Well, I'm a 21 year old male virgin studying Film and Psychology at NYU - I remember learning in my Psych Class that people who aren't in (or who never had) any intimate relationships cut short their life span by about 15-20 years. Is their any way around this (besides getting a gf)? I want to live as long as I can whilst remaining a virgin and it sucks to know that I'll die earlier just because I'll be a single virgin. I know that I'll never get into or want to get into an intimate relationship but I'm sure that I will want to eventually have two children of my own by cloning - when will the technology become available?
Is it actually true that male virgins older than 20 are looked down at? I thought it was a virtue to remain un-adultered.......and this is coming from an agnostic!
Anyways, any tips any of you have would be great! Thanks!
2006-08-09 13:50:04 · 50 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
Seems that many think that this question is a joke - its actually not. I really dont want to shave off 20 years of my life just because I'll never get a gf. What if someone is too ugly to get a gf - how would they feel?
2006-08-09 14:29:00 · update #1
My choice for remaining a virgin are basically that I'm actually disgusted with the act of sex and the fact that people are so full of sh*t anyways. Plus girls seem to hate me as I'm only 5'6" - and I have nothing at all in common with any girl and I'm never interested as it is. I'd rather really just hang out by myself, become a screenwriter, composer, - but for some stupid primative psychological reason it seems that everyone has to have a mate in order to live a longer life. That pissed me off finding out that I can lose up to 20 years of my life!
2006-08-09 17:58:51 · update #2
Consider that if you are going to have children, you need to NOT die younger than necessary. While you may be asexual (not terribly uncommon).
And, think about deciding for children that they don't need a mother. At least consider adopting some kids who need a parent (and who have none).
You may someday find someone who is also not interested in sex, but can share a relationship with you.
Go see an internist and get your Testosterone levels checked.
2006-08-17 12:49:36 · answer #1 · answered by Love2Sew 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
My question to you is.......Why?
Please don't get me wrong there is absolutely nothing wrong with being a virgin. I just can not imagine going thru life unloved. I am not talking about the parental/siblng type. I realize that I am a romantic, but I firmly believe that there is someone out there for everyone. You may not meet that person until you are 40-50 yrs old. My husband was 40 when we got married (19 yrs ago). Even though he had lived with another woman he had never been married before.
Stay a virgin, but don't give up on being in a realtionship.
2006-08-09 14:18:53 · answer #2 · answered by suequek 5 · 3⤊ 3⤋
I'm not sure where did you get that statistics that virgins don't live as long. If it is averaged over *all* virgins - maybe it is a bad stats. Many people don't make that choice, it is made for them: they may be already so unhealthy that they cannot even get into a relationship (I imagine a yoing person in a wheel chair with some really unfortunate desease.) I'd check the stats first if I were you.
As for "male virgins over 20 are looked down at" - depends on who you ask. If you ask me - it's your business, and noone elses. Don't tell them and they won't know. ;-) because they don't need to know. There is soooo much more to any person, than their virginity.
2006-08-09 15:25:55 · answer #3 · answered by Snowflake 7 · 4⤊ 1⤋
Don't believe everything you read. Being a virgin does NOT cut your life short. And being a virgin IS a virtue to be proud of. (Jesus stayed a virgin).
But yea, unfortunately virgins are kinda looked at as being odd but that's only because the world....led on by the media.....has lost all sense of the value of morals. They say " If it feels good-- do it!".
I say do your thing. Don't follow the crowd. You want to stay a virgin? Stay a virgin. In the end you'll gain respect because you show that this type of self-control IS possible.
As for the cloning??......interesting. My opinion is that a mother AND a father is a necessity for a child. But that's just my opinion.
2006-08-09 14:11:45 · answer #4 · answered by ZEE 5 · 4⤊ 1⤋
believe everything you read. Being a virgin does NOT cut your life short. And being a virgin IS a virtue to be proud of. (Jesus stayed a virgin).
But yea, unfortunately virgins are kinda looked at as being odd but that's only because the world....led on by the media.....has lost all sense of the value of morals. They say " If it feels good-- do it!".
I say do your thing. Don't follow the crowd. You want to stay a virgin? Stay a virgin. In the end you'll gain respect because you show that this type of s
2014-09-19 09:11:50 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude, what a load of BS.
The question is probably not serious, but your reasoning is pretty clearly BS.
//My choice for remaining a virgin are basically that I'm actually
//disgusted with the act of sex and the fact that people are so full
//of sh*t anyways.
Suuuure. Smoke screen here.....
//Plus girls seem to hate me as I'm only 5'6" - and I have nothing
//at all in common with any girl and I'm never interested as it is.
//I'd rather really just hang out by myself, become a screenwriter,
Ah-ha! Here we go.
In fact, you're socially inept and pissed about it. I know folks like this, in fact I've been there.
Lighten the f*ck up, Francis. If you'd like to be a screenwriter really should have a clue about human relationships, so get with the program and find yourself an angsty little art chick to get busy with. Films are gonna be pretty dull otherwise.
Plus sex feels GREAT!
2006-08-12 04:21:15 · answer #6 · answered by SillyQuestion 3 · 1⤊ 8⤋
Intimate relationships don't have to mean sexual relationships. That might have been what they speaking of, but to me, I believe a close friend or confidant can be intimate. I'm not a psychologist, but this is a question that could take a long time to answer. I respect your beliefs and admire your determination. No, I don't look down on people who are virgins. It's your own choice. The fact that you said the act of sex disgusts you sent up a flag. My short answer to this perplexing question would be to find a friend, someone you trust and can become close to. Live your life to the fullest and damn psych books. I wish you the best.
2006-08-17 05:39:28 · answer #7 · answered by Alicia L 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
(edited after you told us why you have made this decision)
About living less, well, I'm not sure if that's true. You can find priests of every religion that live well into old age. Plus, if you're going to be happy in the way you choose to live your life (writing, alone - that's fine), then enjoy your life, even if you don't live 95 years!
On the other hand, it sounds like you have some issues to resolve, including your height. Being 5'6 is not why you can't find a girlfriend, it's your attitude about it.
I wish you the best.
2006-08-09 17:45:36 · answer #8 · answered by Belindita 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I believe that stat you are referring to is for people that stay single their entire life and is not restricted to virgins.
I think the reason why their lives are rter than non-virgins is because of issues such as isolation, depression, poor eating habits, lack of exercise. When you have a partner or someone to share your life with (even for a few months at a time) your overall health improves.
Also, if you are actively searching for sex then you are probably taking better care of yourself to make yourself more physically appealing.
If you don't want to ever have sex then good for you for believing in that. You can keep your life going long by doing the things that contribute to a healthy body (exercise, proper nutrition, interraction with others).
Good luck
2006-08-11 19:31:40 · answer #9 · answered by Scooter 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
That's not true! ..and you will eventually find a girlfriend ..and you will eventually have sex. Just don't stress out about it dude. The right girl is out there for you. Good things happen for those who wait. But that doesn't mean you give up. You don't have to have sex just because everyone else claims to be doing it. It's highly *over-rated.
Be yourself. Get more involved into activities that interest you outside of your school work ..and you will eventually meet someone - but you have to be open minded.
..and it's not all about sex when you happen to meet that person, it's about other things. Be an actual friend to the girl ..forget about some expectations.
2006-08-15 16:15:44 · answer #10 · answered by justme 4 · 2⤊ 4⤋