It's not time, and full stop!....?

Question

I'm 17. And never had a boyfriend. I, am toootaly oK.
But the catch is that, not only that I refuse any relationships, but any kinds of man-woman relations...
I ...hate being touched by a man. It's not I have a deep problem, but feel like I'm scared.

Don't tell me there are good fellows, cause I know that's a very stupid lie. I can take care of my self, but every time someone gives a sign he wants to be with me, I put him down. And put him down pretty hard. Always... And that's rude.

Tell me, how to survive in this undentyfied world, where, eventually, everything goes around sex...

Answer 1

When I said never, never, never... I was entirely convinced.
But I gave myself the space to grow, to know as much of my own mind as had yet developed. I learnt that to trust takes self control. That I needed to connect my head and my heart before I would consider this sexually liberated life. That to trust my own judgment is more important than to trust outside of myself.
I think you are in this place, to be scared of the unknown is our primitive response and it is what has enabled us to evolve. Do not be angry with yourself and you will not project it on to others.

You have no time limit to decide that you wish to try sex. But I would like you to know that good sex, great sex, is nothing more than a stimulating conversation. It just happens through your body more than your voice. And you need to listen carefully.

I was 19 before I trusted my instincts, and still I made mistakes.
I'm glad I waited until I was sure enough and I am glad I made the mistakes, I won't make them again.

Answer 2

It's really quite simple. Your body is yours and yours alone. If you don't want to have sex, don't. But, not allowing anyone to "get in" (emotionally) is not good. Everyone needs to love and be loved. Try being nice to some of these boys. And, when the issue of sex comes up, just let them know you won't consider it. If you do that, you will find out who likes you for who you are and not what's between your legs real fast. The true friends will stick around and the lurkers will run away screaming. Stick to your guns, but open up. Closing yourself off like that isn't healthy. Remember, there is no reward without risk.

Answer 3

Well, the first thing you could try is being a little NICER to those guys you put down. A few could turn out to be your best friends...

And once you get to know those friends, you may find that a couple of them really like you for YOU - no strings attached, they just enjoy the pleasure of your company...

And you may learn to really trust one of those guy friends. Maybe one of them is someone you can really talk to, someone who understands you and never pressures you at all, someone who never judges you...

Someday, you may want to experience sex or just a touch and he will be the one you trust, your best friend, the one that won't push you for sex before you're ready, the one that won't hurt you...

But you'll never know if you don't stop being RUDE!!!

Now don't be scared - just smile and play nice :)

Answer 4

congratulation for your art
try to have goal please
just afraid of God
try to have minds contact with every man or woman
and i have your idia about the boys
donot forgot how do you want to live doesnot important but how do you want to live is important
I hope that i findout your purpos
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Answer 5

Sexual interest may come later in life, or it may never come at all. You shouldn't be bothered to live up to other people's expectations, or even your own. Be free, let no one tell you what to do or how to live your life.

Answer 6

It happens sometimes, but in due course you will get mature. It more emotional than physical.