He cheated on me and i broke up with him. i dont want him but i still love him. He tells me he loves being single and he is getting everything that he wanted but he still thinks about me. What am i supposed to do? all i do is keep crying all i know is i dont want him back.
2006-08-09 10:52:03 · 25 answers · asked by jenks1545 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You did the right thing. You love him - well guess what, he doesn't love you back, no matter what he says. His actions say that he loves being single and free more. Actions speak louder than words (I can tell you I can fly - but until you see me fly it doesn't really mean anything, right?).
Remember, Love is a verb not a noun. That feeling you have is just chemicals influencing your brain. Love is a committment between two people, is it the actions that those people do for each other. The feelings you get are just the reward for taking those actions. You need to get a better opinion of yourself and realize there are guys out there who would be willing to love you in kind. Tear up his phone number, erase him from quick-dial, burn his pictures - whatever you have to do, but keep on trucking. There are plenty more fish in the sea. There is no such thing as one perfect match for every person - for each person, it is more like thousands of people out there who would make a good partner.
2006-08-09 11:02:14 · answer #1 · answered by Christopher B 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well girlfriend, go with your first taught. If he hurt u once he will again. been there done that. U might need to take some time and be apart. And focus on your career and life. Then if u both feel the same down the road may, but I wouldn't take him back not right now. He will think he can do it again and u will be okay with the situation. Put you foot down. Don't take it.
2006-08-09 17:57:58 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
a break-up is always hard 2 get past. what u need 2 do is spend time by urself or with friends. it'll help u get over him. then, go back & think about why u broke up w/him. if u think he deserves a second chance, then talk to him about it. but remember, if he hurt u once, it def. doesn't mean he won't do it again. just be sure that u might be ready for another heartbreak from him.
2006-08-09 17:58:35 · answer #3 · answered by CoolBlue4U 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U know u have to forgive men some times even though cheating is wrong EVERYONE does it at least once in there life and even though he cheated doesn't mean he don't love u men jus don't know how to control themselves but remember this men don't really know how good da women is or how much he loves da women until he loses them so u know if u thinks he means what he says give him another chance
2006-08-09 17:56:59 · answer #4 · answered by powderjusblazin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am in the same boat as you are. I think maybe these type of guys are players and are emotionally abusive. It gives their egos a huge boost to know that they have control over another person. It is just horrible. You need to change your telephone numbers and email addresses or he will still be in your mind. This is easier said than done as I am a living example of this as well. Take care.
2006-08-09 17:59:04 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he loves being single let him stay that way..from my experience a person who cheated once will do it again...unless they have really changed....he has not changed...tell him to go back to the girl he cheated with...you deserve better...I know it is hard, but it is ok..he does NOT deserve you.
2006-08-09 17:56:34 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well usually cheaters go on cheating. If he wants back he will do whatever it takes. Make him pay for both of you to go to couples counseling and find out why he feels the need to cheat. If you do not want him back then move on to someone who will repect you and your relationship.
2006-08-09 17:55:54 · answer #7 · answered by thebulktiny 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once a cheater, always a cheater unfoutunatly :-(
Im sort of in the same situation, i took him back, but im constantly checking up on him and always worrying and always second guessing him. theres just no trust left and im thinking about breaking up...
I know how you feel and its awful but cheer up hun!
time will heal everything, just stay strong :-)
2006-08-09 18:11:59 · answer #8 · answered by Katy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You prolly still av feelings 4 him but you can't get urself 2 4give him for cheating on u.
Ur heart's prolly tellin u to get back together with him but u don't wanna.
I think u shld get back together with him, i know he'll never cheat on u again.Cheers.
2006-08-09 17:58:48 · answer #9 · answered by Deejay 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on with your life...don't be in contact with him until your heart has healed enough to deal with it. Love doesn't cheat or betray. You don't love him, you love the person you wished he had been...that's not the same thing.
2006-08-09 17:55:30 · answer #10 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋