I have a very volatile relationship with my girlfriend. She is younger than me by 14 years. We are either fighting or making love. It is the strangest relationship I have ever been in and I'm afraid it's not going to work. She is 38 and she has never been married and she doesn't have children. One time she had 53 cats. (This is not a joke) Now she just has two older cats. I have no idea if she wants to marry me. I'm trying to hold off as long as I can because I know it's probably the wrong decision, but I think about her constantly. I can't sleep at night when we're apart. She has never lived with anyone before, but I have been staying with her about 3 nights a week. She is the strangest person I have ever met, and she is totally unpredictable. There may be some mental illness issues involved. Please help me decide what to do?
2006-08-09 10:24:09 · 13 answers · asked by yamaha bassman 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Work out your issues before the marriage. Troubled relationships do not make happy marriages. If you truly love her, you may consider counseling first. You may be able to make this relationship work, but it will be hard. Be careful about a marriage with a woman you are uncertain of.
I hope you two can pull it together. It sounds like you really care about one another. Talk to her and see what her thoughts are. I think if you remember to communicate, the two of you will be ok.
Sometimes the most happy relationships are the strange ones..
2006-08-09 10:30:00 · answer #1 · answered by Spiked Coffee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well there are ways to float the idea past her, asking about how see feels about getting married and what she wants in life. You also might want to talk about counseling, going together, getting some counseling can really help figure out what the problems are in the relationship and if it even could work out. If you think it is the wrong decision it probably is, but probably isn't always so you should try. She has made a lot of changes in her life, so she must really care about you to be with you. I hope everything works out.
2006-08-09 11:02:53 · answer #2 · answered by Lady 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are the problems you're experiencing with her now ones that you would want to continue experiencing every day and in even stronger proportions? People do change, but often not in the ways you'd want them to. Is this person your only hope of avoiding loneliness? Is avoiding loneliness your main reason for wanting to get married? Are you afraid that if you break off this relationship you'll not find another one? I'd say that if you're asking whether or not you should ask this person to marry you, then that alone is a good sign that it's probably not a good idea. If you truly wanted to marry this person, you wouldn't bother asking for advice.
2006-08-09 10:34:48 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-09-29 02:31:32 · answer #4 · answered by lyon 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mental illness? And you have to ask whether you should marry her? Just because you think about her? I was thinking that you meant the illness was her!
2006-08-09 13:57:26 · answer #5 · answered by weddrev 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no i have the exact same relationship as u its ok but is hse the girl u cna see waking up to in 40 years theres how u decide make sure u love her to
2006-08-09 10:29:13 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's nice that you think about your girlfriend when you're not with her, but is it because you want what isn't there? It seems though that you speak negatively about your relationship. Are there any positive things about it?
2006-08-09 14:20:54 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey not everyone is perfect ...If you love her and she loves you then why not?...But be sure this is what you really want...you sounded like you have some reservations..But once you know in your own mind what you want then go for it
2006-08-09 11:15:26 · answer #8 · answered by Mrs. M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marry her, if it doesn't work, u can divorce her.
She is 38 and sleeps with u alone.
2006-08-09 11:11:35 · answer #9 · answered by Deejay 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
is she down for u?
maybe she needs on meds too
if ur thinkin its a bad idea than what is the rush?
if she is down for u n will do anything for u n ur heart n face light up when u see her then do what u gotta do .
2006-08-09 10:43:51 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋