I'm sort of at a loss, I love him and now it feels like there is nothing for us to work toward (beside marriage, which is not anywherre in my near future). It's not that I love him and now I'm over it. What can we do to keep growing our relationship, to keep developing and deepening our love?
2006-08-09 12:11:03 · 22 answers · asked by katiej47 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
How about allowing yourself to grow as a couple?
As the "I love you" comes the realization that you two are a couple and in it for the long run. Work on trying new things together, and exploring the different sides of your partner.
Don't be afraid of change. Just go with the flow! Pick a new hobby--try a cooking, massage, or gardening class. Do things TOGETHER.
BUT be sure to let each other grow individually as well. You aren't married, but you are a couple. Let him still be a man; ask him to take a night with the boys a few times a month. At the same time, you have to have some indiviudal time as well.
2006-08-09 12:17:23 · answer #1 · answered by FaZizzle 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you've got that longing feeling still it might mean you don't REALLY love him. Is this your first serious relationship? If so, I'd say... break up with him. You should just be friends. When you love someone you can't stand being away from them. The "What's next" question would never have entered your mind. It's like you've got a craving for steak but have to settle for a pork chop. Know what I mean? It's one thing to love someone as a friend, it's something completely different to love someone as a spouse and it's VERY easy to get the two confused. People don't (or shouldn't) get married because it's the right time, or the right thing to do...They get married because they can't imagine spending another day on the face of this earth without that person by their side. You don't "grow" a relationship - you experience it. A marriage is the union of two lives - two SEPARATE lives, yours and his. Let me ask you a question...what would you work toward after you got married? Please don't say children, and building your life together! You don't build your life...you just live it. Same with marriage...you just live it. Sorry, to go on and on but I see people make this mistake over and over and over again. Please just think about it.
2006-08-09 12:33:50 · answer #2 · answered by JKM1971 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep the relationship alive. Be creative. Take trips together. Go on dates. Learn new things together. The possibilities are endless!
2006-08-09 12:17:46 · answer #3 · answered by HygirL 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Commitment making you relationship stronger and growing together i take it you are young ...So are you bored already then you are not in love yet if you was it would be exciting and the next part will come on its own!!
2006-08-09 12:51:26 · answer #4 · answered by classy chic 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
fight constructively, build a foundation to see if this is really a person you can see spending your life with you have lots of time, it may not even be the right one. But you can work on relationship skills and better yourself and learn what you like and what you don't like. be true to yourself.
2006-08-09 12:16:33 · answer #5 · answered by tharedhead ((debajo del ombú)) 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That doesn't sound good. If you love him then you should work toward having a great relationship with him.
2006-08-09 12:16:14 · answer #6 · answered by Justsyd 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just explore different things together...do all that relationship stuff....show him how you love him by surprising him every once in a while.... go to lovingyou.com and you'll plenty of stuff to do.
2006-08-09 12:23:43 · answer #7 · answered by Cathy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Enjoy it for what it is now, and try to make the feeling last, and if it grows good enjoy that too. Don't rush. savour it in all it's splendor.
2006-08-09 12:16:12 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
learn and see if you enjoy each others hobbys traveling , swimmig what you really have in common that you enjoy to do together , makes the relationship that much stronger
2006-08-09 12:15:51 · answer #9 · answered by sonny 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
since marrigae isnt coming in anytime soon dont even mention the word sex just find activities u both like and do them and just spend time together
2006-08-09 12:17:38 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋