i have marks on my wrists from where he holds me down on the bed. women are treated very bad in my country. can you tell me in much detail how i fight him off? i want to give him such pain he will never do this again.
2006-08-09 10:40:03 · 66 answers · asked by laura b 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i cannot leave or report him because i would be left without a home. my mother she lives many miles away. i want to make him understand i will hurt him if he forces me.
2006-08-09 10:45:31 · update #1
9 mm or .45
2006-08-09 10:42:53 · answer #1 · answered by 666K9 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're going to fight someone that is bigger and stronger than you, then you need to have some kind of advantage. In hand to hand fighting, you would need to use effective techniques and/or a weapon. The groin shot can be effective, but it would be dangerous to rely on a single technique.
For empty hand fighting, do a web search on self defense techniques. Learn how to strike with elbows, knees and headbuts, and learn where the human body is most vulnerable.
Non-lethal weapons typically encompass blunt instruments. But even blunt instruments can be lethal if used in a certain way. Some kind of club or heavy stick may be your best option. If you use a club or stick that is heavy, don't grip it at the end so that your movement is slow. You need speed for offense and defense.
This is all assuming that you live in a country where you can't just call 911 and have the police rescue you. If this is your situation, then I understand your despair.
2006-08-09 11:07:59 · answer #2 · answered by eddygordo19 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know how things work in your country but here that is called rape and he goes to prison for it. Its hard to tell you how to hurt him because he obviously doesn't care whether he hurts you or not. Hard to do damage to someone like that. Try putting stuff in his food that makes him too sick for sex, but don't get caught. Slow poisoning from something that won't be detected would be good. In the meantime maybe its the fighting him that gets him excited if you just don't do that, just lay there like a bump on a log, take your mind somewhere else, talk about something you saw on tv or heard on the radio like he isn't even doing what he is doing, maybe whistle a little tune but act like you are TOTALLY unaffected by it, like you are just waiting for him to get off so you can get on with your day, he will lose the sense of power and control he is getting from it because you will have taken it away from him. If it is the violence he gets off on chances are that without it he won't even be able to get it up!
You have to fight him in a way you have a chance of winning, if you hurt him physcially he will recover and you will be in even bigger trouble so fight him by taking away the reason he gets off on this behavior. He's a mentally disturbed man but if there is really no help in your country then this is the best way to go, psychological warfare you are stronger than him in that area. Find a way to get to your mothers no matter how many miles away it is, if thats a safe thing to do.
I'm not saying this is ok or you should accept it just that it sounds like its the fight that he actually gets off on. He's bigger and stronger than you so you won't win a physical battle and may get yourself killed. If it is the violence that excites him he'll lose interest if he isn't getting that until the poison kicks in! Get away from him somehow, there has to be a way! Good luck to you!
2006-08-09 10:46:54 · answer #3 · answered by dappersmom 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What should you do? Before or after the funeral? The only thing I'd be wondering is wether to bury his body in the back yard or the front. Next time he wants to be pleasured, take his entire you-know-what into your mouth and clamp down on it like a damn pit bull. Oh you bet he'll give that sh_t some thought next time girl. Trust that! On second thought, do you all have grits in your country. Ever heard of Al Green?
2006-08-17 05:34:30 · answer #4 · answered by lovelee1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are going to have to get away from this person or kill him. I suspect by now you are afraid of him all the time and desperate. Anything you attempt to do in retaliation may cause him to beat you unconscious first then rape you. No matter what tactic you use you run the risk of escalating the situation. I suggest you get away from this person but you may need help. I’m going to attach a web site that has an international list of women’s help sites; and hope that there is one in your country. Good luck and just know by the outpouring of suggestions that you are not alone. http://www.hotpeachpages.net/
2006-08-09 11:37:26 · answer #5 · answered by myramid 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a big sharp knife and hide it in the bed somewhere. When he starts forcing you just tell him you will go along. Then reach down and grab the knife. Stab him in the kidney area. It is non fatal but will cause him to loose 1 kidney. He has 2 so you're ok. This will cause incredible pain and he will spend time in hospital. Go to the hospital and put preasure on the injury. This will cause him to scream. Tell him that there is more of this if he ever does this to you again.
REAL MEN DON'T RAPE!!!!!!!!!!
2006-08-09 10:58:01 · answer #6 · answered by King Rob 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You must try to become very strong mentally, first. You have to know that this is NOT RIGHT AT ALL. You must believe that. Do not be afraid to leave this man. Get the life that every woman in this WORLD deserves. You have that right. I hate hearing situations like this. I don't know how hard it is for you to leave this man, but you must find away. I hope to God you can find away to get out of this. When you are free from this hell, that will really hurt him. If not, kick him right where it hurts when he does this and run.
2006-08-09 10:56:03 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sex is rape if the both of you aren't enjoying it and it is forced upon you. Does you family know that this is going on? I hate to sound callous and insincere, but sometimes you may have to lose something to gain much more. Is living in a house with a man who mistreats you worth it? If you work, you can support yourself or maybe return home. You are no longer a wife, you are property to him and that's why he refuses to respect you. Don't allow him to keep doing this to you or eventually you may build up so much anger, you may actually kill him and then there's 2 lives lost. Get out while you can.
2006-08-09 10:52:51 · answer #8 · answered by Angel Raye 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do not know what the laws of your country are. Hit him right square in the testicles as hard as you can. When he's down or throwing up...say you're sorry and all you wanted was some pleasure. When he starts to get up. Do it again. Then go and get your prepacked suitcases and have a nice day. No one should be forced to do anything.
2006-08-09 10:51:03 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you tried role reversal? Men always like the fight..take the fight out of him by forcing him for sex. If you dont think you can overpower him physically do it mentally...talk durty to him while he is doing it..he will take notice and bend.
Also you can wait til he is sleeping and tie him down with scarves or belts and force sex on him...if you are really agressive do anal on him with a hair brush and bite him on his chest lightly but just enough that he knows he has been handled when he puts on his shirt.
2006-08-09 10:46:29 · answer #10 · answered by TisTigressPurrs 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A man should never force a partner. I don't care where you live that can be classified as rape. I would report it to your local authorities. If you feel you can not report him then I suggest you bite it next time it is close to you - that way it will be to sore to do anything with - The Bobbitt method works every time.
2006-08-09 10:45:32 · answer #11 · answered by middle aged and love it 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋