Do u think this is right?

Question

iI live in the UK and i get aprox £30 per week pocket money, but in return im expected not only to keep my room tidy, but also to wash pots after tea & during school hols to help my mom clean the house in genral!

ok,ok, so my mom does the biggest part of the cleaning! but heck im just a 13 year old kid!!! surly my mom should relize in years to come I'LL HAVE ENOUGH CLEANING TO DO????
So do u think my mom is "Right" or "Wrong"?

Answer 1

right.
she is preparing you for the whole theory of if you want money you have to earn it.
no doubt your mum works very hard looking after you and any other family that you have - in return you have to do a little cleaning to get some money - doesn't sound to bad does it. Also its preparing you for when you will have enough cleaning to do!

Grin and bear it = your mum is right.

Answer 2

She is totally right. I'm not even a mom or anything, I'm just 24, but already I think that when I have kids I'll be putting them to work when they get old enough to do so. Part of becoming an adult is acting like one and so with your extended privileges and allowance you also have to earn it by acting responsibly and helping out the family with whatever you are able to do, and fixing tea and cleaning is quite within your abilities at 13. Take it as a chance to prove that you are a responsible adult. The more you fight it, the less privileges you will enjoy, and the more you do it willingly, the more impressed your parents will be with you and you'll be treated more like an adult and trusted.

Answer 3

So, what would you like to do - sit down in the family room, watch tv and play online game, and perhaps incure some telephone bills talking to your friends while your mum does all the washing, cooking, and after that she then takes on the responsibility to provide for your shelter, clothing, feeding! So lets assum that your Dad and other siblines have the same expectation of your mum, tell me what she has done to deserve such cruelty.

I really do not think that your mum is paying you £30 because you are doing dishes, I guess she is doing it as part of caring for you and making sure you have the basic needs you ever wanted.

In my view, you actually should not be paid a dime for helping in the house, it is part of taking responsibility, you learn and teach your own kids when you grow up and marry. Where has the love for mum gone?

Answer 4

your mum is right!!!!My daughter is 12 and she has to keep her room clean, put away the dishes, feed the animals and take out the rubbish and she only gets $5 australia a week, and she is pretty happy with that.plus she helps me bring in some wood too plus any other little jobs that need doing.Your 30 pounds a week converts into around $74 aust dollars so stop your whinning your spolit little prissy and if i were your mother id get you nothing but a kick up the bum..lol No wonder you kids today are like the way you are,, you expect everything for nothing and don't seem to think about what it costs to raise a kid plus ever heard of helping someone just cause you love them??? Wait till you have kids..hahaha

Answer 5

I think your mom is right. You may be 13 but there is never an age when learning responsibilties is to young.

It doesn't sound like she asks all that much from you to begin with. Your room is a given no matter what and how bad you let it go before you tidy is up to you. Make it easy on yourself and do it daily.

With the two of you working it shouldn't take to long and besides, your 13 where do you have to be that's so important?

Answer 6

quit complaining and live with it. you will thank your mom one day for this. it is called tough love. she is attempting to teach you a little thing called responsibility.
hell i had to do more than that for less than a tenth of what you are given. back when i was your age and that was 20 years ago.
and yes one day you will have to do a lot of cleaning much like your mom does for you now. I suggest you get your mom to teach you how to do the laundry so that in years to come you will be able to do it properly.
you say your mom should realise in years to come you will have to do your own cleaning, she is trying to get you to clean properly.

so to sum up your mom is 100% right.
i know it is not what you want to read but face facts you need to help out and so should your father and other siblings. remember your mom is not a slave and so if you love your mom help around the house without being asked you will be surprised the more you do your allowance may go up as a result if you're lucky.

Answer 7

Sorry, but your mom is totally right. Your mom is not your maid. You help make the mess and eat the food. Your mom is also not an ATM. If you really think it is unfair, make a new deal:
stop helping with the cleaning
tell your mom you don't want the money
find a job that will pay you hourly to replace the money

I promise if you try this for a while, you will want the old system back. Frankly, you sound quite spoiled to me.

Answer 8

All this will fall in place in years to come.What your mum is teaching you is vital for you.
My 15 year old gets £20 a week pocket money.Once a week she has to do the dishes after our dinner (while her 20 year old sister puts the dishes away) She also helps in dusting every other friday.The 20year old also dusts every other friday
We have a rota system for every day of the week. My wife and I also do the cooking, do the dishes and put them away too. In this day and age you should not expect just your parents to do everything.In most families both the parents go out to work,so everyone in the family has to do their bit for the family to function properly.
One day you will get your children to do exactly what your mum is making you do.
And anyway you have no argument..... Mums are always right!!!!

Answer 9

She is not only giving you work, but teaching you what you would learn the hard way later. Hard work is part of life. She is also showing you how not be lazy, but also to accept responsibility to do certain things without being told. These will help you as an adult to make it in the workplace. If you don't learn them now chances are you won't try later. What she is doing is helping you see what is ahead and prepare for it. Even wild animals learn to be ready for adulthood by the parents.

Answer 10

I had to wash the car, do all the washing up, and get at least B's in every subject to get £20 a month. You getting a fortune I get only £100 a week now from work and I am £25 and have biils to pay!