im 15 going on 16 and he is 18 and was my best friend. he was my first everything.
2006-08-09 11:32:05 · 35 answers · asked by bubbles 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I understand just how you feel. My first love, my first serious relationship and my first long-term relationship is with a girl that I've been dating for 11 years, since I was 14 and she was 12. We're planning on getting married hopefully by 2007, but now we're having some problems and we need to separate for awhile, but we don't know how long it'll be. It could be months, it could be years, but we're not sure. When we both feel it's time and we're both ready then we'll come back to each other, because I've sworn and promised that I would NEVER find somebody new and she has sworn and promised me too. Now I have to deal with the loneliness and fear that comes with being separated, but yet I won't say I'm single. I hope things work out for you and your first love. You're still young yet at 16, so maybe things will work out for the better for both of you and you'll have a bright future together and a LONG marriage.
2006-08-09 11:39:30 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, realizing that he was your "first" everything is the first step.
There will be a second and third and probably a fourth and fifth.
But no one will ever compare to your first love. It happened to me when I was 23 or 24. I thought I had met my future wife and things were great. The only problem was that it became a long distance relationship later and we grew further apart. She ended up marrying some other guy like a year later.
I couldn't believe it and it took me forever to get over her. She will always have a special place in my heart, though.
2006-08-09 11:36:41 · answer #2 · answered by Brian 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Darlin' you have everything going for you....including time. You can't make yourself "get over" someone because its all in the heart. Nothing in the heart can be forced. Instead, just learn from this relationship and look forward to your next successful relationship. Every relationship is an experience that we can learn from. We all have to fail in order how to learn to succeed. If you succeed right away, you wouldn't appreciate how hard it is to get there. In the future this relationship will make you love and appreciate your future Mr Right that much more.
There are tons of guys out there that can make you happy... and we are all just waiting to meet you. Give yourself some time to heal, and then come find us.
I wish you the best.
2006-08-09 11:56:01 · answer #3 · answered by the_thoughtless_ponderer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well...im going 2 b honest..i've been in love n im still in love but this boy he just took my heart away..i like him for over 3 years n knows it well, diz actually answers your question but honey..a boy is not all u have, u hav friends, family members,ect u can hang out with and take ur mind off him well since when u been with him..if it was a long time it will be difficult..n how did ya break up...was he cheatin on u o whateva ...beccause if he was well that will be reallty hurful and u , ofcourse will be very angry ...just think that he is NOT the onli boy in the worl u can even fien better boys than him..i know what i mean..just remember HE'S NOT THE ONLI BOI IN THE WORL..there are OTHER BETTER ONES WAITING 4 U!!!!!!!!!!
2006-08-09 11:46:35 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not to sound negative or anything but uhhh. ... 1) you will never really get over him completely. 2) Eventually you'll learn to accept the fact that it's over and move on to other guys. 3) The best thing to do is cry it all out...let it hurt...don't fight it cause you'll end up hurting yourself and realize that the pain does cease eventually. Until then I'd advise a lot of sad love songs (Vivian Green's last CD, the last track on the CD called Cursed), icescream, and time with other friends to get your mind off of him at least somewhat.
2006-08-09 11:42:09 · answer #5 · answered by Cathy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First off, what happened? Do explain! Believe it or not i am with my first love, and we plan to do everything together, i gave him his first kiss, and it was PERFECT! I loved every second of it. Try to get back together with him, But if there is just no chance, don't get over it, become good friends, don't end it badly, make it have a happy ending.
2006-08-09 11:38:38 · answer #6 · answered by hopper1172002 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
gees girl , you were too young to assume anything would last. You are only 15 and he was your first everything. As sad yet common as that is, you need to get right with God and not give NOTHING to no other man no matter how hard he cries, "you dont love me if you dont sleep with me", or what ever. They all have their puppy lines, and dont let it get you to give in. remember, men prey off of a womans nieve nature, or soft nature. Get Strong or you will regret it.
2006-08-09 11:37:39 · answer #7 · answered by Señorita Bonita 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Give it time and you'll soon get over him. If possible, travel might work. I traveled and it helped me a lot. It made me forget about everything because I was so wrapped up with the sights and the fun. Best wishes.
2006-08-09 11:34:57 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It may not seem like it now, but trust me baby girl, life goes on. Time heals all wounds, but in the mean time focus on the things that truly make you happy. Take up a hobby. Do something you have always wanted to do! It wil give you a whole new outlook....
2006-08-09 11:42:19 · answer #9 · answered by Q. 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You'll always remember your first love and first "everything." Eventually, the pain will fade to a memory (and hopefully you'll remember the good stuff more than the bad stuff)...once you find your second love, it makes it much easier to get over the first!!
2006-08-09 11:38:29 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋