Should I have a baby if I haven't been at job for a consecutive year? Would like a good maternity leave?

Question

FMLA and paid time off is so confusing. I will be graduating from college in may 2007, and I don't want to wait much longer to try to conceive. My husband and I are getting more and more ready to start a family. In January of this year my husband had a reverse vasectomy, and we are excited to see if we will have success. It would probably be wise to wait until I have been at the future new job for a year when that new job comes along. It is so hard to wait. I don't want to make bad decisions either. Any ideas?

Answer 1

when i started my job i did not know i was pregnant . i know i was not there a yr so i could not get paid maternaty leave but i did get my 6 weeks to be with my new baby. so it all depends where you work and what the rules are . i suggest u ask and see what they say and go form there . hey why not wait 6 months into your job then try . atleast you will be a yr or more there by the time your bundle of joy comes along.

Good luck on the baby .

Answer 2

I don't know how long you have been at your present job and I also don't know the size of your company. (# of employees) I do know that when you decide to start trying to get pregnant It usually takes some time, especially in the case of reversal surgery. Only you and your husband can decide when to start trying to have a family. Some words of advice from a Mother of 3 and grandmother of 2. Each time you bring a child into your family, the dynamics of the family change. You are not just having a baby, you are signing up for 18 years legally and a lifetime in your heart. This child will be an individual. Make sure you and your Husband are in complete agreement on how to raise this child especially discipline. The consequences are devistating to the family as a whole if the parents are unable to maintain a united front. Differing parenting styles will not work.
As for your job and FMLA, Your company should have a policy manual that covers their policies regarding FMLA. If they don't either their too small and exempt from FMLA requirements or their not covering their butt when it comes to personel management. Last but not least, Life is whats happening while your busily making plans. Don't get to technical about somthing so natural. Have a little faith because for all intensive purposes, your not the one who decides when and if your going to have a baby anyway. Once your given the gift and responsibility of parenting You and your Husband are the ones that must decide how you are going to get through the next 18 years and stay together. My children are a combination of the best and the worst thing that I have experienced in my life. They fill my heart with unending joy and the pain is equal as I watch them struggle because of my shortcomings. The only blessing from my marriage to their father was having our children. Be very sure of Who you are sharing this responsibility with. I wish you and your husband nothing but the best.

Answer 3

I got pregnant 4 1/2 months after starting at my job and will still get 12 weeks maternity leave (4 paid) when I deliver in October because I will have been with the company for a year at the time of delivery. That's all that really matters so I think if your husband and you are ready to start a family and you feel financially stable than go for it!

Answer 4

You're not going to nail perfect timing on having a baby. What if you have trouble conceiving? What if you're on your new job 4 or 5 yrs. and still can't get pg.? I don't think there is an "ideal" time to have a baby, and if there is, how do you know you can have one at that exact time? Something to think about. If you really want a baby, don't waste any more time. You'll make it work no matter when it gets here. We aren't getting any younger as time passes either! I say go for it now, incase you run into road blocks, which happens often. Good luck

Answer 5

it depends on how you feel about this job. but really, there are other jobs out there. this is not your first and it won't be your last. if your job does not work with your family situation then it is not the job for you. if you and your husband are ready to have a baby, don't let your job or anything else stop you. I was at my job less than a year when I conceived, but the time was right for me in my personal life. I just had my baby, everything is fine. I was out on FMLA for 8 weeks.

Answer 6

Well since you are pregnant for 9 months, you only have to be at your job 3 months before getting pregnant in order to get the FMLA paid time off.

Answer 7

When I became pregnant with my first son, I had been at my new job for only two weeks, so I didn't qualify for FMLA. Thankfully I had a good employer who (even though they didn't have to) gave me the standard company maternity leave policy of one month paid. My doctor wrote a note saying I couldn't come back for at least six weeks post-partum (standard healing time for a vaginal delivery without complications) and they were cool with that and held my job for me. It was incredibly difficult to go back to work, but thankfully my sister watched my son for me for his first six months. Do you have a family member or close friend who could do this for you if you did have to go back to work after 6 weeks?

Answer 8

THAT ALL DEPENDS ON WHERE YOU LIVE (STATES HAVE DIFFERENT LAWS) AND WHERE YOU LIVE. I STARTED MY JOB AT 13 WEEKS PREGNANT (I DIDN'T KNOW, I JUST RECENTLY HAD A BABY) I ONLY WORKED TILL I WAS 28 WEEKS ( PUT ON BED REST) IT WASN'T PAID BUT I GOT THE REST OF MY PREGNANCY AND MY BABY IS JUST 15 WK AND I DON'T GO BACK TO WORK UNTIL MONDAY.

Answer 9

The decision you make will enhance your family. The Lord will not give us anything we can't handle. And I believe you both have already decided to have a child. Con grates!

Answer 10

no cause you will havve to by baby food ,diaperss,medincine,and more gfet a job and make sure you haqve a men a babysityter