If your mother goes with a guy that mentally abused you????

Question

My friends mom was with this guy for about 3 years and she fell in love with him. Well after awhile he use to menatally abused her oldest daughter which was 8 at the time and it stopped when she was 12. Her mom found out but yet she still was with him. Do you think the girl should get over it or forget about it even though she feels like she wants to hate her mother for going wit a guy that did that to her???

Answer 1

it'll be hard for u to forgive something like that.. it'll take TIME TIME lots of time...but u can start by trying to *understand* her... it's very hard for a single mother. they get lonely, confused, sad, and feel worthless because they couldn't make their marriage work. of Course they love their kids to bits, and it's a completely different type of love that they need; it's not that the kids don't make the mom happy, but there's just something missing from her life. which is probably why she was able to fall for someone who started taking care of her again. i cannot personally know why some people do stay w/ their new husbands/wives when they treat their children badly, but to understand it, i guess u have to realize that their love for this new person has blinded their ability to see straight; and their fear of being alone is too much to bear. i'm not saying that's right at all (what he did to you was horrible), but i'm just saying maybe that's why ur mother would do such a thing.... =T.

i don't blame u for not being able to forgive right now.. but 1st of all.. be grateful that it stopped at 12 yrs old.. 2nd of all, u will not be able to forget about it very easily, esp if that man does not try to build that trust up with you. he needs to apologize, he needs to change. i'm very glad for you that he has stopped. but i don't trust him. 3rd, do what u can for urself.. obviously ur mom, who's supposed to be looking out for the best for u, is blinded by something else. so YOU have to do it, for urself to become a strong, independent, healthy woman. do what u can to be more positive, more happy, more confident, so that u can handle anything and be able to forgive later. i think u don't need to worry so much about forgiving *right now*.... later on, when u continue working on urself and ur happiness, and being just a Wonderful person, then u can be proud that these things in ur past has NOT been able to bring u down, u won't use it as an excuse to taint ur future. do not let it, keep trying hard to do better, be better, than what u've been given.

when life throws u lemon, make lemonade! ;)

seriously tho.. once u figure out how to keep staying positive regardless of the negatives in life, u will be so happy and carefree and no one can touch u. take care

Answer 2

psychological abuse, controlling, an fool.... take your %., use any of those for what he's. he's now unlikely to get any more effective constructive, a minimum of not now. he continues to be displaying indications of immaturity. he's attempting to regulate you & your existence. He has no understand for you, your family individuals or different friends. he's insecure, manipulative and a moron. promote off him & locate someone who will take care of you want you are able to be dealt with. and not in any respect to frighten you, yet there is an threat, from the way you've defined him, that his psychological abuse ought to grow to be actual. Get out before that takes position.

Answer 3

Ohh she needs to call the child abuse place and blame her mom and her mom sorry *** bf !

Answer 4

That means her mom is very stupid,and that she precious more her pu**y than her own daughter.

Answer 5

her mum musn't realise what she has done to her daughter.she should talk to her and make her realise that she has made a huge mistake.