I's so depressed and frustrated!... Help me plz!?

Question

me and my family were in the airport... going back home after we had a great vacation in Europe..my mom and dad had a big fight the time we arrived home because of a very stupid subject... the problem is the old stuff that they used be angry about before started to be shown.. and my father is thinking about a divorce.. i dont know what to do.. my mother is very upset and she doesnt want to say sorry and even dad! i dont know what to do ? help me .. im so sad.. i feel terrible?!

the problem is ... that me and my sister is the ball that is being kicked by dad and mom !

I wanna thank you all for ur support :)

Answer 1

i am going through the same thing with my parents I am 32 yrs old now and my parents have fought my entire life, as a teenager and now as an adult i worry myself sick over them, believe me there isn't a thing that YOU can do about it , I know it's frustrating, but they are adults and they should behave like adults, try to throw yourself into school work, friends or whatever to take your mind off of their problems, don't let their selfishness ruin your happiness, believe me i know, i've let it ruin mine my entire life, please live your life and try to be happy, it's out of your hands. Good Luck!

Answer 2

I can't even begin to tell you the arguments that me and my siblings witnessed as children, and had to listen to all sorts of threats of divorce from both of my parents. There were six of us caught up in the middle. Sometimes some would "side" with a different parent, and that caused problems with the whole family.
What got to me the most was that it happened in front of all of us, or whoever was around, it just didn't seem to matter to them, and that hurt us all.
It could very well be that they were both very tired after the vacation, and were " venting " as many married people do.
However, if your Dad is serious about a divorce, I hate to say it, but there's really nothing that you or your sister can do.
But you both need to sit down and figure out exactly what you want to say to both of them. Then you go to them when you know they have the time, and tell them, you have a very serious problem that the two of you need to discuss with them.
The main thing to remember is that this has nothing to do with either you or your sister. This has something to do with their past, that they can't seem to get over. Tell them to either get over it, and become a family unit again, or get on with the process. Tell them what it is doing to you and your sister.
It sounds like this happened pretty recently, so do it as soon as possible. Don't wait too long. It sounds like it's already hurt you enough, and there's only one way to stop the pain.
If you have to, go to one parent at the time before you sit down with both of them. That may soften the conversation a little.
Good luck, and God bless you and your family.
You've gotten a lot of advice here on this situation. Pick and choose what is best for your own individual solution.

Answer 3

I am sorry to hear that your parents are fighting. That is a frightening thing for families to go through. I do not know how old you are, although it seems that you are a teen or preteen from the tone and wording of your question. You cannot do anything to help your parents get through this upset. They are the adults and have to work through their problems. Human beings, even those that love each other; have arguments and disagreements. If divorce is something that is being considered; it is not a good thing to go through. If your parents cannot find their way back to each other, and cannot live together happily; it may be the best solution for them. Your parents will always be your parents, and will always love you. Hopefully, this will work out well for all of you. I will say a prayer for all of you and try to send happy thoughts your way. My best wishes to you all.

Answer 4

I'm not sure there is much you can do. I'm sorry your going through this. Divorce between parents can be really really hard...especially for the kids. Go to your dad and look him in the eyes...and say "Are you and mom really thinking about getting a divorce?"...and start crying...because then he'll know your being sincere...and he'll feel bad and talk with you. He might say "yes...i think we are"...or he might say "Oh...No...I didn't mean that...i was just mad"...but whatever he says...he'll explain everything and he'll tell you the right words that no one on here can tell you. Best of luck! God Bless!!!

Answer 5

That's the problem with family arguments, they rarely stay confined to the people engaged in them; everyone in the area is drawn to one side or the other, families polarize, and everyone gets upset. Here's a very important fact that will help you keep this in context: Every couple goes through problems ( you will too one day with your mate). We can feel for them, hurt for them, and try to understand all we want, but ultimately it is their responsibility to solve it themselves. That is as true for you as it was for me with my mom and dad. It may seem a little hard-hearted to say "it's their problem" but that happens to be the truth of the matter. Nothing you can do will improve that situation, because you are their child ( and that would be true still if you were forty years old). You're blameless and it's not your responsibility. You can listen to them if they need that level of support ( but likely as parents they will refuse that offer) because even they recognize they don't want you caught up in the middle of their issues. If their issues begin to get beyond them, they may seek out counselling...that would certainly be wise, but they would never look to their off-spring to help solve an adult, marital matter. Good luck to you and your whole family as you negotiate this hurdle, but remember these things I've said.

Answer 6

Sadly, there is very little you can do. Your parents are both adults (even though they may not be acting that way right now). You really must tell them both how you feel, don't keep the feelings inside and let it eat at you. Ask them if they would consider family counseling, sometimes an outside opinion and guidance call help. I wish you the very best of luck.

Answer 7

ya know what i am gonna help u be the adult in this situation, u write this down n practice it ..ready.." mom , dad i need to talk to u about something, sit down(no not u them) i am tired of this, get ova it already, ur adults n ur fightin ova stupid things that shouldnt matter, so why is it i am acting more like an adult then both of u? why cant both of u let it go, grow up already! i mean damnit u 2 love eachotha so get ova it, stop fightin about it, learn to let the little things go and be happy like u use to be. now go to ur room til u can work it out ( not u agian send them) if they look at u funny yell louder.. be serious..too many ppl fight ova lil things (if it was a cheatin issue then throw in there that they choose to stay together so do it)

Answer 8

I'm sure everything will work it's self out....let them have they're space and they will get over it! When your mad somethings come out that are very mean and that you don't think about what your saying when you say it!! So keep your head up and try really hard not to get in the middle of it!!

Answer 9

The only thing I could suggest is for you and your sister to get them to sit with the two of you and listen to you. It may not be easy but this way you and your sister can let them know what you feel and who knows they may really listen and might learn something . Also could be more to it than you know .

Answer 10

I am sorry you are going through this. But this really is something that is only between your mom and dad. I know you love them both. Just try to be there for them...that means just loving them both. Don't take sides. Just love them.