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Everyone says I should report them but here's the thing. They really seem to be loving parents and I'm afraid that even if I report them and the authorities go to them and see what's going on that they won't see any harm being done. I mean most of the time when I see them her dad is hugging her before he goes to work. They are nice and caring parents but sometimes they are just ignorant to the fact that what they are doing (or not doing) could put their child at harm. What to do? I'm afraid reporting them would do nothing and if I report them and they don't find her in any harm I am going to be VERY mad.
2006-08-09 09:52:59 · 10 answers · asked by Ladybug 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
There house isn't trashy and they probably wouldn't find any signs of neglect if they went through it. Not to sound snotty or anything, but we live in a very nice neighborhood and not that we are but most people that live here (including them) are very well-to-do and take very good care of their homes inside and out. Sometimes we go for walks and pass by their house and you can sometimes see inside and see that it's very clean and tidy so they wouldn't find any signs of neglect if they searched it. I will just be very mad if they come out, see nothing, and then the next day the poor girl gets hit by a car or something.
2006-08-09 10:03:39 · update #1
Making a report will get CPS out. They will do interviews with the parents and the child, and probably the neighbors. They are very thorough in their job.
CPS can offer these parents a "Parenting class" as well. Counseling may be offered to them also.
If they find there is no harm being done, abuse or neglect, then the case will be closed.
If these parents have had involvement with CPS before (or continues involvement after you call) then they will be monitored for 3-6 months. If neglect or abuse continues, the child will be removed from the home.
You have an obligation to make a report, for that child's safety and well being!
If CPS does nothing on the first report, make another report later. Have the neighbors get together to make reports also.
The parents may love and adore this child, but they are highly neglectful of her!
Best of Luck & Get that child help.....ASAP!
CPS, by law, can not divulge who made the report. Your neighbors will never know it was you, unless you tell them!
2006-08-09 10:04:35 · answer #1 · answered by Regina R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, just leave it alone. The kids who run out in the street without looking and the parents who dont care both need to be taught a lesson. If the kid gets hit... thats life. If the parents get arrested, thats life too. You cant go around controlling everyone. At the very most, an anonymous letter in the mail like another said calmly stating your concerns sounds about right. Anything more and those kooks might retaliate. Why put you and your family in harms way?
2006-08-09 10:11:08 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here's what I would do:
Write them a long anonymous letter explaining what you're concerned about, and put it in their mailbox when they're not home. Maybe if they become more aware of the danger their child is in, they'd do something about it. Especially since others are calling them on it. Plus, with it being anonymous, it won't create the hostility that reporting them would.
Sad to say, but reporting them probably won't do much good. The police won't care, and Children and Family Services are so understaffed and overworked that they won't see much harm in this particular situation; there are other kids who are in much more danger than this one.
2006-08-09 10:02:48 · answer #3 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think spookbaby has a great idea!! I was almost going to say something to that effect but her idea is better. What would be the harm and it may clue them in that people are watching and this is making them look very bad. If they care that much about their home and are loving as you suggest that should be all it takes for them to wake up and smell the coffee. I was going to give you another suggestion but would rather email it than post it publicly, but, oh well. Good Luck!
2006-08-09 10:10:34 · answer #4 · answered by freespirit 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you could one time bring the girl back to her parents when she's out alone again doing things she better not do. Then you could explain why you bring her back and check how they react. If they are really just ignorant about what their girl is doing out there, they only can be understanding and thankfull that you warned them. If then the situation doesn't change, maybe you should report them to some organisation, but unfortuantely the situation must go very bad before they are legally allowed to do something.
2006-08-09 10:10:00 · answer #5 · answered by Caveman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to go with your instincts, if you report them you may feel better even if the authorities go and see that everything is OK. Then if something happens to her after wards you know you at least did something to try to prevent that and won't feel like you should have done something if you don't report them. You don't have nothing to loose!! Good Luck in your decision!!
2006-08-09 10:08:40 · answer #6 · answered by mammamia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's what you've got to live with if it's the case. They would search the home and see if everything is on the up and up. If there are any signs of neglect, the file would be opened.
2006-08-09 09:58:19 · answer #7 · answered by 1K 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-15 11:47:09 · answer #8 · answered by malinowski 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would go next door and tell the parents that you are concerned aboout their child running thru everyones yard....If they care then they will thank you ...if not they will tell you it's none of your business and thats when you call DFACS and make it your business.....If something were to happen to her and you hadn't complained then you would feel real bad although it wasn't your fault
Go with what your heart says
2006-08-09 10:06:38 · answer #9 · answered by Mrs. M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
listen to me if they were responsible parents they would not be living in a pig sty ok...it is unsafe for kids to be rolling in garbage not to mention sickening...you eithr do something about this or stop talking about it and turn a blind eye.
2006-08-09 09:59:36 · answer #10 · answered by Roxy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋