he doesnt want to wait for anything and when he doesnt wait he just starts crying or whinning. he wont listen much either hes very very impatient and its really bugging me. any ideas.
2006-08-09 13:59:27 · 9 answers · asked by motherof3 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
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2006-08-09 14:22:25 · answer #1 · answered by aaricka 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not give in, no matter what, and whatever he wanted, make sure he doesn't get it if he whines.
I know the biggest time a kid becomes impatient is when mom is on the phone. If your child asks you a question while you are on the phone, tell him you'll talk to him about it when you are off, but if he asks again before that, the answer will automatically be no. Also tell him how long you will be on the phone, if its something you can come up with a time frame for (I know this isn't always possible).
Give him a time frame for everything. If you're going somewhere and he wants to go now.. tell him it will be in 1/2 hour, and give him a challenge, like "I'll bet you can't get all your toys picked up before we leave..." kids love a dare, and it keeps his mind off whatever it was he wanted.
2006-08-09 22:44:38 · answer #2 · answered by rccola1979 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Impatience is very normal, developmentally, for a six-year-old. He doesn't have a good sense of time yet. When he can't have what he wants right now, it's difficult for him to wait until later.
One strategy to help him practice waiting is to give him a small egg timer or a digital timer. You can buy special kid-friendly models that some parents use for Time Outs. Then you can tell him, "I will come help you in one minute," and show him how to watch the numbers count down. He will know for sure that you WILL help him soon and he will have something to do while he waits.
However, you can't expect a child of his age to wait for longer than a minute or two, and you can't expect him not to whine at all. When he does, keep telling him, "I hear that you are frustrated, but I can't help you right now. I will come in one minute, like I promised." If he knows that you understand his feelings, it will be easier for him to wait.
2006-08-10 12:39:29 · answer #3 · answered by llemma 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When he starts whining and crying, send him to his room. Don't listen to the whining and crying. It will only encourage him to continue. Patience is a learned virtue. So is behaving. If you give in all the time, what reason does the child have to show good behavior or patience?
Don't argue with him!! It will only tell him he can bargain with you for what he wants. Or you will eventually give in to avoid the arguement. Send him to his room until he cools off. All children go through this stage of life. If you don't set him straight now, you will only regret it later. You might want to check out the book 1-2-3 Magic. It works wonders. And it can be found at most local libraries. Good Luck!
2006-08-11 12:40:14 · answer #4 · answered by Mary J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he got what he wanted, you paid him off. If you made him wait longer the next time, and then gave in, you paid him off again. And so it goes until he does it until you are at the end of your last nerve.
You are going to have to come up with consequences. Find out what he really likes and warn him. For example: "The next time you whine or cry, I am going to take away your t.v. time." One warning, and then do it. Don't give in to any tantrums no matter what. Show them the behavior you do want. When your son shows you proper behavior award him. If you are consistant, the behavior should change. 6 year olds can be quite trying, and often their behavior is a result of something that we did as parents. Guilty! I've done it myself. Good luck to you!
2006-08-10 00:08:57 · answer #5 · answered by Teacher Girl 5 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't "make" anyone be patient. You can encourage patience, though.
I would suggest you examine your patience level, along with the patience of your immediate family and others your child is coming in contact with. No one likes to wait. How do you react when you are in a hurry to get somewhere in your car, and have to wait for a red light?
If your child attends day care, pre-school, or is in a public or private school, visit them for a few hours a day for several weeks. Observe your child's behavior and interactions with his/her "other" family. How do they address his/her "impatience"?
Check out the website Teaching Patience/Scholastic.com. As a last resort, check the Yellow Pages for a Child Psychologist.
2006-08-10 01:26:45 · answer #6 · answered by Baby Poots 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
http://www.nogreaterjoy.org
Cut and paste that into your browser..... Look through their Child Training Topics archive... You will find a lot that will be helpful to you....
2006-08-09 21:09:21 · answer #7 · answered by ~Me~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
kids learn from there parents keep that in mind
2006-08-09 21:06:25 · answer #8 · answered by nate224us 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
tell him if he be's good for the day you will get him a toy or something
2006-08-09 22:30:29 · answer #9 · answered by tweenkiekelly 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋