When im with my boyfriend he makes me feel so happy. I feel like all my worries are pushed aside. His sisters are fun to be around and i just feel so confortable around him that i stay over his house for like 2 weeks. Then when i come home i just feel so depressed and sad as if im going to be away from him for years. I dont want to do anything i cant eat, sleep; i feel so lazy and just down. It's scaring me to feel so depressed when he is not around.
Do you think i am too attached?
Do you think this will effect anything?
What can i do to feel happy when he is not around?
2006-08-09 10:47:58 · 6 answers · asked by Tbaby 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
"Do you think i am too attached?"
No, I don't. Your story is pretty sweet.
"Do you think this will effect anything?"
Not sure what you mean, but like school? Yeah, probably. Anything else that requires your attention will suffer as a result.
"What can i do to feel happy when he is not around?"
Marry him!
2006-08-09 10:52:50 · answer #1 · answered by DomC 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you have some serious issues going on in your home and in your life. I would recommend seeing a counselor. First, yes there is something wrong in your life that you would:
1. Leave home for weeks at a time to be with a boyfriend -especially at your age (I am guessing around 17).
2. That you would get depressive as soon as you leave.
It sounds like to me the answer is not in your boyfriend - but in what is going on at home that you feel like running away.
P.s. The fact that you feel comfortable with him, doesn't make him a good relationship for you. It sounds like you have some serious emotional issues, and he provides you with some comfort. Neediness is not something to base a relationship on. A good relationship is not two incomplete people coming together to form a whole - it is two whole people coming together to make a strong relationship.
2006-08-09 17:55:26 · answer #2 · answered by Christopher B 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes you are too attached. The problem is you do not have your own life. His life is your life. You need to make plans of your own. Don't you have any friends of your own? You need to do things by yourself. Goodness! What would you do if you guys broke up? You cannot live your life through someone else. Find weekly activities you do without your boyfriend or his family!
2006-08-09 17:56:28 · answer #3 · answered by strawberries 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think your feelings are completely normal. You are in the infactuation stage of the relationship. What concerns me is that it seems your sense of self is getting lost in your relationship. I think having some distance is good to refocus on the hobbies and interests you were interested in before the relationship.
If you didn't have any hobbies, get a new one. When you see him again you will have a new and exciting topic to share with him.
I think that as long as you are fun and interesting, and you think you are fun and interesting, so will your relationship be fun and interesting.
2006-08-09 17:58:46 · answer #4 · answered by C'thulhu 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can try putting some EFFORT into changing the things in your life that bother you. Sounds like you play a passive role in the relationship, which is likely the role you play in your own life.
2006-08-09 17:52:17 · answer #5 · answered by Nefertiti 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ur a lil desperate but thats not always bad u just half to learn to do things on ur own dont let ur life just be about him let it be about u 2
2006-08-09 17:57:19 · answer #6 · answered by flashes_girl2010 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋