Anger management?

Question

I am 200% SICK of my mom. She is SO childish. I need school supplies so I told her on the phone, but she has a major problem of not listening, or willing to care for me and my siblings. She RARELY ever supports us in any activity. In fact, she always calls us names and words, and always is mad at us. She even occassionally gives us threats, when we're not around [apparently I eavesdrop]. I am so mad//sad of my life. It makes me so sick of my life!!!! What should I do to make her 'less' unkind??!!

I'm just 13! My birthday is August 16th, and barely anyone cares!

And she always tries to act nice and innocent if there are others or guests around!

I need quite a few supplies such as a scientific calculator, and more. But she tells others not to take me anywhere so I can think of it as punishment, --for nothing!!!!

Answer 1

Well, as much as you had to complain about you did not give us enough information.

For instance is your mother a single parent with a bunch kids, not getting any child support, having difficulty paying the heating bill that went up 30% this year and still climbing.? Is having trouble filling her gas tank because of the $3.00+ per gallon to get her to her job?. Is anyone helping her with chores around the house, like emptying or filling the dishwasher, sorting the dirty laundry, washing the clothes putting it away? Who is cleaning the toilets now a days? Who is doing the vacuuming, dusting, setting the table, changing the bedsheets, doing the grocery shopping, preparing the meals, emptying the garbage, mowing the lawn, feeding and walking the dogs. changing the cat box and bird cage? Huh?

Have you considered getting a paper route to buy your own supplies?

You said you were 13 right? . At 13, I had 10 babysitting jobs, paid for my school lunches and bus tickets to school and learned to sew and bought and paid for the material and patterns myself. Why? My parent did not have the m-o-n-e-y!

Maybe your mom is 200% flat broke and afraid to tell you how unwell the family finances are so you won't feel like you are on skid row. Maybe she is worried sick about how she is going to care for her ungrateful children. So she ignors you because she is 200% ashamed she can't help you. And you call her childish?

Think about those things and come back later to give us another report and we will talk about your "anger management.". I'll be waiting for you. Okay?

Answer 2

I am a mom of 3. I have a 12 year old. I am so sorry that you feel this way. Maybe you should sit down with your mom when she is in a good mood and talk to her about how you feel. Sometimes parents say things that they do not mean. Or don't know that they are hurting your feelings. Maybe her parents treated her the same way and she doesn't realize that she is treating you this way. As far as school supplies make a list and put it on your fridge. A nice reminder. If none of this works then try talking to your school counselor.

Answer 3

Reading others answers, we all pretty much agree that this is a difficult situation. It sounds like your mother is a single parent. I do NOT see this as a valid excuse. I was single with 4 children and my children never went without school supplies. There are lots of psychological disorders that could contribute to your mothers behavior or it could be that she is emotionally drained, but no matter what the reason, it is wrong. You need to contact a councelor or a close adult family member, whatever feels safest. You do not need to be feeling so alone and distraught at your age. You should be the child not the care taker. Good luck and god bless.

Answer 4

First thing I want to say is HAPPY BIRTHDAY to who I think is a very strong young lady. I don't really think your mom is mad at you or your siblings you give the impression that she is by herself if this is true she may be having a hard time with that. I'm sure she loves you all she's just going through a ruff time. Are there any grandparents you can go to help for school. You just hang in there things have a way of working out STAY STRONG

Answer 5

hi Tnisha It appears like a continual habit you developed someplace on your existence. in case you have continuously had this subject, it rather is totally probable considered one of your mum and dad deals with their frustration interior an identical way. you need to re-determine your self in this section. First - there are countless anger administration books in bookstores or obtainable online. 2nd - in simple terms approximately each and every city or city has an anger administration help team the place you may a thank you to regulate your anger till now it receives finished-blown. third - This additionally falls below Cognitive-Behavioural medical care. try a close-by psychological wellness medical institution, in case you do not have the money to be sure a therapist, or come across a psychologist who deals with Anger administration themes. Sorry to tell you this, yet as we become previous, our undesirable conduct get even worse till we interfere and alter. good luck.

Answer 6

I don't know why your mother treats you this way. That is horrible. Why don't you try leaving her notes about the things you need, like the school supplies? It might not help, but it might and at least you won't have to listen to her calling you names. The note might help her remember too if she does not listen very well.

I am sorry you have to go through that honey. I hope there is someone else in your life who can help you. I wish that it will get better for you.

Answer 7

There are people that you can talk to about this that can help you deal with your anger.If what you say about your mom is true,she needs help as well.Don't do anything that might hurt you or someone else,It's not worth it.You have siblings right?Maybe,if she is raising all of you by herself,she too is having a hard time managing everything without any help.Do your part on the house,and talk to your siblings to see if they will do the same.That may help her to not be so mean.Try it and see how it works.

Answer 8

First of all HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!! for Wednesday.
please slow down you are too young to be 200% sick of anyone!!
there could be money problems?
Just be patient, if you have to, borrow what you need for now from a friend!!
looking at some of the people that have answered so far
A LOT OF PEOPLE CARE ABOUT YOU
give your mum some space, try to find a few odd jobs in the neighbourhood.
Don't be so angry, try smiling at your mum more often.

Answer 9

oh boy you sound somewhat suicidal.
please be patient with your life , okay hun, this will soon end once you are old enough to live on your own. I was sick of my life at 13, and now Im 19 and in a better situation!
Though I am not sick of my mom , my dad drives me pretty nuts. I have decided that its time for me to be a little more responsible with myself, so I decided to get a serious, sign legal papers have a boss, job. You may be able to get a simple job somewhere and start saving up.
At one point you realize in your life that, contray to what the media paints a family to be , not all familys end up with loving parents and kids with simple lives. Some of us go through $h!t. And at one point you may find yourself more responsible for taking care of your basic needs than most other kids. Its a tough lesson to learn at 19, but harder for 13.
Especially hard if you expect your parents to take care of you. If you realize that you have responsibility over your life, then its not so bad.
save up for a future and remember as much as you cant stand her, she is the reason you are in the world and not on the street fending for food. sometimes you have to learn to deal with certain people for as long as needed until you get your way and are able to deal with them as little as possible.
maybe one day she will realize the way she treats her kids is one reason the really dont like being around her. SOME parents really do work against themselves and push their kids away.

Answer 10

your 'mom' is either in need of parental counciling or medical attention. get on the phone or go to a friends house and talk about the problems you stated. most public schools have organizations within the community to help with school supplies, check it out.
i had been blamed for so much exaggerating at that age, and even to this day, i went through the same crap you have many times with my mother, and i still feel that that woman was selfish and self-centered and ignored her parental responsibilities. get some help quick, you need it before you end up with health problems yourself.