Whats wrong with my mum?

Question

I KNOW ITS LONG BUT PLEASE READ
my mum is getting to be really hard to be around.about 2 years ago she was digonsed with pagats disease,a form of breast cancer and had to have a breast removed.she had no chemo or anything but went on tablets called tamoxafon for about 2/3 years.she is becoming really hard to be around.she has to b right about everything and if i speak to her not nicley she goes balistic but the truth is i never speak to her nastly.i have to think of everything before i say it.she gets worked up over the slightest things.she ignores everyone praticaly if we want her expect my brother who is the oldest.she really upsets me but i can't say anything cos she will give out to me loads.i feel guilty for being angry at her because of what she went through but it doesn't seem 2 bother her anymore n i can't talk bout what she went through cos she will just say dat is in the past.
sorry for d spelling mistakes its just dat i'm really upset while i'm writing this.

i'm also afraid she hasn't gotten over what she has been through or dat she is finding it hard 2 cope with 1 breast.i'm also afraidi that she is depressed or do you think it is menopause?if i am not in the best of form she kills me but she is in bad form every day.please don't tell me to give her a break cos i can't cope living like this anymore.

i'm also afraid she hasn't gotten over what she has been through or dat she is finding it hard 2 cope with 1 breast.i'm also afraidi that she is depressed or do you think it is menopause?if i am not in the best of form she kills me but she is in bad form every day.please don't tell me to give her a break cos i can't cope living like this anymore.

sorry i did forget to mention my dad.i wish i could tallk to him but he is not the type of father you can talk to.he is nearly has fiery has her.

Answer 1

It sounds like she is trying to push you away because she cant deal with her own issues.
She has not come to terms with what has happened to her and she feels like less of a woman and a mother because of it.
Your mother needs to go see a professional.

Answer 2

It sounds like you have a good head on your shoulders and you are correct to be concerned for her. She has been through a lot and she may not be dealing with everything as well as she wants everyone to believe or she may be having issues with the medications she's taking.

You haven't mentioned anything about your father so I'm not sure if he's in the picture. If he is, then try to talk with him and tell him how you feel. If he's not, try talking to your brother as it seems he has your mother's ear. There are also support groups for cancer survivors and their families. I would highly recommend that you check into some of the groups that may be in your area... even if your mom doesn't want to attend, it doesn't mean you can't!

Good luck!

Answer 3

Well, the best thing to do is catch her in her own bedroom while your father is not there, or at least tell him to give you about 1 minute with your mom alone. Then when you ar alone with her, tell her how you feel, cause if you don't, then things will get worse with you and your life. You have to worship your family members while you still have them, cause someday, you may look back to this day and laugh about it an think of all the good times you had with your mother, because the created you, feed you, and did everything she could to make your life better for you.

Answer 4

since she listenes to your oldest brother tell him how you feel and have him tell her or just write a little letter before going out one day start off by saying :
dear mom, i know you have been through alot in the past few years and you may be finding it hard to cope but thats no reason to take it out on me. You don't understand how mch I love you, but you have got to stop going balistic over things. There are times im not being nasty to you and u think i am. (Than continur by putting words from the heat, tell her how she makes you feel, tell her your happy u never lost her and that you love her so much,and so on) at the end put:
Lots of love and hope for the future;
(your name)
P.S. hopw your not mad about this letter but i had to get everything off my cheast, i love you and hope we can talk like civil ppl when i get home

Answer 5

It sounds like you really have it bad. Your mother does sound horrible to deal with. Why don't you check on line about the side effects of tamoxifen? Medicines can do horrible things to you while saving your life. I know short term memory loss was thought to be caused by tamoxifen when it first was prescribed. This would tend to make one very angry and short tempered. If you mother is having problems that way, she is probably scared and taking it out on others. Check for the side effects and see what you find out. (btw, I believe it is spelled tamoxifen instead of how you had it).

Good luck to you sweetie.

Answer 6

Basically your mother is really depressed and seems like she's just given up.
You Need To Talk to her and your dad even if he isn't the type in these situations you have to suck up your pride and talk about feeling ask for a family meeting don't be afraid to cry and write down how you feel first then resite it or give it to them to read don't forget to say I love you all the time to them

Answer 7

Don't worry about spelling. You are under great stress. Please make an effort to talk to her at least once a week. Sometimes when I talk to a difficult person, I will hold the phone up in the air so I don't have to listen. Always be pleasant as much as you can. Take it from me. You do not want to feel guilty if she dies.(I tried to put it as soft as I could). May God bless you . I will put you on my prayer list tonight.

Answer 8

well maybe you shouldnt be so nice to her when she is reaming you about something small. Maybe she just needs someone who will argue with her and not make her feel like an incomplete person.

she may also be going through menopause. my mother is going through menopause and no one except my older sister can do anything right around her, so i know how you feel

dont give her any leniency just because of what happened to her before. that is NO excuse for treating like you said.

Answer 9

Has she consistently been like this? Has something befell to spark this behaviour? you need to have a verbal replace together with her. And tell her heavily that she needs to advance up. next time she dawdles in facebook, say "mom, what's greater significant right here, my well-being or your facebook status?".

Answer 10

sounds like my mom a few years back. turns out she was a scitzo, and a manic depressant. she takes medication for it now and its good.