What would you do?

Question

my gf wont let me go to las vegas for my friends 25th bday, she says she'll break up with me if i go, i love her and everything, but i may never get an oppertunity to do this again. what would u do?

id invite her but my friend hates her pretty much, and thats outta the question, plus we live together so i cant exactly afford to break up with her, and thats not the only reason im with her.

also we have major trust issues.

Answer 1

I would tell her something like..."Look honey. You know I love you and I'm not doing this to hurt you, but this is my friend and it's a special occasion. This is a one time thing, and I'm going. If that means you're going to leave me, then you don't love me as much as you claim. If you did, you would love me enough to let me go and be happy for me, KNOWING that it's an opportunity I may never have again... and trust that I'm coming back to you. Control games are no way to maintain a relationship, and as much as I DO love you, it strains our relationship when you think the only way to keep me, is to threaten to leave if I don't do what you want. I don't want to be controlled. I don't like to be controlled, and I won't be controlled. Now you decide."

Answer 2

I was gonna say invite her too, but that probably puts a damper on the whole weekend with the boys, huh? This is tricky because if you go, you lose her. But if you stay, you risk years worth of relationship turmoil because she will always be determining just what you can and cannot do. Does she have reason to think you'll cheat? She may be a control freak or just trying to get you to respect her wishes. There is a fine line between the two sometimes. I might be worried if my guy wanted a weekend in Vegas alone too. But if he went, I'd use that time to go out with my own girls and have some fun...And then when I wanted to go on some girl's trip without his ***? He couldn't say jack...Bottom line, she shouldn't be so jealous and controling....Go on the trip.

Answer 3

I think she's using it as an excuse to break up with you. Ok, so things do tend to get a little wild in Vegas (speaking from experience) but if you're serious, they won't get to the breaking up part of wild! Sounds more to me like there's already some trust issues that aren't going to get better no matter which way you go. You're in a catch 22! Good luck!

Answer 4

The only opportunity you will miss if you don't go is your friends 25th b-day. You will have other opportunities to go and with your girlfriend. You should base your life on the one you love, she will (hopefully) be around a lot longer than your friend will. Friends come and go in our life time and if you have a good woman, stick with her through thick and thin. Just my thoughts. I have been married for 25 years and I would rather be doing things with my wife that with my friends.

Answer 5

you should sit down with her and explain that you love her but she should not make you choose between her and your friends. Sounds like she dont trust you. if there is no trust, there is no relationship. maybe she has low self esteem and thinks if she loses you, she cant find no one else. let her know she is the one. also, if your friends are truely friends, they need to accept her as your girlfriend

Answer 6

I'd tell her bye and have a blast in Vegas.
Plenty of women out there, but only one Vegas.

Answer 7

If she is going to limit your movements, then she is not right for you, but then again have you done something to her in the past that would illicate such an action?

Answer 8

i would go if i were you. if she really loves you then she wont breka up with you for something like that. so if you do go and she breaks up with you, its ok because you probably deserve some one better.

Answer 9

just go she is too controlling and u should be able to go out with ur friends she needs to loosen up i see why ur friends hate her

Answer 10

Invite her