Why does homeschooling upset people?

Question

We have decided that our children mean more to us than a second income.They are our children,and with the world as it is today,they need VALUES. Not the public school molding of a Corprate yes person. Not to virtually be raised by someone other than their parent's. The social argument is in my opinion only a public school parents way to justify themselves.

Thanks for all your answers. I was expecting to get bashed up and down the W.W.W. Peace Out!!!

Answer 1

jeepdog, I agree 100%. I think the social argument is brought up because there's little else to fight against. If a senior in high school can go tutor students younger than him, then there's little room to justify why a homeschooled parent providing perpetual tutoing can't teach her children. Some people have, I'll admit, met 'strange' homeschoolers in terms of social skills, but that is something very avoidable if parents take the time to cover that. The lone cases are used as though they are representative of ALL homeschoolers, which is simply unfair. That woud be like saying that ALL public schooled kids get involved in drugs because some you met the other day were.

James, there is no such thing as an unbiased view. Not even in math. One teacher or text says the answer has to be worked out this way or written in the notebook this way. Another teacher says that's wrong. Government-developed history programs are filled with the government's biases of what they feel is accurate even if there are resources out there that say otherwise. Studying a novel is often a guess what the teacher believes and wants event. There is no such thing as an unbiased view. Plus you are essentiually saying thast parents should not raise their children to grow up with the values they want instilled in their children, that parents should allow general society to be master of the raising process. Good Lord, it rings of fascist and communist states and essentially says that the Amish and similar groups should want to send their children elsewhere. Or that people sending their children to a private Christian school of a specific denomination shouldn't because their values are all pretty much the same. That's ridiculous.

Answer 2

I think it has to do with the social aspect of it. It seems that kids that are home schooled don't get the social interaction that they really need. Part of going to school (whether public or private) is learning how to socialize with other people and learning how to make friends. It seems to be difficult for kids who are home schooled. I have known some people who home school their children or have been homeschooled themselves and the one thing they regretted by being home schooled was the fact of no prom or after school activities with their classmates. I can understand why people homeschool their children though. But the lack of socialization can be a problem I think. lol

Answer 3

People feel threatened by what they do not understand. They make assumptions about homeschooling based on myths and hearsay. Also public schools lose money with every child that gets pulled out of the system. On average a public school gets $6000 a year per child. This is much higher in some states.

Answer 4

I applaud your decision to homeschool your children. I would have done the same for my children had I not lost my husband. As it stands, I find myself combatting the "social skills" my children learn every day in public school. They often run contrary to those that are tought in my home. At the same time though, my children are in a good school with teachers who appreciate what is happening in our home, and know that it is a major factor in thier success.
My opinion on why homeschooling upsets people is the simple fact that people fear what they don't understand. It could be homeschooling, it could be inclusion of special needs children in regular classrooms, or anything else that they don't get and aren't willing to take the time to learn.

Answer 5

I think homeschooling has its benefits, but not longterm. Homeschooling, speaking from personal experience, allowed me to work quicker and learn more a lot faster. My classes I took at a particular school just weren't cutting it, the teachers were garbage and the values and beliefs getting jammed down my throat didn't meet my or my parents standards. Taking classes half and half, some electives and sports teams at the school help maintain friendships and social interaction with others, and then taking core stuff at home helps to really excel in those subjects. Homeschooling is great but often kids grow up too sheltered and struggle at times with debate and interaction with others that don't believe what they do.

Answer 6

Society teaches us to follow the crowd. We are indoctrinized to believe that good education can only come from a school. By getting them in schools we can control them earlier and therefore, easier. Follow your own path and your children will learn to follow theirs thru your example.

I went to private Christian schools. Several that I graduated with became teachers - they were all near the bottom of our class. Why would I want people like them teaching my child? Think you're better off in private schools? HA - the ones that couldn't pass the state testing are the ones who could only get jobs in private schools!

The socialization question is a bunch of bunk. My kid socializes with everyone. Easily meets other kids in the park or library. Has a myriad of friends from our local support groups and easily talks with adults whenever we are out. This from a basically shy kid. The next time the socialization question comes up - ask them what is superior about kids sitting in an artificial setting with only kids their age and how that relates to the world we are preparing them for. Watch them squirm while trying to find the answer. It's actually kind of fun!

Answer 7

Homeschooling is considered a threat to the establishment. And I believe that home schooled kids do better in college than public schooled kids.

Of course that would depend on the quality of the content as well as the quality of the love.

Go get 'em.

The Human Mind Guy

Answer 8

I agree with you!!
If you havent noticed our school systems are going downhill!
Being raised by parents rather than institutions is far more important than a second income.
My children are in a Homeschool Extention. A community of people who work together to homeschool our children. lWe find they get alot from the involvement of other teachers/parents.
Its fun!

Answer 9

I don't know why homeschooling might upset some people, other than they think the parents aren't good enough to teach their own children. They are your kids, homeschool them and save them from the corruption of the public school system!

Answer 10

It is due to insecurities, guilt-feelings and jealousy. They feel insecure about their own parenting skills, or they are jealous that you have chosen your children over "yourself". Nowadays, parents are "selfish" and simply want their kids out at school or in their room or quite in front of the TV. So they feel guilty, because deep down, they know they are not spending the time with their children in a "good" manner. By that I mean the old-fashioned way, of teaching, guiding and directing their children healthily.