My brother has invited us (my mom and I) to his house to celebrate our mom's birthday. He has stated this is a "non-alcohol" event. Is that rude? It is my mom's birthday and she likes to drink?
2006-08-09 09:49:03 · 47 answers · asked by jenniferj47 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
It's his house... his rules. It's rude to insist on something that he does not believe in.
2006-08-09 09:52:52 · answer #1 · answered by Sir J 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
No that's not rude. It's your brothers house. It would be wrong if anyone did drink against his wishes. If your mom wants to drink then she can do it some where else. Just go and have a good time. You don't need alcohol to have a good time, and if you think that you do than your an alcoholic. You can use excuses like, but she likes it. But the fact is if you can't go without drinking your an alcoholic.
2006-08-09 09:56:11 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There may be more to it than meets the eye.
It might have to do with other guests who have been invited. If one or more guests are in recovery, alcoholic beverages might be too much of a temptation.
If there have been alcohol-related problems in a previous party, he might be trying to prevent a repeat preformance.
Furthermore, in some states the new laws hold the home owner responsible for guests who leave their party while intoxicated.
I would recommend that you talk to him, explain your concerns and listen to his.
You might want to suggest to him that he offer sparkling ciders, non-alcoholic wines, virgin drinks and other unique drinks so that the guests still feel like it is a bigger celebration.
The bottom line is that he does have the right to make the rules if he is hosting the party.
All the best to you and Happy Birthday to your mother!
2006-08-09 09:57:56 · answer #3 · answered by mgctouch 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I truly don't find that rude, your brother is trying to do something nice by hosting a birthday party for your mother and you have to take into consideration that this party will be held at his house. What one person find exceptable isn't always true for another. If your mother finds it offensive that he is asking for there to be no alcohol then she doesn't have to agree to the party, she can explain to him that she would rather have it somewhere she would feel more comfortable. But if she is willing to allow your brother to throw the party she should be considerate and honor the wishes of your brother and have no alcohol.
2006-08-09 09:56:12 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is rude to throw a party that the guest of honor would not enjoy. Let alone the guests. At the very least he could say BYOB, but by saying "non-alcohol event", it makes the situation very bizarre.
What does he have against alcohol? I would just bring your own, and see what he says. If he does not like it, go out for her birthday.
It is not his responsibility to ensure all of his guests are responsible drinkers. I assume everyone attending will be adults, and can watch out for themselves. They do not need a chaperon looking over their shoulders to make sure they are not drinking. It will be like high school all over again.
People need to be responsible for themselves, and not be controlled by your brother. If he thinks he is doing a service to his guests, I think he is sadly mistaken. Furthermore, I believe that the guests will feel insulted.
2006-08-09 09:55:03 · answer #5 · answered by Christopher 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well...maybe he said no alcohol because she likes to drink? Or maybe someone will be there who is recovering and it would be difficult on them to be exposed to drinking right now? Maybe he just doesn't want to be concerned about holding people's car keys or calling cabs, that's a big responsibility. There are lots of reasons why people don't want drinking in their homes. It's his house and he may set the rules as he pleases. I would graciously attend, bring a small host gift, and drink your coffee gratefully. You don't really *need* alcohol to have a terrific time.
2006-08-09 09:54:44 · answer #6 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does he have a problem with drinking? Maybe someone he is inviting has one or he just doesn't want the problems associated with drinking. Try looking at it from his point of view. He is throwing the party, so he gets to pick. Go, have fun, then go out and drink with your mom.
2006-08-09 09:54:00 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that is kind of rude because you mom likes to drink, but you have to remember that the party is at his house. His house - his rules.
2006-08-09 09:53:36 · answer #8 · answered by El Tigre 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Due to excessive drinking, I have been to several parties that have been alcohol free.
If Mom likes to drink and that is the only way she can have fun, then this should be a sign that she has an alcohol problem.
Your brother is throwing the party, then it is his choice.
I personally like the idea.
2006-08-09 09:53:57 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Y don't you tell him you want to have it at your house? Then you and your mom can drink if it is that important. Or, you could go there for dinner, ice cream and cake, then, make sure you leave and have enough time to take your mom to a nice bar for a few cocktails after your bro's?
2006-08-09 09:54:43 · answer #10 · answered by Brooke's Mommy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
His house, his rules! Besides you can always have a drink before and after. Not like you are going to be there for a week or two!
2006-08-09 09:55:29 · answer #11 · answered by suequek 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋