I had my wedding last year, we invited 100 people with an exception of 50 extra people just incase...Guess what??
we had 100 gate grashers... well after church on arrival at the reception the hotel had allowed them in...and so we had to pay for the extra costs coz the hotel manager wanted to creat a drama with that.and we finnaly paid to avoid embarrassments.
How would you have handled that situation.?
2006-08-09 10:07:05 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
An invitation is a ticket. No ticket, no admission. We actually had a bouncer that would stop people from coming in.
2006-08-09 11:12:22 · answer #1 · answered by Pappa Poopy 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Special invitations. Plan it out with the business, hotel in this case. What do they need so that we have only specific people at the reception. Leave it to the hotel to plan the procedures for acceptance, exclusion, and security. I would have insisted, that we are paying for 100 places, PERIOD. Send out the 150 special RSVP invitations, noting that there are only 100 seats, so the first 100 will receive a special ticket that will let you in.
Another tack is pay in advance for the space, the food, etc. and when it runs out, it runs out. Make sure the guests know that. This usually comes back to a special ticket or invitation. Each guest ticket is permitted the one or two drinks, for instance, and all after that are at the guest's cost. No special ticket? Then pay the hotel for the food and drink you request.
They've been there before. Sometimes it is as the Bible says, "You have not because you ask not." Sorry for your experience. But for the price of a hundred extra, it would have paid you to have a bouncer or something to check the guest lists periodically.
2006-08-09 17:29:10 · answer #2 · answered by Rabbit 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If a crasher didn't bring a decent gift, send them bill.
Consider taking the hotel to court. They should have allowed only who was on the list. The manager bears some of the responsibility here.
2006-08-09 17:14:59 · answer #3 · answered by Think.for.your.self 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would like to say that you were not responsible for those people that crashed your wedding. If you knew that they were not invited you should have made hell. If you have an amount of guests, where did they sit 100 extra crashers? This sounds weird. Anyway they would have to call the whole marine, army and navy to get me to pay them.
2006-08-09 17:53:39 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
very easely, first weddings are formal events thats why you send invites, secondly if the extra people didnot respond to their invite in a timely fashion they would have been asked to leave and the contract you had with the hotel/reception hall, called for x amount of people so that you could feed them, any one extra over the agreed amount of people...without first getting your approval,the hall/hotel eats that loss...see ya in court!
2006-08-10 01:08:14 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can't imagine having something like that happen.....how rude of those people to do that! I know you didn't want to deal with the embarrassment...especially on your wedding day. I probably would've done the same thing, then tried to get the names of the people who crashed and write them a nice little note about how rude they are. Then again, my mom is pretty feisty, so she would've gone around and kicked them all out. LOL Especially when a wedding is an expensive affair to begin with.
2006-08-09 17:14:37 · answer #6 · answered by Lilah 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No one has THAT many rude acquaintances; there MUST have been some confusion in sending out invitations!
How would I have handled it...? I'd have taken the manager aside, and told him to just charge everything to my account, and sort it all out the next day.
2006-08-09 17:41:16 · answer #7 · answered by silvercomet 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you really didn't have a choice, but I certainly would have taken it up with the manager outside the reception area. Did you contact someone higher up than the person that you delt with. Sounds to me like they owe you!
2006-08-09 17:41:53 · answer #8 · answered by Bluewillow 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not real sure if you have paperwork, and witnesses to attest to how many were invited and, those who witnessed the crashers.if you have the time &energy. and enough money is involved i would take them to court for the money!!..especially if they saw it wasnt part of your wedding guests!!..take them to court!!..if its not too much money..!!..let it go dont use that hotel again for anything and definitely dont refer anyone..i wish you the best.!
2006-08-09 17:35:05 · answer #9 · answered by donica85 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Say nothing and think you learn a hard lesson there. By the way it etiquette not etiquatte ok
2006-08-09 17:17:44 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋