how can i stop the haters? need advice?

Question

i work on a marine base with alot of drill instructors the store i work in there's alot of females who want alot of drill instructors on that base so they flirt all the time with many drill instructors i chose to speak to only one and they are all talking behind my back about me when i don't even bring this guy up at work but there's rumors everywhere about me and him how do i stop it? these ladies are married so i don't even understand why they worry about these drill instructors i'm single and this guy is single so we decided to talk to each other and they are mad.....they even trying to get me fried by telling my boss that i don't clock out all the time which is a lie because i have to go to the managers office to sign out in front of the boss...why are they doing this?most of the drill instructors are also married and they all flirt with these men they are mad because i don't do it.......i'm tired of this and i want it stop PLEASE HELP

Answer 1

Honey, you are a grown woman. You don't have to explain yourself to your co-workers. The sad part about life in general is that PEOPLE ARE GOING TO TALK ABOUT YOU REGARDLESS! You can be the best person and keep to yourself and people will still find something to say. My advice to you is that if you and this guy are "feeling" each other, do your thing. Don't worry about those women at work. I feel that if these women are married and still looking forward to flirting with these men, that sounds like a personal problem on their part, not yours. If they start talking around you, I would say "The good part about me and my friend is that we are grown and free to date, NOT MARRIED". That should shut them up. My bigger concern is that they are trying to start trouble at your job. I would stay on top of my game at work. Meaning that I would do what I am suppose to do, sign in/out when I am suppose to and just "cover my butt" in every area. You don't want to give them any more reasons to go to your boss about something. If things get worse, I would definately sit down with my boss and let him/her know the deal and what problems you are having. I think your co-workers are jealous of you period, so they are going to say something anyway. Don't let them get next to you and keep doing your job and enjoy your new friend. Once they see that what they are saying is not getting next to you, they will soon stop.

Answer 2

your co workers are jerks,
well, i am very sorry to say but, you can't stop rumors, but you can start some on them. Doesn't sound very nice, but if you want revenge, that's what you can do.
Second option : ignore the ladies at work, you wont work with them forever, so who cares what anybody thinks, if you like the guy, ignore those jerks, even if you don't like the guy any more than a friend, tell the ladies at work, you don't like how they're talking about you, don't speak to them, just don't let that bother you.
Good Luck, hope it works out, ☺

Answer 3

maybe you dont because you have a little class. class cant be taught its just there. men respect hard to get women,cuz its more of a challenge. the easy ones are one night screws and throw aways. just a mans opinion

Answer 4

Have you tried talking to the manager about their behavior? That might be your only way to stop it.