I went back to work a month ago after staying home since my children were born (they're 1 1/2 and 2 1/2). When I get home, all hell breaks loose. My girls will dump things on the floor, fight, throw toys, and will NOT listen! It's driving me insane. I love my kids more than anything and they have always been great kids. Is there anything I can do to stop this behavior?
2006-08-09 12:27:44 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
My kids stay with their grandma 4 hours while I'm away and with their dad the remainder(usually about 5 hours). They're really good for both grandma and dad. I also discipline them. They get their butts spanked when they need it as well as their toys get taken away.
2006-08-09 12:43:10 · update #1
I'm sorry to hear that things are so chaotic...I believe the answer may be that you started work again. They're having a hard time getting used to the idea of you not being around, and their anger/confusion/saddness is being shown in the only way they know how...by doing the worse things imaginable in order to get every single minture available to get your attention.
But hang in there, talk to them, spend as much time with them letting them know exactly why you are going back to work and that just because you're doing it doesn't mean that you don't love them.Good luck..you sound like a very loving mama.
A great book: Perfect Maddness : Motherhood in the age of anxiety.
2006-08-09 12:36:31 · answer #1 · answered by jkautt 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe your children act like this because they know they can get away with it easily. It all depends on who you leave your children with when you go to work: for example, if it was your husband or babysitter, they might be way more reluctant to display such behaviour in front of them. But as soon as you get home, they think "mom's home, time to have some fun" and let out all their bottled up energy. Or perhaps it's because they just want your attention because they miss you when you go to work. Every child craves a loving parent's attention because it makes them feel worth it and makes them feel better.
To try to get them to stop, try keeping them occupied with simple activites and involve yourself in them as well (i.e. spend time with them). That way they won't go around doing bad stuff because they will have your attention. If you want them to stop, also find other ways to tell them this isn't good behaviour and be gentle about it. Children are fragile and don't need harsh, threatening words, etc... especially at your children's young age.
2006-08-09 19:36:10 · answer #2 · answered by ♥TransylvanianVamp♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They are working out the anxiety of your absence. Remember they have no sense of time...an hour might as well be ten hours they don't know the difference. When you get home they are showing you how much they missed you...even though it doesn't seem like that to you. They are showing off for you to get the attention they missed all day while you are gone. It's totally normal and they will outgrow it...in about five years.
2006-08-09 19:37:57 · answer #3 · answered by Perry L 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I kept my daughters children and they were good until she got home. I encourage her to just come and pick the kids up and not stay. That way the children did not have time to act out at my house. If your children are staying at grandmothers house just go and pick them up. you can come back on the weekend and visit with your mother. I bet it bothers grandmother too. When you get home take time to read to them and spend some time with them before you start supper.
2006-08-13 18:07:34 · answer #4 · answered by M. W 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your not going to like the answer. Stay home with them until they are in school. They need your attention and discipline.
2006-08-09 19:33:41 · answer #5 · answered by chris 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good luck finding one. I have 5 that i am at home with all day and mine do it to me all day. I usually have to wait for their dad to come home because then they don't dare take advantage when he's home. Sad when we're the mom and they treat us so poorly. Wait until they get older, it just gets worse.
2006-08-09 19:33:53 · answer #6 · answered by ~SSIRREN~ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
they are acting out because they miss you. The most important thing in their life isnt there for a good part of the day now. It takes alot of time patience and loving.
2006-08-09 19:32:26 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
they want attention...when you come home from work, set down with them and do an activity. make sure when all hell breaks loose then disipline them. put them on time out for a few minutes
2006-08-09 19:36:03 · answer #8 · answered by sara 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most likely they miss u being right there all the time. So they dont have someone to stop them form doing those things.
2006-08-09 19:33:24 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time to act like a parent.
2006-08-09 19:32:33 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋