My boyfriend left for abroad a month ago, and I felt lonely because I was gonna miss him so much. We call each other a few times a week, saying we love and miss each other so much. For me though, as the weeks went by, my feelings for him are gone. I dont know if it's because I dont see him anymore or maybe he is not the one. Should I break up with him or do you think if he comes back, the feeling will come back. If you think I should break up with him, how should I do it and what should I say?
2006-08-09 10:07:04 · 12 answers · asked by daydream♥believer 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
a long distance relationship can be hard 2 handle,..he is probably not the 1, even if the feelings come back when he does. If he was the 1, the feelings would still be there when he is gone. good luck. no easy way 2 tell him i dont think.
2006-08-09 10:13:37 · answer #1 · answered by juslookin 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
How long will he be abroad? If it's going to be a long time, suggest that you two see other people if that's what you want.
It could be just because you haven't seen him for awhile and that's why you don't have feelings. How do you feel when you talk to him? You say that you miss him and love him, but do you really? If you do, then I say that you wait until he is home.
But maybe you really don't like him, but only you know that for sure. Does he irritate you when you talk to him? Do you think about him when he's gone? How would you feel if he found someone else while he is away?
You need to really think about how you feel about him, because you don't want him to return and then you find out you still want to be with him.
2006-08-09 17:16:10 · answer #2 · answered by torn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know why but my first question to you is did you meet someone else?
If your feelings just went away like that then you didn't really love him at all. Love doesn't just go away. I have been married for over 27 years and I have had some bad times and my love didn't JUST go away.
I can't tell you if you should break up with him or not but you should look real hard at you and see if this guy is for you. I would talk to him and tell him what you are feeling. Always be honest and up front with people and then will do the same to you, at least you would hope for.
All of God's Blessings to you
As long as I am thinking of it, you should pray to God and ask Him what you should do.
2006-08-09 17:23:03 · answer #3 · answered by Fotios 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you should break up with him. I used to have a cursh when I was 10 in the 5th grade and I did everythg for him to notice me and you know what happened? At that sumer vacation, I realized that since I'm not seeing him anymore, the feelings go away and finally when I went back to school, I saw him and the feeling came back. As long as you stay in touch with him, the feeling is supposed to come back.
2006-08-09 17:13:33 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to your boyfriend, he might be feeling the same way. If the attraction is there when he gets back and the two of you have not found someone more suited for you then it will be. Life is to short to even waste time on this relationship. Life is much better when you are happy, not tring to figure out misteries as this.
Look inside yourself, you have the answer within you.
2006-08-09 17:15:41 · answer #5 · answered by cindy s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well yeah, u should break up with him because obviously you don't like him. If you really like your b/f it doesn't matter if u see him or not. When he'll come back just tell him that you have different goals in life and u don't like him anymore.He's not the one. Forget about him and move on.
Good luck
P.S. Go out more
2006-08-09 17:13:28 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think, you should wait and see if the feelings are back when he is back, if not u can decide to break up
2006-08-09 17:12:49 · answer #7 · answered by rockiee80 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should break up with him, if the feelings are't always there don't try to force them. Tell him you don't have the same feelings for him anymore.
2006-08-09 17:11:27 · answer #8 · answered by TooYoung4This 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wait for him to come back
then asses how u feel then
and if u still feel the same way
the best thing is to break up
all the best
2006-08-09 17:13:34 · answer #9 · answered by lovechild 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just remember out of sight out of mind
2006-08-09 17:11:46 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋