2006-08-09 11:31:32 · 26 answers · asked by Bears#1 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Twelve years ago I went back to work after my daughter was 9 weeks old, and she is fantastic! We had a great sitter, great pre-school, and she transitioned well through all of those changes. We are very close, and spend quality time with each other when I am home. I do not feel that I missed out on anything. I had moments where I second guessed myself and regretted working, but they were brief. It depends on how you are as a person too.I know my limitations; staying home 24/7 is not for me. It's a great thing for others I'm sure. However, I don't feel that it was a bad decision, especially since my working was also very necessary for our well being financially and to have health insurance. Working has allowed me to be able to provide a lot of great things for her that I know I couldn't have if I'd stayed at home, and I don't think I sacrificed her emotional well-being. I don't think there's an "at any cost" issue with staying at home. There are costs and benefits to everything.
2006-08-09 14:48:07 · answer #1 · answered by Chris 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your kids will only be small once. If you can afford it, stay home for a while. Daycare is not the same as having a parent around. I have done both. I stayed home this past year, and my son has really gotten a lot out of it. I also made new friends. I worked when my son was an infant. It was so hard leaving him at daycare. As a baby, he was in a class with 7 other babies. Even though there were 2 teachers he had to compete for attention. As a toddler, he was always sick, and there was never the same teacher in the room. Now that he is 2, I am going to work part time. That way I can have the best of both worlds.
2006-08-09 18:40:27 · answer #2 · answered by seatonrsp 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its your decision, but i have to add that i work for along time when my daughter was young and after the twins were born i decided to stay home there was a big difference. I didnt have to worry if the baby sitter/day care were doing a good job, no guilt for other people raising my kids, and the money we saved for not having to pay for child care was great. i realized that my job was just for paying the day care, extra gas, and wear and tear on the car(so we didnt miss the extra income). It was hard to get used to being home all day but i think the kids are better off and much happier.
2006-08-09 18:39:31 · answer #3 · answered by lak3rat 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It all depends on your personal situation. Stay home with them as long as you are financially able to. They will appreciate you for the time and attention you can give them.
As a single parent from a divorce when my child wasn't even a toddler yet, I felt horrible for having to put him in day care so I could go to work. He would cry as I left and was very disruptive to their schedule. I regret leaving him that way, it broke my heart. I had to work to be financially stable and build a better life for the two of us. He is now 13, an honor student and has had perfect attendance for 3 years.
2006-08-09 18:43:07 · answer #4 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
consider this...
God forbid, if anything ever happened to your hubby to take him away as head bread winner... If you have no work experience, no skills, no training, other than raising your kids, you are reduced to minimum wage jobs. Even if you have great insurance that money does not last forever.
At the very least look into an at home business for example go to Ustore it, U lock it rental places and find out when their auctions are. People lose their stuff there every month. Buy the stuff at auction, keep the choice stuff and sell the rest on ebay.... CHA-CHING best of both worlds...
2006-08-09 18:35:14 · answer #5 · answered by alaskanecho 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How old are your children? And how many? Are u married?
Do u have income coming in? What areas are u talented in to make money inside the home? Go to work or school when they are in school and be there for them when they come home! Is will have a positive affect on them now and as they grow. Are they and family or church friends too help out? Let me tell u my sister, children needs the parent (s) guiding them each day. They are yours for only 18 short yrs. and then they are on their own.. don't regret not being their for your young-in. Good or bad times you will have memories of being there when they need u! God Bless u my sister. and enjoy your babies Dickie
2006-08-09 18:51:16 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is no right answer to this question. It all depends on you. I worked part time for awhile and I loved it because after coming home I wasn't stressed out. I felt more relaxed and I felt I was able to give my kids the quality attention they needed. But that is just me. It's a personal choice, and everyone is different.
2006-08-10 03:31:47 · answer #7 · answered by Kristin C 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
go to work! Because when i was working my husband used to respect but after our kid was born i stopped going to job and staying at home. Though he see me and my baby only once in a week he wont talk to us with love, he wont give me any respect he treat me as a slave. It is better to go to work in that way u will be on ur own.
2006-08-09 18:37:34 · answer #8 · answered by kiran123 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if u can get by without the mom working then stay home and be a full time mom. kids are only kids once.
2006-08-09 18:36:50 · answer #9 · answered by mac 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
stay at home and work thats what I do. two kids two jobs
all the jobs below pay per hour and no investment all are customer service jobs just like a call center but home,
2006-08-09 18:35:40 · answer #10 · answered by tashafleming25 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋