American Families seem to have struggles caring for their elderly and having it be burdensome...there should be some way to combat this...
2006-08-09 09:43:06 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
To those who made really stupid remarks in answer to this question, may you have children who torment you, and afterwards rot in hell.
To those who have the heart and soul to care for their family, God's Blessings on you.
The elderly did not choose their fate, life handed it to them. Be kind and respectful as one day it will be you. Be patient, and loving, as you would want your final days to be. Give them something to smile about, a gentle touch, a sweet word, a kiss or a hug for no reason except that you want to let them know they are still a valuable part of your life.
Don't rush through this time in their lives or yours, as the day will come that you wish they were still here. All the would haves, could haves and should haves will haunt you the rest of your days.
2006-08-11 09:28:42 · answer #1 · answered by mamajo 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Taking care of your elderly family members at home seems best, but alot of them end up very hard to care for therefore they should go somewhere like a nursing home or assisted living center. People just dont understand its not that easy to care for them especially if they are bed ridden and are unable to walk and you cant leave an elderly person in a bed all day and think they are gonna be fine they need to be turned every 2 hrs so they dont get bed sores and stuff I work as a nurses aide and its not an easy job!
2006-08-09 09:51:39 · answer #2 · answered by Tammy 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I can answer that cause I'm doing it right now! My children are grown i'm a single young grandmother, widowed, attractive and youthful and now when i should be having the best years of my life{ i'm 57} I'm caring for a mom who in her 80's! I've had to give up alot to be with her and some days i just want to runaway and hide but there's always one thing that stops me! Then I remember! Who took care of "me" the first 18 yrs of my live?{ I left home at 19} I'm sure she made many sacrifices when I was growing up! I know there were probably many times she wished she could run away but she was there! Day and night! Oh i could leave her in a nursing home and "visit" once a month and go on with my life.but for now thank god she's doing well and can live by herself with my help! Someday, she made need more help than I can give her and i'll have to put her there, and when that time comes i'll be able to live with myself! I "know"although it may not be easy for me now, and it may not be what I want to be doing, I'll know in my heart that when she leaves this earth I did the right thing, and that my friend makes everything worth while!
2006-08-09 10:08:31 · answer #3 · answered by noditz57 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should care for the elderly just like when you get old you would like some one to care for you. You want to be feed they want to be feed to. You want a bath (and I think all people who take care of the elderly should read this one) you give them a bath too. I hate to see old people go dirty or hungry because one will take out the time to should a little love and affection towards them. I myself really have a soft spot for the old because I use to work for the Adult Protective Services, and I have seen a lot.
2006-08-09 09:58:05 · answer #4 · answered by Nita C 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The burden of taking care of an elderly family member is in most people's minds. We live in a throw away society. We need to be indulgent, respectful, and reverent when dealing with our elders.
2006-08-09 09:49:47 · answer #5 · answered by The Stranger 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Someone who the elders raised and loved and took care of needs to step-up. It should be an honor and a duty to take care of the elders in their last years.
Will it be hard?.....You bet your a**!
Some days it will make you cry.
Will it be worth it?.......Absolutely!
Not only because it's the right thing to do but think of it this way.
If your children see you warehouse your elders. If they see the "trips to visit" become shorter and done with less love.
What do you think will happen when you are the elder?
Children learn more by what you do, than what you say.
2006-08-09 09:57:52 · answer #6 · answered by judyblue_pa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not a big deal... just too many people don't want the elderly in their own homes as is customary in many other cultures. My grandfather lived with us until he passed and now my grandmother does as well. I wouldn't change a thing. If my parents (or my husband's) need to have assistance as they grow older, I'll be happy to provide for them as well.
2006-08-09 09:49:04 · answer #7 · answered by cgspitfire 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
By their family... I think the world has turned into a sad and selfish place since it started shipping old people off to homes just cos their families can't be bothered to care for them.
I won't be looking after MY parents in their old age of course... I'm far too busy
2006-08-09 09:47:12 · answer #8 · answered by miss_ruby_topaz 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ah, I love the elderly. Its safe to say I have more of a weak spot for them than I do for baby's. And I have a genuine soft spot for them. To answer your question, I believe they should be waited on hand and foot. If it wasn't for the elderly, a lot of us wouldn't be here today. Give them their dream whatever it is, let them have piece and enjoy their day's. God Bless Them
2006-08-09 09:49:15 · answer #9 · answered by Mr. Forbes 400 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It the person acts like they need medicla help then yes. But the safest way to deal with elderly family is to live near them and if they ever need anything, whether it is yard work or a place to live. Provide it to them.
2006-08-09 09:49:08 · answer #10 · answered by Jenny 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋