She will not eat or drink anything! She's looking pale, she hasn't eaten anything since Friday. What can I do?
2006-08-09 09:48:25 · 8 answers · asked by INDIVIDUAL 2 in Health ➔ Mental Health
Sweetie, you may have to take her to the hospital. If she is not eating or drinking anything, she is proably dehydrated. And that is dangerous. Please talk to her, and tell her she is scaring you. You may have to be ugly and rude to her, if you have tried sweet talk and love. You may have to tell her what would your Mother think if she saw you right now. Tell her you don't know how she is feeling because you haven't lost your Mother, you know she is hurting but she has to eat or she is going to end up in the hospital. If she doesn't respond, don't let it go too much longer because she got to have something to drink at least. Dehydratation can kill you! I don't want to scare you anymore than you all ready are, but this is serious...please talk to her, is there someone she looks up too that maybe could come and talk to her. To encourage her that her life is not over. As a Mother myself, I want my daughter happy! I have told her I don't her to be sad when I die, I am going to heaven...I want her to dress up, and bring me balloons for my send off. This wouldn't make her Mom happy, and you may have to quilt her into taking care of herself. She may even yell, scream, cuss at you,but it's her life we are talking about. So, don't to heart or be hurt by what she says because she's not thinking right now, all she's doing is hurting....If you can't anything positive out of her, call 911 and she may need some professional help to deal with the grief. There's nothing wrong, some people just need a little help now and then. I will be praying hard! Tell her you love her and you need for her to get better! God bless us all..............
2006-08-09 10:03:32 · answer #1 · answered by totallylost 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
How old is your friend? Just be with her as much as you possibly can for as long as you feel she needs you there. If she continues to refuse to eat/drink you may need to take her to your local psychiatric ER or regular ER. If she refuses to go willingly you may have to have her committed to a hospital against her will. That may sound harsh (it involves calling the police and explaining the situation and they then transport her to a hospital). It maybe the only way to save your friends life. Do what you need to no matter what it takes! Good Luck! You're friend is lucky to have you there with her!!!!
2006-08-09 10:02:21 · answer #2 · answered by PROUDJEW 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
People sometimes have strange or unusual reactions to death, just as some deal with it differently. Her not eating is a sign of her emotional distress and how upset she is. Although this is not uncommon, if she is still not eating in a few days, you might want to seek professional help because she could potentially become dehydrated or malnourished by not eating. My sympathies to her and I hope she snaps out of it soon.
2006-08-09 09:57:29 · answer #3 · answered by Reagan 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She is going through sorrow, so it's normal that she is like that now. It will take her a while to deal with her mother's death and go through the sorrow. The best you can do right now is to be there for her. Let her talk about it and spend time with her. With time she'll get back to normal.
2006-08-10 01:01:58 · answer #4 · answered by undir 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The only thing you can do for her, be there...just listen or just sit in silence with her...encourage her to talk about it, maybe encourage her to eat, at least something....but the best thing to do is just be there for her! Good luck..and sorry to hear about the loss.
2006-08-09 09:56:01 · answer #5 · answered by spaceyinla 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i have gone through 4 tragedies...the first week is one of the hardest, especially if it was a SHOCKING accident or whatever..thank God my family was alive at the time of my worst tragedy...be there and be there and be there for her and LISTEN, LISTEN, and more listen..BRING HER FLOWERS also..that will help!!!and maybe some See's candies...then she'll most likely eat a piece...good luck!!!
2006-08-09 10:09:04 · answer #6 · answered by sweet 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just try to be a good friend. Tell her it's not healthy and try to help.
2006-08-09 09:56:26 · answer #7 · answered by Macey 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Thhat is not for public notice. I am sure your friend wont like that,first of all.
2006-08-09 10:05:33 · answer #8 · answered by beezebee25 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋