An x-boyfriend has been contacting me via email eluding that he still loves me and misses me. The problem is that he is the one that wanted to break-up. Moreover, he went back on Match.com. Who is to say he isn't dating and sleeping with other women. If he loves me so much, then why did he break up with me to begin with and not try to work through his issue with me? I'm really hurt and also very concerned as he eluded to us being so good together in terms of our passion, which I am interpreting as sex. Is this guy just another jerk trying to have it both ways? How should I handle this? I would appreciate everyone's feedback.
2006-08-09 10:49:30 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
two words: Booty. Call.
i think, in 98% of cases, most exes only contact again if they are lonely, and haven't found anyone else yet. that leaves 2% of people who actually feel they've made a mistake and want a second chance. well, guess what? those 2% of people better work DAMN hard if they want to try again, ESP if it was them who broke it off in the first place and hurt you.
what u have to do is set boundaries for urself. what do u want? what do u expect from urself? what do u expect from ur man? what do u expect from ur relationship? hopefully all of things are POSITIVE things. now, if this guy is not trustworthy, and he treated u badly before, chances are he will treat u badly again. is he BEGGING u to come back? is he truly being sincere? only u will be able to tell, only u will be able to make that decision to take him back. but let me tell u this; if he's not promising to change and work on the problems and validate your feelings and treat u right this time, don't go back to him. u'll just get hurt again, and he will take u for granted.
***ps.. like u said he keeps saying u guys were so "passionate"... well physical only goes so far, obviously he didn't satisfy ur other needs in the relationship. what makes u think he's really learned his lesson now? be careful.. my advice would be to stop talking to him... good luck
2006-08-09 10:58:21 · answer #1 · answered by sasmallworld 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would just go out with him and see if he makes a move. If he does tell him, "NO!" If he doesn't call you again then you know he was only after the sex! If he does call you after you said, "NO" then maybe he is still in love with you. I wouldn't give into having sex with him for a long time. Also, go on Match.com and see if he still on there and open for relationships to other women. This could help you determine if he is playing you as well. Good Luck!!
2006-08-09 10:56:20 · answer #2 · answered by Michelle M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Judge by his actions.
Do he come over just to visit.
Does he take you out to dinner or a walk in the park.
Does he talk about what went wrong the first time and wants to correct the problem.
Or does he only come around at night/during the day/afternoon to climb between the sheets. Answer these questions and you have your answer..
Good luck to you...
2006-08-09 10:56:26 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
arg....you should know better....there are too many men in this world to be going backwards...you broke up for a reason... move on, forget that guy...tell him not to contact you anymore.
2006-08-09 10:56:08 · answer #4 · answered by Trish 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
move on... you are bettter than him.
2006-08-09 10:54:52 · answer #5 · answered by Reverand Ray 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋