honestly just speaking the truth. Also, she would probably think "If u are capable of having sex with another female with me, then of course youd be even more capable of having sex with one, without me"...and trust is the most important thing, so think before you proceed! Good luck and have fun!
2006-08-09 14:17:13 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've had 2.....the first time was with 2 girls that I had no relationship with, they were both just friends with benefits and it was GREAT!!
But the 2nd time was with my girlfriend of 6 months and one of my friends from above, it seemed like a good idea and she was all for it, but after ward all kinds of insecurity issues and jealousy came up........it's just not worth it when it comes to a relationship
2006-08-09 14:19:12 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is fun but ive never done it with someone i really care about i dont think it would work if you really care about the other person because you will get upset that another person is recieving or giving pleasure to the one you care about but if you can overcome that then go ahead youll have a ball!
2006-08-09 14:16:44 · answer #5 · answered by AMANDA 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be careful not to get jelous or make someone else jelous. When you add that to the mix things can get difficult. You have to be very strong in your relationship to have the trust to go outside of it.
2006-08-09 14:13:51 · answer #6 · answered by Jim 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never done it, never will. Sounds pretty selfish to me! I know a couple that had done this, I know cause they wanted me in on it. Obviously I turned down that offer. Not long after there relationship was toast.
2006-08-09 14:22:08 · answer #7 · answered by doesitmatter 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are playing with fire. I don't understand the obsession about this. Why can't you just be happy with your woman? If you love her, you would have more respect for her then this. Do yourself a favor and forget about the stupid ideas.
Enjoy her, and her only.
2006-08-09 14:16:22 · answer #8 · answered by mar 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't do it, it will only harm your relationship. She will never get the image of seeing you with another girl out of her head.
2006-08-09 14:13:57 · answer #9 · answered by Mel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i haven't done it but all my friends who have are divorced seperated or cheating now. but if you have already agreed go for it but i think it does cause serious trust issues.
2006-08-09 14:16:06 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋