Should I call my mother today?

Question

I don't talk to her or see her much. maybe once a month. I find her a real downer.

Answer 1

Put the pettiness behind you. This is a woman who gave birth to you, wiped your *** for you, fed you, clothed you, played taxi cab for you, and everything else for alot of years
Do you not think that SHE was stressed out or never bummed out while doing all of these things for you? If you don't then your nuts.

The least you can do is call her every few days and ask her if she is ok, and tell her how your doing. It doesn't take but afew minutes of your time.

Answer 2

Sounds like your really young. But as you get older, and your Mother gets older, you might realize that time is short.. I lived a long ways from my Mother. Possibly only saw her and Dad twice a year. I would have been there more often ,but miles kept us apart. Well they are both gone now. If you live close to your Mother you should call her at least once a week. But I would have to know about your times together and what type of a relationship you had. You find her a real downer. How did she become such a downer ?? Do you mean depressed ?? Probably , she has a good reason to be down. You know it is not easy to be a Mother. Kids can make parents real downers and even an un-happy marriages can make us real downers. Why don't you try to help lift her Spirit ? Probably she has reasons to act like a downer. That might be your point of view, but others may find her pleasant. If she is a real downer, why don't you help her ? Try it, you may realize how wonderful she is. Good Luck.

Answer 3

i'm 46 and lost my mother when I was 16 years old, I still miss her and what could have been. I've learnt to deal with loss as life goes on however it has not taken the feelings that surface every now and then. this being one of those times. I had to learn many things on my own because my mother was not there, and had to face alot of difficulty in life because my mom was not there, should you call your mother today, Yes,,,,,call her, let her know how much you love her, appreciate her and get honest with her about why you think she is a downer....maybe she needs you to pick her up,

Answer 4

ah come on call her no matter what she is your mom call say hi tell her you love her and then make an excuse to get off the phone the minute she starts making you feel down this why you wont feel any kinda away remember you must honor even if honor is not called for. are you sure it's your mom maybe it's you and your life style that has her a downer

Answer 5

Maybe your mother feels your a downer too. sounds to me like you are one selfish person. Think about this is you will.....One day your mother will not be on this earth....she'll be either in the ground 6 ft under or in a pretty vase planted on your mantel. What will your thoughts be then? Hmmmmm????

Seek out your mom, call her, see her as much as you can while she's a living breathing person. If you don't you have regrets of the should've could've would've!!

Answer 6

My mother died 22 years ago, I was 24 then. I would give anything to talk to her again. I once thought she was a downer too. But as you get older, you may realize she is your best friend. Call her and just say "hi, I love you."

Answer 7

Yes I think you should call her. All parents can be a little bit too much at times, but that's just the nature of some people. One day your mom will no longer be here and I tell you no matter what you may think of her now, you are going to regret it if you let time slip away and you haven't overlooked the things about her that aggravate you. My father was a bitter pill to swallow also. He did and said so many things that hurt .I spent all my life being angry at him and not being able to sit in the same room with him without thinking about all the bad stuff. Finally i just decided I was going to let it go and try to be the person i knew i was....warm, kind and loving and not the person he created in me due to his meaness. I sat down and held a conversation with him one day and I thanked God for giving me the strenght to do it. Three weeks later he was dead. I look back and I know some people can really alienate those around them, but I believe sometimes they can only do the best they can for what they know. I looked back at my father's life and it was bad right from the start. I'm not making excuses for anyone's behavior, but you have to look deeper into a person and you may find they are the way they are because of life circumstances they have gone through. Please call your mom. You can't control others behavior, but you can control yours ,so don't have to one day look back with regret when she is gone and wish you would have just loved her and let all the silly stuff fall by the waistside. God bless you.

Answer 8

I know how hard it is to talk to someone who is downer. I find dropping in on them is easier than a phone call. Maybe you can get her to go for a walk or something. Greeting cards would be a good option too. If she is on email just a quick note to her would be nice.

If she is lonely, it would be a nice thing for you to do.

Answer 9

I've lived with a real "downer" for my entire life. My mother died when I was 15 months old. I sure do wish I could talk to her!

Answer 10

YES you should always call your mother you only have one mother. Even know you think she a downer I know you love her inside and she loves you. She just wants the best for you.