How does it make you feel when someone is rude, mean, or downright evil towards you? What do you do?

Question

Do you seek revenge? Do you get upset? Do you swear at them? Do you stir up a fight or an argument? What do you do?

Answer 1

I leave hatred to those not strong enough to love

Answer 2

I've never fought anyone even before I read buddhist teachings, I try to deal with them in a rational way but I don't really get upset until people start acting ignorant, ignorance gets on my nerves. But the worst I'll do is talk heatedly if I can't contain myself.

Man, there are some vicious girls here despite such cute little avatar things hahaha.

Answer 3

That is a really good question. That allows us to say what would we do to stop and fighting and the violence.
Okay, forgive and forget. Don't think about it. forget about it.
Do not ever use cuss words. Working on that one.
And don't kick them in the balls. That is a definite no no.
Can't get a bigger guy to beat them up to teach them a lesson.
Like saying I'll sleep with you if you beat the whatever out of him.
can't do that! Just walk away like the song says:my favorite
Walk away

Answer 4

God says turn the other cheek. It's so hard to walk away from a fight. But it feels so good to know in your heart that did what was right. If someone is rude, I just smile even more. If someone is mean, I try to be nice. I try to treat everyone with courtesty and respect. I say please, thank you and your welcome. I open doors and try to live by God's commandent "Love they neighbor."
Evil does walk this earth, and it's scarey to meet someone who cares nothing for people-only theirselves. I avoid them, but when I pray I try to remember to ask that God show them his love, and I learn to deal with them. Sometimes, it works, other times even God gives the ok to stay away! I am not prefect, I get mad and I swear, but I want a kinder world, so one person at a time if needed be. Me being the first, ok, I will start the ball rolling, "thank you for letting me answer your question, and I hope you don't get any rudem mean, or downright evil answers." God bless us all..................

Answer 5

When I am confronted by someone in the fashion described, my first impulse is to discount the person and his actions as ignorant, foolish and stupid. Generally the person who acts in this way is trying their best to satisfy some need They have to affect someone in a very negative way. Reacting to this person only feeds his\her needs and encourages their need to continue the actions. Simply ignoring that person will eventually get the point across to them that you are really not interested. At first it will urge them to press on with their stupid stunts but after a few tries the message will get across to them that you are not interested in playing the drama out with them. Eventually they will need to move on to another poor soul to get their twisted needs met. Be patient they will go away after some time has passed. although it does not feel like it you will come out the winner.
Passive agression is the name of this game.

Answer 6

I want to respond back with equal force, but I know now that it just doesn't do any good.

This shouldn't be the motive for being nice, but the truth is that if you're kind and able to "Roll with the punches", and forgive. . .you'll have that person in your back pocket in less than a month. They'll want to be your best friend.

Of course, they'll respect you sooner if you fire back with all you have right away, but isn't the other way a sweeter and longer-lasting victory?

Answer 7

If it is justified in their being angry, i try to understand why they feel that way and accept their anger. If it is a misconception fueling their ferocity, I bite my lip against feeding that anger back to them and try to calmly explain (if I know the information) what the facts truly are. As far as a matter of opinions, if someone gets upset, I leave them to be upset. Sometimes a consoling word has come back to bite me.

Answer 8

If somebody is being recommend to you for no reason in any admire, they're maximum probable jealous. Or they have low self-properly worth so they attempt to look hard by applying being downright impolite to human beings for no reason.

Answer 9

oh, i tend to get upset...and i would be lying if i said that part of me doesn't want to lash out at them...but Christ said to forgive those who act wrongly towards me...it is not easy to turn the other cheek, and it takes a conscious effort to do as He says...and i'm not always successful...but i have found that if i keep my cool and don't react in kind, i feel much more at peace...

Answer 10

It depends. If it's just a matter of them being rude I simply ignore them. They're ingrates who aren't worth the time nor the effort.

If they've actually hurt me or my loved ones though it's ***.

Answer 11

it's very, very, VERY hard..but the best thing to do is walk away. esp if u feel that person is "downright evil". why would u want to stoop down to his/her level?? doesn't make any sense, and it would make u feel bad about urself....

i had a situation once, where i was dating a guy. on the outside he was perfect; good family, friends, job, church/bible study regular, good looking, sweet, friendly, u name it, i *thought* he had it. but after a couple of months, he suddenly changed, forced me to break up w/ him by ruining my birthday, and later i found out that he was cheating behind my back, even tho i *explicitly* told him if he wanted to date other people he could, but i just wanted to know. and he had lied to my face saying he wanted to work on "us". i've never felt So violated in my whole life, to have someone take so much time and effort out to trick me, to cheat me, and lie to my face. it made me feel so bad about myself, i doubted myself, i felt horrible. then i felt angry at him...what a monster to lie to my face like that. i really wanted to get him back.. and i kind of tried..but i didn't go thru with it. because i realized i was starting to feel bad about myself...and if i went thru w/ it, it wouldn't really mean anything anymore, because i don't care about him.

anyways.. long story short... initial reaction IS to try and get back.. but if u'r big enough and a good enough person, and strong in ur heart and mind, then u will take the higher road. i'd rather spend my energy and time on something positive, than to dig myself into a negative hole that is directly related to a bad person.

now i live my life how i want to, with respect, with dignity, for myself as well as my boyfriend. we love, trust and respect eachother, and communicate. we've built up that trust, and it's worlds away from what this stupid jerk will ever have. (i know he's single and ugly cuz i stalk him on myspace sometimes haha.. :D) but yeah, anyways, people like that are NOT worth it. we need to realize as Nice people, that our reactions and hurt feelings are due to us actually caring about people, and having sympathy and empathy. we should not let that get taken away by evil, negative people who have no place in our lives. continue to be positive, and never let someone like that take away your pride and love for Good things in life.