I'm 19 years old, and this guy and I know that we are going to get married, and we think that we should get married now, but others (our friends/family) think we should wait at least 5 more years...I think they're crazy...what do you think?
2006-08-09 12:01:20 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
At 19 years old I think I was too young to get married. At 19 years old you also make small decisions and pick paths that will determine your future.
2006-08-09 12:07:54 · answer #1 · answered by treday25 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How long have you been in this relationship? If it has been over 3 years then you probably know his little quirks and what will drive you nuts after you live together. It's important to talk about your and his expectations too. about kids and careers and how much time to devote to each.also how you will discipline kids. Money is a BIG issue, are you going to have a joint account,who pays the bills( I mean writing the actual check each month)my advice in that is that if 1 writes it the other seals the envelope and mails it. Seems silly but those things actually are more likely to cause strife than anything else. other than that no I don't think you are too young as long as you know u r giving up going out with the girls whenever you want to and having your $ be your own. remember that the needs of the family come b4 the wants of the self.
2006-08-09 19:26:26 · answer #2 · answered by Rae 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on some things: are you financially ok or will you need some assistance from your families? Are you just eager to get out on your own because of issues at home?
19 is kind of young, because believe it or not, you're not that far past "childhood." There is a lot of time yet. Are you interested in traveling, more schooling to get a better job and or train for a career? Are there things you'd like to accomplish and experience on your own still?
If you feel that you can get married and won't miss out on anything you haven't already done, then get married. By marrying young, some people eventually come to the conclusion that they shut off many options and wish they hadn't rushed into it.
2006-08-09 19:12:29 · answer #3 · answered by 60s Chick 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It is ultimately your decision, but in my opinion, 19 is too young to get married! You have so much life to live and things to do before you settle down. I am at the right age, I have done many things that I needed to do before I get married, and I feel, I know, it is the right time for me to get married. (Getting married 11/11/06).
I went to college, finished 2 degrees, got to know myself and what I was looking for in life, in a relationship, in a man, and I am 29 now. I have sisters and nieces that got married young, and those marriages are broken now. Just something to think about!
If you have any question or doubt, then maybe you should wait! There's nothing wrong with having a long engagement either!!
2006-08-10 09:33:39 · answer #4 · answered by plantmd 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
depends on both you and the groom to be's situation in life. do you both have jobs and are seriously ready for the commitment? i met my husband when i was 19 and new within a month that he was the man i wanted to marry. we were engaged within 6 months and married a year later.. i had just turned 21. my parents and family also thought we were too young, but it's a decision that you have to make for yourselves. i know other people who are 24 and 25 and aren't ready for a serious commitment such as marriage, but my husband and i both knew when we were 19 that we wanted to get married. if it's true love, and you know that this is the way, then go for it... you should pray about it too... that always helps me.
i love my husband more than the world and am the happiest woman alive. i'm glad i didn't let my family tell me what to do.
2006-08-09 22:07:30 · answer #5 · answered by daisylady 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think YOU'RE crazy. You have yet to even experience "REAL LIFE" or reality. You can go ahead and get married and hopefully all goes well and you will be married for years to come, but what happens quite often is couples who marry at a young age fail to get experiences and by rushing into a marriage can create problems. Take my cousin for an example. She just turned 19 and her parents married her off and she's just working for minimum wage and her husband doesn't work and they live with the parents and they parents support them for everything. I say make a life for yourself first then when you feel independently ready to survive the real world and be able to physically, mentally and emotionally to handle yourself. Life is hard. In then end I'm not saying don't do it, but don't have regrets later in life saying or thinking that life has passed by so quickly and you have yet really enjoyed being single and free without reporting to your significant other.
2006-08-09 19:08:07 · answer #6 · answered by missdontgivafukusa 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Literally, no, you're not too young. But ask yourself some practical questions. Do you have the money--right now--to put a down payment on a house? Do you both work and have insurance? Do you have reliable transportation? Does either of you have credit debt? Do either of you need to attend college, and can you pay for it?
I know it sounds like a laundry list involving MONEY, but that's the biggest reason couples break up. Statistically, your odds marrying this young are not good.
Why not get engaged, enjoy the "fiance" stage, and re-visit the issue in a year?
2006-08-09 19:28:37 · answer #7 · answered by rebecca r 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think that you are still a little young and that you should wait a couple of years before you take such a big leap. If you both love each other the love will still be there in 2,3,4,or 5 years. So take some time and get your lives in order, marriage is such a big step. Not only do you have to think about getting married you have to think about who is going to pay for it, where you all are going to live, and your careers and it's easier said then done.
2006-08-09 19:21:44 · answer #8 · answered by Ms. Hot Chocolate 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think you have a lot of growing up to do.
I think that putting off until college is over and you both have time to mature and grow together AND as individuals is very important. You have NOT lived your life yet! You don't know what's out there.
Case in point: Are you now the same person you were at the age of 14? Probably not, and that was only 5 years ago! People change, and it's inevitable.
Don't rush into marriage.
2006-08-09 19:11:48 · answer #9 · answered by FaZizzle 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I was 17 when I met my boyfriend. I wanted to get married to him when I was 18, but we both knew we should wait. Thank G-d we did because we both had A LOT of growing up to do. We broke up for over a year, and now, I am 23 and we are getting married next fall! Honey - if it is meant to be it will be... just wait a few years!
2006-08-10 19:16:28 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋