suggestions please
2006-08-09 12:20:53 · 54 answers · asked by SCHMUCKY 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
this isnt an umbrella answer.
to be honest, some of us want to be left the hell alone before we ******* rip off your balls and force feed them to you.
some of us want a lot of attention with a long make out session and back massage included.
some of us want chocolate or our favorite home cooked food.
some of us want nap time.
some of us wanna cuddle and watch a movie.
there are a million things that you could do for your girl friend. just dont be an asshole....and be prepared to take some **** and grumpy answers no matter what.
on the flipside, that was very sweet of you to ask about what you can do to help your girlfriend while shes having that special time, because it sucks....a lot. good luck.
2006-08-09 12:29:07 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give her a test hug and go from there. If she responds well, continue with giving her attention. If she doesn't, try to get out of there without being hurt and try again later bearing a peace offering. If she still doesn't come around, just stay out of the way, but make sure she knows you're there if she wants you. Sometimes the best way to comfort someone is to be there without being there. They don't want to worry about having you in the room, but they don't want to feel like you abandoned them because they're going through the bad part of the monthly cycle of hell.
Also, giving her some space can be good because she might say/do things that she will later regret, and then might stay farther away from you because of guilt. So be sensitive to what she wants, have patience, and for the love of God don't make her bring up terms like 'period' or 'pms' (since even if she knows you know she's reached that time of the month, she might not feel like talking about it.) Its embarrassing, and she feels bad enough without having someone forcing her to bring up the subject. Good luck, you're gonna need it.
2006-08-09 12:49:18 · answer #2 · answered by V 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be extra nice, don't pick a fight, don't get snippy, rub her back, brush her hair, ask her if she wants anything that mood can be changed if someone responds to you in the right way, it can also come back. Also understand that it isn't about you she is just feeling like crap. Treat her the way you would want to be treated if you were having a bad day and feeling upset. Do NOT ever say its just your period so you are being a b*tch, ever, you won't be forgiven for it, we aren't making this stuff up and that is the equivalent of us saying that just because you broke your leg doesn't mean you can't sprint to the mail box and see what ads came today!
2006-08-09 12:29:10 · answer #3 · answered by dappersmom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask her if she has cramps, or feels bad and REALLY listen when she responds. Offer to rub her lower back, and try to understand if she is grumpy. The best thing to do is to be of assistance without being overbearing..and DON'T start a fight..
And yeah, offer to go get her some food that she might be craving..
2006-08-09 12:25:23 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be understanding. Don't bother her as much. When she gets mad for no apparent reasons or just goes off on you, DONT panic or make things worse. BELIEVE ME. Listen to her when she wants to talk. And help her out. Don't bring up things that can make her mad/jealous etc. [Its only for about a week, so dont worry, things will pass.] You have to understand women can get very emotional && have the worse mood swings!
2006-08-09 12:26:40 · answer #5 · answered by Monica. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be very patient and receptive. If you ask her something and she responds crankily don't assume she is mad at you. Pamper her, do whatever she asks (within reason). Surprise her, bring her a favorite candy bar, rent a favorite movie, suggest going out for dinner or maybe getting take-out. Prove to her that you are there no matter what.
2006-08-09 12:25:18 · answer #6 · answered by katiej47 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honestly, every woman is different. Most just want to be left alone (be careful, that is very different than being ignored). Ask her if there is anything that you can do for her. Tell her she's beautiful (let her scoff at the remark , because we all feel like whales on our period). Just be good to her and let the time pass.
Good luck
2006-08-09 12:25:30 · answer #7 · answered by shasta 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I get like that, a hug works wonders. You have like 4 kinds of periods. The easy one, the angry one, the weepy one and the painful one. Poor guy, all he can do is figure out which one it is and act accordingly. Easy one, change nothing. Angry one; try not to screw up-good luck. Weepy one: hug her and tell her you love her. Painful one; rub her back. Above all, no matter what kind it is, he should not (he will learn this quickly) utter the words "You're PMS'ing aren't you?"
2006-08-09 12:27:50 · answer #8 · answered by justme 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing you can do honestly is leave us alone, this is something we go through every month and **** doesn't change we have awful mood swings, cramps, bloating, headaches, you name it we've got it. So unless you want to feel the wrath of something awful "get out of your girlfriend's way" this will benefit you in the long run.
2006-08-09 12:26:49 · answer #9 · answered by Ms. Hot Chocolate 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no way to fix the hormonally induced psychological ***** disorder. You deal with it, minimizing the effects on yourself by keeping your mouth shut and staying out of the way, or you plan your fishing trips around a 28 day cycle.
2006-08-09 12:27:10 · answer #10 · answered by a_poor_misguided_soul 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋