i mean we have the same needs y'all do. but from a guy's perspective, do you think more highly of us if we wait? or could you care less?
2006-08-09 10:18:15 · 16 answers · asked by alice k 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I would respect her more if she waitss. If she gives it up right away, I will hit it, but wont get serious with her....
2006-08-09 10:23:19 · answer #1 · answered by Tim 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a 27 yr old guy from LA, ca. Men want a lady on the streets & a freak in the sheets & I know its hard for you ladies to maintian that while puttin up with all the bullshit stereotypes and rumors that can go about if you are too sexy or too attractive or too much or too little of anything. Do what makes you happy.
They are hard to find but thwey are out there. real men that will wait for sex. yeah woudl it be nice to have early in a relatinship sure. But in order to have a more serious & lasting one, we want a woman who will make us wait. Doing so, will make the guy respect you more, & force both of you to get to know each other better. Delaying it will help you to work on the relationship more in the end lead to more something more gratifying: lovemaking. Sex is sex but when your heart is there, it's 10x better.
Hold out a whiel, if u want to tease a lil fine..but hold out...
Hope I helped
Chris
2006-08-09 17:36:39 · answer #2 · answered by shykaliguy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it’s far more important to be able to talk about your expectations from a sexual relationship before you have one, then worry about some time frame. If you can say “I’m really attracted to you and would like to sleep with you, but I need to know that you’re ok with the following…” and they give the right answers then I don’t care if you met them 5 min ago have fun and use protection. Any lady that I have sex with knows that they are not the only one and tomorrow I might be sleeping with someone else. They also know I’m not looking for some long-term relationship anytime soon. If their ok with that then off we go. I do not respect someone who doesn’t get what they really want because they fear other peoples opinion.
2006-08-09 17:43:25 · answer #3 · answered by Searching Dragon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay. Here is the skinny.
I usually had sex with women on the first date. Not always, but usually.
**All** of my good, long term relationships, I had sex on first date.
Sex on the first date means that there is sexual attraction and you had a great time.
I have never waited past the third date. In college it was a little different because we would "hang" out in the dorms for a while before we had sex - not really a date, but getting to know one and other.
I never went on a date with someone where I did not have a sexual attraction.
2006-08-09 17:26:18 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It really depends on the energy and the situation. You would not be viewed badly if we both wanted the same thing and could maintain a dialogue outside the bedroom. It's happened to me a few times where we kept a friendship going after finding a mutual physical attraction.
2006-08-09 17:37:53 · answer #5 · answered by westgaliberty 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm 30 and I guess it just depends on the guy. If you feel he is genuine and there is a connection, I say go for it. You only live once. However, having said that I would say the majority of guys will probably think you were too easy, and would probably resent you in the end. Best wishes.
2006-08-09 17:25:48 · answer #6 · answered by Mr. Mojo Rising 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It may not be right, but when men get it easy, they don't take it serious. We think, if she will do it with me that quick, she'll do it with any other guy.
So wait, it doesn't have to be forever, just around the third of forth date. At least by that time, you will know them a bit better, and will be better able to judge.
If you just want sex, and don't care for a relationship with him that's fine too, just be sure, it's what you want and need.
2006-08-09 17:27:03 · answer #7 · answered by johnb693 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in all honesty, i dont really care. Its the 21 century, times have changed and are still changing. And sadly, waiting till marriage to have sex has become a rarity and a thing of the past.
2006-08-09 17:28:14 · answer #8 · answered by rickysol82 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
An over 18 year old woman that waits probably has problems psychologically leaving her mother and acting as an adult. This is patterning from when she wasn't permitted to leave her mother as a child.
2006-08-09 17:24:39 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I love the sluts who give it up on the first night,but I married the girl who made me wait. We know you want it but when we have to wait its better, guys will think I'm a chump for telling you this but its true. How long you wait is up to you never on the first night.
2006-08-09 17:27:32 · answer #10 · answered by ColdHustle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would rather she wait, if she gives it up right away...there is no reason to come back again for me...I would rather get to know that woman then make the decision to persue her.
2006-08-09 18:16:28 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋