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I have a 16 yr old whos dad moved to florida.just two months after we divorced. Which now has been 6 yrs.He skip 2 years of support.When he did finally pay they have to take it from his wages.As of right now he owes like 3,000 in back cause all he sends is his recent support to her.The two years he went without paying was like 10,000 he owed but the paperwork that DHR had they some how lost.Her dad never hardly calls her very seldom comes to see her.She wont go there cause her step mom dogs her mother alot.To the point,She called to ask her dad if he could send her maybe 25.00 extra aside her support and her step mom made the comment that ,Isn't that what child supports for?Is it me or does it sound like they only see her as child support?

By the way I do work And so does my current husband now

The Ex I dont want back ever!!!! And the has a 8 yr old with his current wife.

Understand I dont need his money ! The daughter ask for it.Both of them work and he doesnt pay any insurance on my daughter.

Answer 1

Honey they see her as a monthly BILL!!! Im telling you the truth on that. He no longer sees her as his child. I have a friend who is going through the same thing. Honey just let your child know that you love her and YOU will provide for her the best you can. Let her know that no matter what her step ********* says, youre a good mom and everything will work out for the better. Also, never dog her dad out in front of her...she wont like it ok. Peace and Love

Answer 2

I'm sorry to hear you are in such a difficult situation. The only thing is that as far as the back child support is probably not collectible, for 2 reasons "statue of limitations" and if the DHR has not record of him being behind, then it will be very difficult to back track.Second, Usually when there is a garnish or agreement to pay a set amount, this sets a new "standard" or rule for the payment. It make this the most valid, and current transaction. It doesn't really back track,but allows you to continue you to collect. The issue of him not seeing her is a sad and tough one,but in time your daughter will understand that "you" are her parents and that her so-called father just happened to be a sperm donor. It seems as though you're trying to provide as much as you can for her,but really try to get yourself into a situation where you don't have to deal with him at all. A bad father is worst than a absent father. G'luck and keep your head up. Also, in a final attempt to collect your back child support, contact your Dept. of children services and seek free legal consul.

Answer 3

Child support is just that child support. It is to help you keep a roof over her head and food on the table. The problem is that most parents that have to pay support think that it is for the extra stuff tat kids need. My ex and his sow were the same way. They think that they are hurting you but in the long run the only one that gets hurt is the kids. Maybe you will get lucky like I did! Now that my kids are grown they don't want anything to do with ther dad. And when asked they will tell you that it is nothing that I did. It is the way their dad behaved when they were kids.
Maybe you could talk to a lawyer, most give free consults. If it is in the divorce decree or some sort of legal document you cn get the back support. And you should have it ammended to where he has to pay as long as she is in school, that way if she goes to college it wll help.

Answer 4

Child support is for the care of the child -- food, rent, electricity, etc. When I was a child I never saw a dime of the child support. but I do remember the heat was on in the winter and the air conditioner was on in the summer. Every time I flipped a switch, turned on a water faucet they worked. When I needed socks, I had them. However, Dad bought school clothes, shoes, and paid for the extras Mom couldn't possibly afford. That's how child support should be spent -- to support the child.

As for the sperm donor, there are child support recovery agencies across the country. I think he owes you ever penny of his tax return.

Answer 5

It's not you. It may appear that they saw her only as a child support but give them the benefit of the doubt. There are a lot of emotional involvement as well as financial in this kind of situation. you might to talk it out with the father of the child. you can also consult your lawyer regarding this to legalized everything so that the step mom can avoid commenting on this issue, so she can see everything is fair. did she even know why your daughter asked for addtional? u can tell the father of the child if it bothers u and affects ur daughter. if not, just shrugged it off, she may just be a little insecure of the attention the father is givng the daughter. she may see her as a threat in the relationship that they have.

Answer 6

Child support is supose to help you out for what is missing not having a parent there, but many parents help above and beyond that, like buying clothes, or school supplies. This is also not present money or "fun" money. It should go to bills, and household expenses like his wages would if he lived there. Your daughter has every right to ask for money for herself, like an allowance but they can say no, since they are not legally obliged to do so. It really sucks for you and your daughter that he couldn't work things out financially and he didn't pay then so he has to pay now. He doesn't understand what it means to be a parent and maybe your daughter is better for that, her dad is a jerk and it will always be that way. Hopefully she can realize that and be better for it.

Answer 7

It may sound to you like all they see her as is child support, but I am a mother on both sides. Child support, whether it exists or not, can really be a driving force between families. I have a 10 year old son whom I get no child support for. My son hasn't seen his father in about 4 years and he can count on one hand how many times he has actually seen him. On the other hand, I also have a 14 year old daughter and was just recently served with child support papers. She lived with me for 11 years and I never received, nor asked, for child support. Now all of the sudden, her father sees how hard it is and wants child support. Here's the thing. I am going to court at the end of the month for a judgement which I will contest because I feel that it's wrong for me to pay him to take care of her when I'm perfectly capable of doing it myself, BUT... the court is not going to want to hear that. Basically, I'm going to have to pay child support for my daughter which really pisses me off. I think child support should be for those that don't want to be involved in their children's lives. Anyway, the money they are going to take out of my check every month ($640.00) is going to seriously hurt me, my son and anything I would be able to do for my daughter on the outside. I don't have that much to spare, or anywhere near that, so after I start paying, I'm sure there are going to be things that my daughter is going to ask me for (she's starting to high school next month) and I won't be able to do it for her BECAUSE I'm paying child support. I'm not saying that's what it's for, because c.s. is money to take care of the child's needs (not wants) and of course there are going to be extra things the child wants. I can understand why the father (or his wife) would say or think that. Child support is nothing nice. There is not a table that determines how much it costs to raise a child, rather it is based on your income which isn't fair. That means a person that makes $10.00 an hour will have to pay $400.00 a month. That person will make (gross) $1600.00 a month but have to give $400.00 of that to the child. That leaves that person with $1200.00 to live on, and of course it's less than that after taxes and insurance, because the parent paying child support has to provide health insurance for the child, which can be very costly. That parent may be bringing home around $600.00 after those deductions and asking for an additional $25.00 would be a lot of money to someone trying to survive off of $600.00 for all of their needs. Now, if a person makes $6000.00 a month, they have to pay $1500.00 a month, which doesn't make sense because it shouldn't cost more to take care of a child because the non custodial parent makes more money. So, it is possible that the child support payments the father is paying is really kicking him in the **** and he's bitter. Actually, it seems like he doesn't care about the child at all and may just regret having the child and is taking it out on her, or rather the step mother is. I know this is long winded but I hope that helped you some.

Answer 8

I think they just see her as child support. I haven't seen or heard from my father since I was like 3 yrs old and I am 18 now. That kills me everyday. Bc all my mother and stepfather did my enitre life was dog on my father. He is a very nice guy that I have found out from my grandparents. He had to leave bc of my mother. But back to your story. Its good to see your father every now and then. But don't make it where the chikd has to sit there and listen to the abuse from the step mother. I think its none of her business anyways.

Answer 9

Your daughter is viewed as a burden by her Father and his wife
Make an effort to work with DHR on the payments that are in arrears and be grateful for the current payments

Answer 10

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